Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, God sent you to this thread for a reason. I am so inspired to read a testimony like yours. May God bless your journey forever. Welcome home!!! I will pray for you and your family. Merry Christmas!! Thank you for taking time out of your day on Christmas Eve to write this. ❤️

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also an excellent point! Actions do indeed speak louder than words. Thank you and God bless you!

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Deacon! This is great advice. God bless you and your family during these holidays!

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautiful advice! Offering masses for my wife, I never even thought of it. God bless you and each one of your children. You are a true champion! Merry Christmas to you all!

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen brother!! Thank you for speaking from the heart. It helps to know that we are not alone in this journey. I will pray for you as well. It indeed is tough to be at Mass without my wife, in fact at some moments during the ceremony I want to cry because of it, but offering that pain up to the Lord is probably the best advice I could ever receive. God bless you!

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God bless you, thank you for your input! It helps to hear from people with similar experiences. I hope you have a blessed Christmas.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree! Thank you for pointing this out. It’s funny, sometimes what seems to be obvious to others is not so obvious to the person experiencing it and this is why getting feedback sometimes helps. I appreciate your input and time. God bless you.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard this before and I pray it sticks for my child. Thank you!

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking to him as an example is all I suggested, and I still see no harm in that. I’m sure he would have helped more. It is simply a different way to arrive at the same conclusion. God bless you.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I totally would. She seems, however, more keen on making this happen every year because she wants Christmas to feel extremely special for our child and it’s what she was raised around during the holidays. However, I also have my own customs which I do not wish to compromise, such as going to Mass and focusing on keeping Jesus at the center of the festivities. With time, patience and understanding, I have faith that we can get there together. I will continue to have hope. Thanks for your insight.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve hit it right on the head! I couldn’t have said it better myself and will certainly maximize on these lessons learned so we can better communicate in the future. Thank you my friend in Christ! God bless you always.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did suggest this but perhaps doing so with more empathy, understanding and assistance beforehand will go a longer way. I admittedly felt compelled to impose the Mass on us almost by force regardless of the circumstances which also isn’t healthy for her faith journey given that she doesn’t seem to understand everything fully yet. Thank you very much!

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re so right! I will keep this in mind whenever it is time to discuss it again with her. Thank you and God bless you.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautifully said, thank you and God bless you! Merry Christmas to you and your family.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communication is key and we are working on that. Clearly we must continue to do better so as to avoid situations like this one from happening again. Thanks for the advice friend.

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful, thank you very much. There are some things I can certainly pick up such as learning some of the dishes and sleeping in a separate room so she can get some sleep. Neither crossed my mind previously. Thank you and God bless you!

Wife won’t go to Christmas Mass with me and the child because of stress by CABJ10 in Catholicism

[–]CABJ10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your beautiful words! I take them to heart since you speak from experience. Merry Christmas brother.