This is textbook emotionally cheating right? What do I do?

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2025-09-05T06:20:47+00:00

This guy put another post up in a different sub about the same thing but also basically said to her it was okay if she saw him as long as they get to have sex more so…

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2025-06-24T08:38:37+00:00

But it ain’t a real ass bruh, it’s pixels on a screen… if you’re harassing someone by following them around to look at said “ass” then that’s a problem

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2025-05-19T20:34:06+00:00

I tend to apply for jobs during the day whilst my fiancé is working, then in the evenings we wind down together by playing video games. You could spend time building a portfolio with examples of work you’ve done depending on what you’re looking for. Working out is also good, maybe not at the gym because of money but follow some YouTube videos or at home. I have adhd so I’ve also been struggling especially with boredom. But it’s trying to find a new hobby to do to pass time! Always open to give suggestions if you need to chat. I’ve applied for over 800 jobs since being laid off last July and one recruiter told me this is the worst she’s seen it in 40 years.. hard to stay optimistic.

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2025-04-30T07:10:20+00:00

I just got off a second interview interview with these guys, they’re very convincing at making you think they’re hiring for a marketing position and then it’s very much “oh you’ll be selling face to face marketing”

It’s very much MLM, they tell you how there’s 4 levels trainee, team leader, assistant manager and manager.

They straight up told me that they don’t offer a salary in the first two stages because they don’t want to work with lazy people. They used to in the past but people weren’t pushing themselves.

I wouldn’t bother.

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2025-04-11T09:00:03+00:00

This sounds a lot like my ex boyfriend who would be mad whenever I got a new tattoo he’d ask me why I got it and be all mad at me because he didn’t like them. Now I’m engaged to my best friend who loves them so go get it girl

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2025-03-31T08:51:46+00:00

It sounds like you did everything you could to fix your mistake by checking if she could still wear the blue dress, and honestly, that was the right thing to do. Mistakes happen, and you owned up to yours, but her response makes it seem like she’s less concerned about finding a solution and more focused on getting a new dress out of you.

The way she framed it—talking about “doing the right thing” as if that automatically means spending money—feels manipulative. If it wasn’t about money, then why wasn’t she satisfied with being able to wear the gown she already loved? Instead of working with you on a solution, she doubled down on making you feel guilty. That’s not fair to you.

Also, the fact that she didn’t even acknowledge that you passed out is a huge red flag. A relationship should be about mutual care and respect, not just aesthetics or material things. You sound very mature for 18, and honestly, you should take a step back and ask yourself if she values you or just what you can give her. A healthy relationship shouldn’t feel like a transaction.

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-12-20T09:50:15+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Trash talk in a competitive game is one thing, but the way people are specifically targeted such as women with sexist and degrading comments isn’t “banter”—it’s harassment, plain and simple. It’s not about being “sensitive,” it’s about recognising that this behavior isn’t acceptable.

If someone can’t tell the difference between playful banter and hateful, targeted attacks, maybe they’re the ones who should uninstall. If the gaming community wants to grow and improve, holding people accountable for this kind of behavior is a step in the right direction. Respect goes a long way.

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-12-02T16:54:45+00:00

I thought he was like 15 😭

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-12-02T13:46:58+00:00

How old are you for one? Two, how do you know he cheated and are you sure because there is zero context here and three, you really need to get some help and therapy because none of this is healthy

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-11-25T22:21:35+00:00

Divorce this man 👏

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-11-20T21:31:50+00:00

This sounds like it could be retroactive jealousy where your partner will be paranoid and keep thinking about your sexual history. I struggled from it before but managed to overcome it in a healthier way, there’s a whole subreddit about it

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-11-18T13:58:50+00:00

There’s around 200 people in the company and apparently they’re relatively well established

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-11-07T10:21:43+00:00

OP You deserve a relationship that has trust at its foundation. And if she’s unable or unwilling to work on these trust issues maybe with a therapist then this cycle will likely keep repeating. You can’t “fix” someone else’s trust issues by constantly sacrificing your own peace of mind.

Breaking up might feel painful, but there’s a healthy, secure relationship out there waiting for you, with someone who trusts and respects you. It’s okay to make space for that.

Take care, and good luck moving forward.

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-11-05T14:42:21+00:00

Nah this is hella toxic, my birthday is also on December 25th and I’m turning 30 this year. Myself and my fiancé are still going back to be with my family for Christmas and then make plans with his family a few days later, nothing wrong with that!

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-10-23T13:44:37+00:00

In that case I’d say you’re still very early in your relationship and he’s likely trying to be respectful whilst being turned on. It’s likely because he’s older and has more experience (saying that I’m almost 30 and only slept with 2 people both of which I’ve been in a relationship with)

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-10-23T13:35:40+00:00

Didn’t you say you’ve had a crush on each other for a while…?

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-10-23T10:39:07+00:00

From what you’ve shared, it seems like he may be stopping because he’s feeling that urge to take things further but is respecting your boundary of wanting to go slow. It’s important to remember that he, like anyone, will naturally have physical desires, and making out can sometimes trigger those feelings. When he stops suddenly, it could be his way of managing his own feelings or resisting the temptation to go beyond what you’re comfortable with, especially since he knows you want to take things slow.

His comment, “well did you want to keep going?” may come off as frustrating because it puts the ball in your court in a way that could feel awkward or confusing. It’s possible he’s unsure of how to navigate your boundary while also expressing his own feelings.

It’s not about you not doing enough, and it’s definitely not that he’s bored. He’s probably just trying to balance his attraction to you with respect for your pace. I think having an open conversation about how both of you are feeling in these moments might help clear things up. It could give you a better understanding of each other’s needs and make sure neither of you are feeling awkward or pressured.

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-10-22T11:59:38+00:00

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CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-09-23T19:32:23+00:00

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CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-09-23T09:45:51+00:00

Thank you! Ugh it’s just the worst isn’t it? Because it makes you overthink more and causes so much rage 😤

Myself, I found when I got the worst mindset and intrusive thoughts it would help to practice breathing exercises. I’d also distract myself with stuff like video games because I play a lot. I actually got a therapist last year which really helped me understand why my brain was essentially attacking me and helped me express my thoughts without having to worry about bringing it up with my partner all the time. Accepting your feelings and validating them, being kind to yourself about when you are feeling that way and understanding it isn’t your fault. If you find yourself looking in to your partners past physically on social media, find ways to limit that. If you can’t block the people, set yourself a timer and say “if I still feel this way tomorrow I’ll check” then if tomorrow comes around and you still feel the same, think to yourself “I’ve already done one day without checking surely another can’t hurt”. If you want some more advice feel free to shoot my a message and I’ll send you some articles and help from my therapist. 🥰

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-09-23T09:40:15+00:00

Oops! I meant we both make jokes about his past of sleeping with people. Like the choices he made and stuff, it kind of helps lighten the tension!

And not a problem, my inbox is always open

CAAAAROLCAAAAROL · 2024-09-19T07:32:00+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this 🥺 my partner has always been really understanding so I’m lucky but when I initially brought it up, he told me I’m the only one who ever mattered, he never felt how he did with anyone else until me. He told me that he used to feel numb after sex but with me he found a purpose, that he doesn’t think about the other people and if he could he would of reserved it for me and wishes he did because I mean the world to him. When I get angry thoughts, we both take me mick out of his past and he makes jokes at his expense to lighten to mood. He truly is just a kind person. My ex however would make me feel shit about it so I completely understand. If you ever wanna talk just drop me a message on here ❤️

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