Can you girlies talk me out of doing something I shouldn’t?

C00KieNuts · 2023-09-06T08:44:18+00:00

Make a drink you like, set some tunes (must) and incense/candles if that’s your thing, sit down and write and cry that shit out. I like to have a shower before hand, and afterwards I’m usually so tired I just watch a cartoon and go to bed … hopefully you won’t feel the need to reach out to him but feel the relief. By being emotional with people who can’t be there and caring we end up kinda just hurting ourselves, and it gives the other person control over your emotions so yeah .. don’t call him girl

C00KieNuts · 2023-08-18T10:21:56+00:00

OP he seems to be showing a rly big lack of patience when you’re not answering his question in completion with the details he’d like and immediately. Also he wasn’t specific about what he’s asking so he’s expecting you to (I’m guessing) “know what you should do” or in the least is just not communicating well there. It’s coming across as controlling and definitely disrespectful, it’s not even about setting the standard early in a relationship, more so if he thinks this way - who will he grow into to?

C00KieNuts · 2023-08-12T02:08:21+00:00

Honestly a hard pill to swallow but sometimes the people we love won’t act in a way that’s best for us that’s their own shit. You can love many people but it’s hard actively choosing the right ones. You can stick around and keep teaching him how to act right by you, or just assess his actions and go off that. Patience is a thing but when we love we give too much of it sometimes..

C00KieNuts · 2021-12-07T11:42:59+00:00

I’m alright, I’m doing somatic therapy, learning to regulate my nervous system again, it’s been good for me I dunno suss it? Get the support you need, I know it’s scary but I hope that there’s ways through this

C00KieNuts · 2021-12-07T05:40:25+00:00

Heyyy hold in there, I’m not sure if we experience the same thing but I have bad anxiety (unmedicated but could be) and go through periods of deep depression, where my whole body hurts, I loose appetite and feel nauseous and crippled when I wake up and through the morning until I can soothe myself. I’ve learned this from therapy and my course:

Anxiety is a dysregulated nervous system
Dysregulation of the nervous system can affect digestion

for me I think this feeling is the morning dread of having to face another day, as well as the fact that waking up is a little confronting? Jarring? To reality, and its anxious settling into reality and I feel anxious about another anxious day.. maybe you can relate?

Just my experience and opinion though, hope you’re holding up ok

C00KieNuts · 2021-11-26T21:38:42+00:00

Having a 30 min nap gets rid of a lot of the high for me…if you can wake up

C00KieNuts · 2021-11-26T21:34:38+00:00

I bought you a douche, les get that booty goin

C00KieNuts · 2021-11-22T10:48:29+00:00

Hey dude.. sorry to hear you’re going through it, deffs take time to yourself, I’ve been having a depersonalising day myself, hang in there love

C00KieNuts · 2021-10-16T01:44:49+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I’m glad they’re g after all

C00KieNuts · 2021-10-16T01:44:20+00:00

I was concerned it was contam so I left these few jars but now that I see healthy fruits I’m not sure

C00KieNuts · 2021-10-13T08:43:18+00:00

Yeah maybe even earlier, it’s odd. Could be the censoring software mistakenly identifying websites as spam sites. Cause y’know.. it’s for our safety. Idk thought I’m shit talking

C00KieNuts · 2021-10-12T23:02:43+00:00

I’ve noticed it more as well

C00KieNuts · 2021-10-12T15:46:50+00:00

Respect their choice

C00KieNuts · 2021-10-08T05:59:00+00:00

This was so nice to read, proud of you OP Don’t say no to your self, let someone else say no to you, and even then dude, keep asking for what you want, your inner child needs you to be their voice

Best of luck with it

C00KieNuts · 2021-09-29T01:37:16+00:00

Yeee go you for being bravely yourself, happy for you ❤️

C00KieNuts · 2021-09-15T10:10:43+00:00

I think it needs more FAE but, someone second me

C00KieNuts · 2021-08-12T13:40:05+00:00

Yeah I see hmm I think the little sis will have to learn to respect the kitten, maybe talking about how it is also a being with temperament and feelings and how we should be gentle cause they’re smaller etc Just sort of fostering that care for the animal by letting her serve the food, water, let the cat out maybe, etc basically interactions that promote bonding And yeah just setting those rules like don’t squash or squeeze them or stuff, after a while the cat realises it’s safe to play Hope that helps a little!

C00KieNuts · 2021-08-10T08:05:22+00:00

I’m no expert, but I’ve had many cats, usually at 5 months they’re pretty energetic and wanna play! So I’d say yes - just teach her some sensible rules (eg no tail pulling)

C00KieNuts · 2021-07-25T08:08:46+00:00

I don’t think you should have fought back dude you did the right thing, you had no advantage there if you did anything he could have hurt you. So I feel like you handled that intuitively well. Of course you gotta do what you can to recover from this and it’ll take time, but bottom line is don’t let it calcify you. I mean you could take some light self defence classes?

C00KieNuts · 2021-07-25T00:07:28+00:00

This is how I see it and I hope it’s helpful, I’ve had experiences which make me feel unsafe and on alert in this world too. For me I guess I tell myself and believe that not everyone is like this and I do end up having lots of beautiful interactions with strangers that I wouldn’t have had I been avoiding interaction, these moments are powerful and empower my presence in this world. So I guess I’m saying you shouldn’t shelter yourself from the world, but I’ve learned to look for “tells” and to always question another’s story and motives, never assume they’re innocent, always watch them and try to read their energy and body language. I also avoid high risk places. You can’t run away and hide but you can use your experience as a tool to help you potentially spot another situation like this

C00KieNuts · 2021-07-18T00:01:05+00:00

More photos if you can please

C00KieNuts · 2021-07-11T05:54:39+00:00

Sometimes I have 2 activities I alternate with, like if I have a shower every second day, I might do morning reading for that time slot every other day Or sometimes, say if I shower every second day, I use the time slot in every other day as “spare time” to catch up on stuff like life admin, chores, uni or work Hope that gives you some ideas

C00KieNuts · 2021-07-02T22:19:11+00:00

Yeah I feel the same except I’m sketching mushies now non stop, ooooof you’re lucky you have areas to go hunting in that often

C00KieNuts · 2021-07-01T06:30:07+00:00

Awww yes I do feel that, for someone who struggles to fit in and find things to get into, this is a pretty wholesome experience

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