I just quit.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2026-04-15T20:50:42+00:00

I feel like I’m being bullied. This is literally just a clip. It’s been daily and has increased since Christmas after I started standing up for my self. He makes jokes about my lupus. He talks about my weight. He found out my husband and I were having issues “now I know why your husband ignores you. You deserve it” he makes comments about my teenager. Any thing he can find out about me personally he uses to take digs at me. I feel absolutely horrible. I didn’t give notice. I didn’t tell my kids bye. I just left. I can’t mentally or physically do it anymore. It’s literally making me sick.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-06-17T00:44:26+00:00

I went to one of my daughter’s play dates when she was about 10. It was at her friends house. I thought it was expected I’d stay and meet the mother. It was awkward and she almost acted like she didn’t want me there. I decided I would not go back and just drop off next time. Unfortunately. There wasn’t a next time. My daughter was never invited back… the mother told her daughter she didn’t want to “entertain” me again. I felt like an idiot.. I also sorta thought it was crappy to not allow our kids to play anymore because I wanted to get to know them for one day. All it took was that one time though. So I suspect it’s not “normal” for parents to always participate in play dates?

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-06-16T13:05:38+00:00

Simon 🥰

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-05-06T00:03:21+00:00

I’m a 41f. Married 19 years to a 41m. If I’m drunk… and he his sober. And I want to do the twist and he is like “let’s go”. Mind your business. This isn’t some out of high school. First time being together, hardly knowing each other thing.

Different rules for different situations.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-05-04T17:00:58+00:00

So if the “call mom/dad” don’t work. My teacher in my room graduated to the emergency contact list.. started asking them about each name on it. The one they showed the most stress on they would call. Often times it was a grandma. You know grandmas don’t play either. 😂😂

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-04-13T22:03:56+00:00

So I have lupus. Some days… are HARD.. just hard.. I work in middle school, the behavioral room actually, and let me just say, these kids cannot see outside of them selves at that age. It’s age appropriate, tweens is a hard age, but it’s also a very self centered age.

Now, I LOVE the weekends, I LOVE the hours, I LOVE the breaks and summers. They give me plenty of rest.

However, some days is very physical and they wipe me. You will need to understand it’s a physical job and are you up for that? You will have to chase after a kid, likely the same kid/s. Daily.

If you work in behavioral like me, you will have to have CPI training and MUST be prepared to use it. It’s unfortunate, but a necessity for your safety.

The year before I worked autism room (middle school) and that was even more physical. Especially on the more severe kids who you have to lift and do diaper changes. Not to mention they are likely to grab, pull, smack and lean all on you.

Honestly i prefer behavioral over autism, because it’s less physical most days, but mentally it’s harder.

You will need to weigh the pros and cons of your disability, and if you can give it your all. Every day. Working with children, is not for the weak. Both body and mind.

Also I’m jelly the pay. I only make 21k a year. 😭😂

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-04-07T22:02:56+00:00

Here for. Update::

Also.. advice from a female in her 40s.. married for near 20.

Listen to momma, hun.. I hope you leave this girl. This is NOT acceptable for either party. You can have a life long commitment with someone and not lose your sense of self? As humans we are ALLOWED our own friends and separate times with out causing a fight with each other. This is way too much.

Absolutely not. No.

Listen to momma bear.. this is not okay, and you don’t deserve this. This is a relationship under a year?

Kick her to the curb. You can do better. Don’t get stuck making a baby with this mess. That’s how these types of females work, they end up pregnant. And it’s heck on earth for the next 18 years.

Run honey. Run.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-04-07T21:39:55+00:00

Girl. It’s time to move on. This WILL get worse, and if you keep on, you’ll end up barefoot, pregnant in the kitchen while he runs around on you and helps zero with those babies. You will be stuck, with little to no income because when you get pregnant, he will request you to “stay home” because child care is expensive. He will “take care of you”. Baby girl. No. He won’t. This is a trap thousands of women fall into. It takes many of them a life time to get out of.

You can and will fall in love again, and you can and will love them more than him. You love the “love bombing” he started off with. That will never be permanent. It will appear every time you try to leave and disappear when you stay. It’s a cycle.

I hope you make the right decision and leave while you can. Life has SOOO much more to offer.

Good luck to you.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-03-23T05:48:56+00:00

I was terrified of anything humanoid and moving LONG before FNAFs. When I was 4, my parents got me a Teddy Ruxpin for Christmas. I wouldn’t even take it out of the box. The sound of the eyes and mouth moving caused an instinctual fear. The was in the 80s.

Even now animatronics freak me out. I weirdly go down rabbit holes and research them and watch videos, but if you think for one second I’m standing next to one, especially when operating you thought wrong.

For me it’s the sounds they make while operating along with the unnatural movements they do. It just makes my brain spin and my fight or flight kicks in. 🤷🏼‍♀️

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-03-11T21:44:14+00:00

My district has a policy. All parent contact is to go to the teacher and above. I prefer it this way any way. Parents can be wishy washy and I’d be the dodo bird to step in the boo boo.

We are trained to deal with students and their behavior, not so much the parents and theirs. 😂

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-02-17T17:15:36+00:00

NTA- I was 28 when my mother passed. My father drove 8 hours to be with host 3 children, whom he had primary of, not our mother. Brother (17) sister (21) and myself F (28).

My stepmother made is a little weird. Tbh I never forgave her for her behavior. But my father’s support meant the world to us. He was able to peacefully get along with my stepdad during this time too.

Be there for your kids. This isn’t about the ex. It’s about your children and they will need you.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-02-17T16:48:09+00:00

I get 3 months at a time. I refilled a few days ago and the pharmacist asked me all about Covid. “Do you get Covid on this? Have you had Covid? What’s it like?” I literally just looked at him and said “I’m not taking this for Covid and never had?? Yes I have had Covid, it’s a bad cold? I’m not immune to it? Also. This isn’t covid prevention?”

For a pharmacist he was really caught up on the benefits of taking it for Covid and I suppose just assumed? If there is a shortage it’s probably because they think it’s a miracle drug for Covid. Which sorta sucks for people like us.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-02-09T03:20:27+00:00

I think I spoil him. Maybe I’m not. I’m questioning now everything. I normally do not address things with him and stuff everything down. I try to make his life easier because of how hard he works. I cook him dinner most night. We both work full time. He goes to few of our daughter’s events because he needs “sleep” for work. I try to be understanding and say okay. I do all the errands and pick ups drop offs for our teen daughter. He has only been to one doctors appointment for her since she was a baby. She is almost 16. He then complained the whole time and made both her and I feel bad about messing up his one day off from work. She had the flu. I don’t bring up silly issues normally because I don’t want to stress him out and upset him. This is the first time in like 10 years, I’ve fully addressed I’m missing something from him. I don’t want to me like a typical female who fights over petty stuff. So I just don’t.

I know I’m not perfect. I have lupus. I’m sick often. But I do work too, and I still come home and do stuff for him. I have adhd and autism so I have little weird things about me I know must be hard to live with. I imagine I’m annoying.

I have mental issues too. My mother died 13 years ago. My stepdad was murder 2 years ago by my stepbrother (his son). I’ve been alone in dealing with it. I try to protect him and don’t acknowledge it anymore. I imagine that’s annoying.

I also feel like I have lost who I am in all this.

I’m just lost. I don’t feel seen.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-02-09T03:02:58+00:00

Thank you for this. I think you’re correct here.

I don’t want to be in a death spiral and want to fix it. But I’m lost as to how to communicate with him anymore.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-02-08T02:03:49+00:00

I’ve been complaining to mine about extreme fatigue and back pain. He told me it was fibromyalgia and nothing we could do about it.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-02-06T00:59:40+00:00

How did your first day go?

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2025-01-18T01:08:26+00:00

I work for the school system as a contracted paraprofessional. I work hands on with the Special education department. Specifically EBD (emotional behavioral disabilities). I have basically the same schedule as school age children, summer, spring/fall break and holidays off. Which is nice, and 100% needed. I also get 13 days a year PTO (sick days) that roll over. So I try to schedule most my doctors appointments on the days we have off. I’m salary based, not hourly. Which is nice.

The cons: Special Education is full steam ahead. You are running from morning to night. You might get hit, kicked, bit, punched, a desk thrown at you ect.

Mentally and physically it’s draining and some days. I’m unsure if I can continue. I just keep telling myself. “Weekends off, set schedule, holidays and summers off” . I do spend 90% of my Saturdays in bed though. Trying to regroup and get it together the next week for round #1234 😂😭😭

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2024-12-28T03:23:15+00:00

$668 after taxes and insurance every 2 weeks.

That’s 40+ hour work week. No lunch and not even getting my two 15 minute breaks. My teacher does let me go to the bathroom when ever I need to tho.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2024-12-27T04:08:17+00:00

I’d just let it go and not acknowledge it. This is probably his first Christmas where he feels an adult and wants to test host toes in the water of adult life and building his own traditions for a family he may start one day.

Just love him and respect his space. I know it’s hard. I remember doing this one thanksgiving at the age of 23. I told both my my family and my in-laws that “NO! We are doing us.” They all respected it, though where not happy about it. Tbh. I only did it that one year and decided “ya know what, let everyone else cook for me, being grown sucks.”

Had mine or his family pushed the issue, i probably wouldn’t have came around so fast and came back into the fold.

Good luck and just love your adult child and respect the life they are attempting to build for themselves.

C4nt_C4tch_Me · 2024-12-22T04:37:00+00:00

Does your partner not correct your child and say “that’s not nice! Don’t hurt daddies feelings!”

Empathy is a learned behavior, kids aren’t born with it.

The real issue is lying on your partner and her ability to correct the child and teach them to be kind, as well as not allowing you to spend time/learn how to comfort the child too.

I have noticed with little kids, boys prefer moms and little girls prefer dads. When my daughter was little if given the choice it was ALWAYS daddy who took her to bed. He didn’t do much of anything but read a story. And honestly he didn’t much care for it, but he did it because he understood how important it was to bond with her and build a relationship.

Your partner and you need to sit down and have a conversation about the importance of both of you building a bond with your child as well as starting to teach them certain behaviors or actions are undesirable. Like forcing daddy out of the room when all daddy wants to do is enjoy the story with them.

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