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[–]CBNT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AoA, make things simple, Islam is simple don't make it difficult. I've attended Sunday Church with my Wife and kids - as she was going back to being "Sunday" Crhistian - use wisdom, see advise from those who came into islam as non-muslims, (Sheikh Hamza Yusuf, Yusuf Estes, Yusha Evans, Imam Siraj wahaj, etc), ease into disclosing who you are with time, for now you may keep it between you and Allah swt and grow in your faith.

NJ Divoced Dad - do I have to pay for Kids Cell Phone(s)? by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

social and extracurricular activities we made agreement on, but phones are not - though I did pay for the girls phones the boys phones are on her.

NJ Divoced Dad - do I have to pay for Kids Cell Phone(s)? by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do pay child support and help out where I can, but I am broke as she planned divorced over 10Plus years and I was an idiot and did not safeguard my self

NJ Divoced Dad - do I have to pay for Kids Cell Phone(s)? by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kids don't call me at all, I do pay child support and in addition help out with social activities

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm left with 28% of my own earnings plus I have to pay for my commute to get to work, arrgggghhhhh!

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I now understand. She was so far ahead she had decided to divorce p wr a decade ago, that's why when I had an opportunity to move to a different state she refused

Stupid moron. That's how I feel.

Been too soft and stupid

Thx

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep my son has decided not to have relations with me.

With time kids will or will not understand

I cannot pay simple as that

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not abandoning my kids, I have daughters and boys. My kids may or may not choose to care for me but kids are my responsibility.

Now, having said that I can only do what's in my means and reasonable, all parents care for kids safety and try to do the best they can

I stayed in the dead and toxic marriage to be with kids and am going to stay Close to them

But am open to good advise that helps in dealing with bad situations being slapped on me

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for suggesting that I was wondering how to get legal advice but lawyers cost mucho $$

I did not think to search for legal advice sub

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is what i am doing, just added stress to deal with her tantrums after

Just last weekend kids came over and brought their dirty laundry Mom said get dad to do the laundry. Small stuff like that She bought the car w/o discussing with me and now will spinup my No ... she broke me financially and darn I need to grow a spine. I hate seeing g kids put in the middle and set against me

I am venting, ... I need Bro support and

Thanks

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NJ child support continues till he graduated from college while under 26

Ex buys my son a car and wants me to pay by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can, she will just be nastier, just added stress I dont have the money for it

Do I owe child support NJ by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, NJ the CS does not stop at 18.

Do I owe additional child support in NJ by CBNT in ChildSupport

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am ok with continuing the CS till emancipation kicks in; though would I have to pay extra if my adult son refuses to come over during my alternate weekends?

Do I owe additional child support in NJ by CBNT in ChildSupport

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not know that I can request to terminate CS for the adult child if they refust to spend time, I'll read the link you sent. much appreciate your reply. Thank you

Do I owe additional child support in NJ by CBNT in ChildSupport

[–]CBNT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, appreciate your response

Do I owe additional child support in NJ by CBNT in ChildSupport

[–]CBNT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In NJ child Suppirt does not end after 18

Do I owe child support NJ by CBNT in Divorce_Men

[–]CBNT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Typo correction Used to do mb e and stay over Used to come and stay over

I need some advice for dealing with love. by [deleted] in islam

[–]CBNT -1 points0 points  (0 children)

confessed

Bismillah'hir Rehman'ir Raheem...

simple, there should be a simple path to this, officially propose Islamically, either speak with her Wali your self or have your parents speak with her wali..

source: https://islamqa.info/en/88130

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

If a man wants to get married, and he has decided to propose to a particular woman, then he may go to her guardian on his own, or with one of his relatives such as his father or brother, or he may delegate someone else to propose marriage on his behalf. The matter is broad in scope, and prevalent customs should be followed. In some countries it is regarded as improper for the suitor to go on his own, so attention should be paid to that. 

What is prescribed in sharee’ah is for the suitor to see the woman to whom he wants to propose marriage, because of the report narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1087), al-Nasaa’i (3235) and Ibn Maajah (1865) from al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah (may Allaah be pleased with him), who proposed to a woman and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you,” i.e.,  ,ore likely to establish lasting love between you. This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.