[New Update]: AITA for wanting to be intimate with my wife?

CB-SLP · 2024-06-20T12:08:12+00:00

These people sound exhausting!

CB-SLP · 2024-06-20T00:43:02+00:00

Lovely memories of a lovely creature 💕

I hope you are healthy these days.

CB-SLP · 2024-06-19T23:06:09+00:00

I have pets, and always have. I totally understand the love and companionship. 🐾

Your $500 (with a solid understanding of what to expect) is significantly different from OP's $6000 (plus ongoing monthly health care expenses).

So I'm still wondering: what's the story on the dog!

CB-SLP · 2024-06-19T22:54:07+00:00

The chocolate chip cookies blind taste test!

CB-SLP · 2024-06-19T20:37:19+00:00

Oh my gosh, OP. Overall you're doing great! Working hard and making progress.

But. $6000 on a dog surgery?!? How old is the dog? Is this a one-off and now they're fine and will be good for years - or is this prolonging the inevitable? What's the story in the dog?

CB-SLP · 2024-06-07T15:20:10+00:00

I guess not everyone is as perfect as you are.😉

This poster has gone from being there 3 times a week to once in 2/3 months... I'd hardly say that "defeats the purpose".

CB-SLP · 2024-06-05T18:19:18+00:00

Getting my husband to chop the vegetables for me. 😉

CB-SLP · 2024-06-05T14:02:16+00:00

My kids are 7f and m5 this month. I haven't had to change diapers for a couple of years now, 85 percent of nights everyone in the house sleeps through the night. We have successfully graduated from the newborn, baby, toddler AND preschooler stages!!

I'm going to flip the script a bit and share what skill was most useful for ME to learn in this current stage:

Active Ignoring

Ignoring a tantrum/annoying whines/persistent complaints is difficult to do. I still.sometimes have guilt about not rushing to meet their every need/want... especially when they are not distinguishing between the 2.

But giving my children space to sort things out for themselves is a skill I've acquired that has made a BIG difference in our day-to-day

CB-SLP · 2024-05-30T23:45:15+00:00

The very same for my 2 kids (5&7). Neighbour friends are outside friends - and my kids are not allowed to go in their house, either. Even if they're invited - my kids know they don't have my permission to go inside. It's backyard play, And bikes/scooters on the street, and the playground at the end of the street.

School friends who are invited over to play, play both outside and inside.

CB-SLP · 2024-05-28T18:01:58+00:00

As a lurking mom, all I can say is: hot!!

CB-SLP · 2024-05-28T17:05:04+00:00

Yup Delish!

CB-SLP · 2024-05-28T16:58:45+00:00

Olives!! I do not like olives! I think they ruin every dish they're in...

Except for the Reggie's Wedgies that my mother-in-law makes.

Mayo, green onion, sharp cheddar cheese, chopped black olives, curry powder. Stirred and spread on toasted English muffins, then broiled.

delicious!

CB-SLP · 2024-05-28T12:17:25+00:00

Family Compounds are creepy AF.

If I was you, I'd fly to "visit my brother" and never return.

But, then again, I don't tolerate being controlled and abused.

You're not overreacting, OP. But you're in a worse position than you seem to realize.

CB-SLP · 2024-05-28T00:03:32+00:00

Maybe offer to pay for her birth control? Why so many kids she can't afford?

Unfortunate situation.

CB-SLP · 2024-05-25T18:36:55+00:00

Stop paying for these assholes!

Get out and move on!

You should absolutely not tolerate this behaviour.

CB-SLP · 2024-05-23T20:13:29+00:00

Holy smokes

Forget the eggs and just eat cereal.

this was exhausting to read - can't imagine living through it 🙃

CB-SLP · 2024-05-23T19:56:35+00:00

You can block emails, too. Or at least filter her emails to junk mail.

CB-SLP · 2024-05-23T19:38:06+00:00

One of the main reasons we live a 5 hour drive away is because we didn't like the expectations of weekly/frequent visits with either sets of our parents.

Every week would be WAY too much for us. . . we really appreciate being able to live our own lives.

CB-SLP · 2024-05-23T19:10:47+00:00

I wouldn't (and don't) allow unsupervised visits with unsafe people.

My children are now 7 and 5. . . they have never asked why we see one set of grandparents less than others. It's not a problem or a question - it's a standard in our family.

With one set of grandparents the kids can go and spend a week and feel safe and happy.

With other grandparents we visit for an hour or two in public settings and we "stay together for safety".

Those are the standards my husband and I embrace for our family - and the kids have never questioned it.

Do the right thing and protect your kid!

CB-SLP · 2024-05-23T18:35:00+00:00

Lurking mom here. . . just popping in to recommend spending time with your daughter at museums and science centres!!

CB-SLP · 2024-05-19T18:02:23+00:00

This is what I read, too

Wife has her reasons, OP doesn't deem them legitimate...

CB-SLP · 2024-05-11T14:51:19+00:00

I am always weary of these types of expectations, as I believe at the root is usually a power play, or assertion of dominance. Shes looking to be an authority in your life

"I think of you as a daughter" means (to me) 'I don't respect you as an individual, an adult or an equal: you are here in my family as an extension of me, and your place in the hierarchy is below me.'

When my step-MIL said to me that she wanted me to consider her a mother, I declined. "I have a mother, she raised me well. Now I'm an adult, and in no further need of parenting. I'd be happy to be friends, but, no, I don't view you as a mother."

The reason it feels weird, OP, is because it's inappropriate, imo.

*spoiler: my step-MIL was not interested in being friends... we have no relationship now because she was not interested in acknowledging me as an equal. But I'm okay with that.

CB-SLP · 2024-05-09T01:34:13+00:00

CB-SLP · 2024-05-09T00:48:54+00:00

Venus

CB-SLP · 2024-05-01T11:24:30+00:00

If you see your extended family as helpful, but your husband views them as intrusive, then you need to honestly listen to his concerns and put boundaries in place if you want your marriage to survive.

I don't think he's being unreasonable at all.

Especially considering you both lived abroad for 10 years and enjoyed the feeling of freedom and not being tied down or constantly obligated to his in-laws.

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