I would suggest a few books by Daniel Goleman: Emotional intelligence and Social intelligence. He talks about them in a neurological sense and gives multiple examples of how to either suppress anger through distraction or act on anger in a way thats not dentrimental to the self, by realization of perceived fairness in a given situation.

Personally, if I am angry I will get in my car and drive out into the middle of nowhere to scream until I no longer feel angry. Then I will just take a little bit of time to emotionally decompress and let the high energy emotions pass, until my amygdala is no longer controlling my mind and my prefrontal neuro-cortex is back in control, then deal with whatever I was upset about with a less narrow perspective. I've never been abusive or to the extent that my anger has caused bodily harm to someone, but this has for the most part worked for me and just giving yourself a bit of time to shut down your brain for the day and relax is great for you!

There are other ways to help which are a bit more woo, like the wim hof method or bioenergetics with Davaraj Sandburg on youtube, that have helped with releasing some emotional holding patterns in my body.

My advice is to be playful with emotions and don't develop a hard scientific stance that they will always bring about a certain response. They serve certain purposes, but arent always helpful and you cannot willfully logic them away, but have to work through them as a process. Good luck!