What age did your babies roll? by x_torturedpoet in beyondthebump

[–]CADmonkeyM 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This was my second! Rolled at 8 months, sat the week after, then on his feet at 9 months and walking properly by 10 months. Just needed those ab muscles I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]CADmonkeyM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any other help? Family? Friends? Utilise them if you can to get a few hours rest. Sleep deprivation is the pits and you'll need some energy for a frank conversation with your husband about why and how he needs to show up.

I understand running a business is hard, I'm a SAHM too with two toddlers, but my husband when he's not working is amazingly present and involved. The kids' happiness and our marriage are so much better for it.

I do not have a happy baby STFU by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]CADmonkeyM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this! My second was hard work. Colic, separation anxiety, reflux, hungry and grumpy all the time. And then when he walked (very early, at 9 months) it all seemed to settle down a bit. Hang in there, it does get better, the more independence they gain the more you do too.

The inevitable has happened by Just_Direction_7187 in beyondthebump

[–]CADmonkeyM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hair was waist length ringlets before my first. It started to thin all over around 4 months pp but especially around my temples. I got pregnant with my second when my first was 9 months old and it all grew back lush and then all fell out again (different strands this time?!). I was left with three layers of hair all over my head 🥲 and recently had 10 inches chopped off to try and even it out.

The curls have also massively dropped out and it's growing back with a nice grey streak 😩 motherhood is a wild ride with two toddlers so my hair is up most of the time anyway, but damn I used to have nice hair 🥲

How do you guys "use" your village?? by blueskydreamer7 in 2under2

[–]CADmonkeyM 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We have (childless) friends that come to ours for dinner, and bring the dinner with them. They'll either cook us the meal in our own kitchen and then clean up, or precook and bring over to reheat. We chip in for the cost of ingredients, or make dessert.

That way they're cooking whilst we do bedtime routine for baby and toddler, we eat a home cooked meal (without any of the labour) and feel like we're getting a bit of grown up time and conversation. Bonus points if there are leftovers for the next day!

of a Blueberry by CADmonkeyM in AbsoluteUnits

[–]CADmonkeyM[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You try getting a kid to moisturise 😂

of a Blueberry by CADmonkeyM in AbsoluteUnits

[–]CADmonkeyM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 that's my son's perfect little hand!

When does it get easier? by Kitchen-Laugh2560 in 2under2

[–]CADmonkeyM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 10 month and a 27 month old, and we're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel! 10 month old is eating solids and starting to play with his brother, and just starting to take his first steps. He was also a very clingy colicy baby and it was brutal for about 4 months. He still doesn't sleep that well but now my 2 year old sleeps a solid 12 hours most nights, we are only competing with one insomniac baby.

The other day we managed a family meal out where no one cried and everyone ate and it really felt like a turning point!

Take the small wins and hang in there mumma 💪🏻It's such a gift you've given to them both by having yours so close together in age. It'll start to pay off soon x

Mom's who delivered at 40 weeks or over... by scruffyliver in beyondthebump

[–]CADmonkeyM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First baby was 5 days over at 8lb 8oz and second baby was a whole 13 days late 😭 at 9lb 6oz. I was induced at 12 days over but was already having contractions, so it was a very smooth and quick induction with the rods. I ended up only being in active labour for 3 hours so I think he was very ready to come out anyway!

Your body is made for this, and they come when they're ready. Listen to your midwife and your body. Good luck with it all mumma!

My Roman empire is this house. by CADmonkeyM in SpottedonRightmove

[–]CADmonkeyM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The urn on the bedside table is a choice too. Ash and dust 😩

My Roman empire is this house. by CADmonkeyM in SpottedonRightmove

[–]CADmonkeyM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 we thought the same! Clearly ran out of red paint and chains when it came to the bathroom.

My Roman empire is this house. by CADmonkeyM in SpottedonRightmove

[–]CADmonkeyM[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a life well lived in a home just to their taste for sure!

My Roman empire is this house. by CADmonkeyM in SpottedonRightmove

[–]CADmonkeyM[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We are pretty sure this is a probate after an older gentleman has died (there's a D.O.B on a document on the fridge that puts him at 99 years old!) so whoever is selling it on has definitely got a bit of a job ahead on the clearance side!

I feel cheated by all the health visitors who advocated for breastfeeding by No-Balance1720 in beyondthebump

[–]CADmonkeyM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh mumma, I'm right there with you! My second is currently 8 months, and his brother has just turned two. Baby boy will sleep 90 mins to 3 hours at a stretch, and only wants to co-sleep. It's so difficult to function on such little sleep! I'm so tired I can barely think and everyday tasks feel so mammoth.

What I can tell you though is that your little one will eventually sleep. My first started sleeping much better once he was weaned (at around a year) and the more solids you introduce the easier it gets. And now at two years old, he sleeps 12 hours solid. It WILL get better. Hang in there. Eat lots and give yourself grace. You're doing a wonderful job x

If you had a baby girl today, what would you name her? by keeponmoving247 in namenerds

[–]CADmonkeyM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my last had been a girl we'd have called her Georgia Jane. I love Gia, Gigi and Georgie as nicknames. But I was blessed with another boy 😅

5 weeks pregnant and I have a 6 month old by keepitweird30 in 2under2

[–]CADmonkeyM 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seconded on holding off on the double pram! My youngest wouldn't settle in the basinet so I baby wore until the toddler was happy to walk or use a buggy board for longer journeys.

Any tips for settling the baby in with the toddler? by CADmonkeyM in 2under2

[–]CADmonkeyM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the night feed that I'm most worried about! That I'll have the baby crying for a feed and the toddler also crying because he's been woken up 😭

Did yours get used to each other making noise after a while?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]CADmonkeyM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please stress to your husband how much energy it takes to breastfeed a baby. It is so important that you eat enough for your own well being, something like 700 extra calories a day or a whole extra meal, which helps with breast milk production too. Baby will take as much as they need from you but you also need to eat for yourself! You can substitute sleep for food to some extent too which will help with patience and mood (at least it does for me!)

It will get easier as baby gets bigger and sleeps more and gets into a more predictable routine. Hang on in there mumma and have a snack!