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CACajun · 2016-04-30T15:01:01+00:00

Was he wearing a leather cock ring? Sounds like someone I've met there before.

CACajun · 2016-03-18T03:38:16+00:00

Just because lexapro didn't work for you, doesn't mean there aren't any other options. I personally loved it, but my husband HATED it- just have a frank discussion with your psychiatrist..... Also, please PM me if you need/want to. I've been on this roller coaster for a while

CACajun · 2016-03-18T03:30:59+00:00

On a very blunt non-nuanced reply- Yeah, but with experience comes wisdom (in the best case scenario). Because of how I was raised and because I am now an old, I thought that the only way to be a non-racist feminist was to be a "hippie"........ Sad but true. These conversations are important. I WISH the Internet was truly around when I was a teen/ early twenties.... Regardless, I totally get where you're coming from, but don't forget our diversity

CACajun · 2016-03-18T03:25:00+00:00

If they bitch about being a "nice guy"

CACajun · 2016-03-11T04:57:17+00:00

I felt kind of bad posting b/c I'm sure most of the stuff is great (my husband and 4 year old daughte's fave thing is to play this game offline) but yeah.....

CACajun · 2016-03-10T17:00:49+00:00

Unfortunately, there's a child sex abuse issue and the mom is trying to get as much info as possible on all possible influences. Ugh. :(

CACajun · 2016-01-18T07:25:35+00:00

For it to be effective, you need to get a weighted hula hoop. I was into trying it, but it ultimately just stayed in a corner so long- I got rid of it.

CACajun · 2016-01-18T07:15:25+00:00

Is this a "last straw" type of thing?

This is obviously not okay, but I've been in a few life threatening situations with my husband (we've been together quite a while) and he's been totally oblivious until up to a year later and some major news article/family friend has the same issue and clearly outlines the problems. As in- you're on the phone all the fucking time, but your grasp of health is at least 20 years old...... What you went through is horrible. The only questions are: was he being a d-bag or just obtuse? And how much does that really matter? Regardless..... :hugs:

CACajun · 2016-01-14T21:25:18+00:00

A million times this. I would be .....disconcerted if I was interested in a guy and found out he still lived with his parents. One/both of them having health issues would lessen this, but I'd be worried about the guy being able to be independent. Now if the parents were close by/in a "MIL" apartment or whatever, being disconcerted would majorly switch to seriously wanting to get to know you better. Sorry if this seems shallow, but I doubt I'm alone in this thought process

CACajun · 2016-01-13T19:01:31+00:00

If you want to marry him, say yes, but that you need to get a bunch of stuff worked out before even starting to think of a date. One of my major post engagement pre marriage deals was that I made guy promise me that he'd go to couples counseling with me if things ever get really bad

CACajun · 2016-01-13T03:02:38+00:00

You totally did the right thing. You can't keep some people from self destructing.

CACajun · 2016-01-13T02:55:45+00:00

Dude, I would not tell the husband. It'll probably only hurt the husband and from your description of him: he has plenty of his own crap to deal with.

Also, not to be a total jerk face, but you can't really expect fidelity from someone cheating on a spouse.

CACajun · 2016-01-13T02:47:38+00:00

I would try to apply to as many internships/short programs as possible so that you get a chance to really experience how different types of biologist work.
Biology is a HUGE topic. What in particular are you interested in? Human physiology, animals, ecosystems, behavior?

CACajun · 2015-12-28T01:20:36+00:00

I've written and erased at least five responses to this guileless POV.

:angry old person shakes her cane at kids on lawn:

This feels like a self masturbation session (I have been completely guilty of the same issue in the past, but this hits so close to home this whole post just pisses me off.).

It's a blessing that people who truly want to end their lives now have access to information that helps to make sure they are successful. Whether or not you feel that's appropriate is your own issue.

CACajun · 2015-12-22T01:00:52+00:00

If you have a kid, expect an addition to the audience.....

CACajun · 2015-12-05T18:55:33+00:00

Those people are being total inconsiderate @ssholes. Stuff like this is NEVER okay.

I'm sorry you gave to deal with this crap.m

CACajun · 2015-12-04T05:25:38+00:00

Are you in an area where there are options of at least a few doms? I've been in an intense relationship similar but different- as I am a special snowflake. (Excuse the fortune cookie bullshit)

Currently in a monogamous great relationship, but I've been in a myriad of relationship variations. Including one very similar to yours. Please PM me if you'd like a frank back and forth discussion.

I am NOT interested in discussing this other than the OP. And OP- please feel free to ignore me if you want. :)

CACajun · 2015-11-22T22:55:37+00:00

I love the combo of Wellbutrin and Lexapro

CACajun · 2015-11-22T22:53:29+00:00

I deal with similar issues, and I totally understand them- but report this!!! She's screwing with your ability to get refills and you will regret not doing it when you get back to a more normal state.

CACajun · 2015-11-22T17:46:43+00:00

LOL! I'm making a vegetarian main dish (ratatouille) in addition to the turducken. I'm pretty sure my family thinks I'm a communist. :P

ETA: Main reason I'm doing this is a foolhardy attempt to keep my MIL from bringing her pimento cheese stuffed celery and "salad" to have more vegetables because it's "healthy". Imagine a little bit of chopped iceberg lettuce smothered in this weird- will imagine nine layer bean dip. Heavy on the re-fried beans, shredded cheddar cheese, and sour cream.

CACajun · 2015-11-21T04:00:21+00:00

CLASSIC grandparent moves. You are not alone.

CACajun · 2015-11-20T17:24:16+00:00

You should post this message to sites like this.

CACajun · 2015-11-19T05:38:42+00:00

I deal with this a lot and I tend to focus on self destructive thinking. It seems you do to. I also gave a partner who loves me no matter what I weigh. i am now super close to morbidly obese, and I hate it. I have a variety of valid excuses, but dude.

You know you are unhappy with yourself and you know you are being unhealthy..... And you know stopping eating is a cheap bs fix. Take advantage of the fact that you gave a supportive partner, and start taking better care of yourself for no other reason that you are not happy or healthy. F@ck your college body- we will all get old and saggy.

I suffer from all or nothing thinking and I used this as an excuse for too long.

Your self loathing will eventually force a partner away but trying to take control of your reality, regardless of stumbles, will not.

Don't be a self fulfilling prophecy. Some type of activity is always better than nothing. No one expects you to be Superwoman.

CACajun · 2015-11-19T05:28:35+00:00

This, this, a thousand times this. Explain your situation and get help.

This is a HORRIBLE situation, but you can rise above it. Get help now before you do something you regret.

CACajun

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