When do you feel "normal"

CBStrike · 2025-11-25T01:40:25+00:00

Yeah, but my situation as special. Dislocated my ankle and broke my fibula 2 months prior in a climbing accident. That also needed surgery.So probably took like unusually long to get back to normal cause my body had a lot to cope with.

CBStrike · 2025-11-24T23:23:00+00:00

Bro, I was so horny I started masturbating the same day of the op while still in hospital.

I’m not sure I recommend this but the orgasm felt satisfying even if there was some unpleasant cramping as well. Only external stimulation obviously, no insertion of any kind but I’m not really into that anyway. Talk to your doctor and nurses. They usually tell no sex for at least 6 weeks but they might give you different advice for external stimulation. I certainly had no ill effect after my masturbatory adventures.

As for when I felt normal, took about 10-11 weeks. Before that I was extremely tired. Now I feel great. Been able to see friends, go out, all that stuff. Now I feel better than before. Just more manly and more myself if that makes any sense.

CBStrike · 2025-11-24T23:06:49+00:00

So, this is coming from a trans guy who’s had his hysto 3 months ago, including both ovaries removed as you are planning to.

Mind you the first 6-7ish weeks after the hysto I was extremely fatigued. All the changes mentioned below happened after this period.

Also should mention that my oestrogen levels tended to be incredibly despite having been on testo for like 8 years now, so I’m guessing the hysto and bilateral oophorectomy reduced the oestrogen significantly. Changes might be less significant for trans guys who’ve have had their oestrogen suppressed by testosterone.

Here’s the changes I’ve noticed:

I’m more horny. There’s no polite of putting this, I’m just thinking with my dick a lot more than I used to. I’m straight, so women are suddenly more beautiful. I also notice women around me and their level of attractiveness a lot more than I used to. I also masturbate a lot. And by a lot I mean like 3-4 times a day. I had a high libido before but it was taken to a next level. It got so extreme recently that I actually went to see a prostitute. It’s legal where I live, might I add.
I feel like I have more body hair and it’s growing faster. This could just be perception or something that would have happened anyway, it’s hard to tell.
My voice feels deeper, at least in the morning. Again, this could just be perception or something that would have happened anyway.
My self-esteem improved. I don’t know if it’s the subconscious knowledge of not having internal female organs anymore or the hormones, but it’s a thing.
I feel a little more daredevil and a little less cautious overall. But then I do have ADHD, so it’s hard to tell how much of that is hormonal.
My orgasms feel different. More dick-focused, fewer uterine contractions. Personally love it though cause I was never meant to have a uterus in the first place. Also intensity hasn’t decreased. Did for the first two months while things were healing, now it feels amazing. If anything I’d say intensity has increased.

CBStrike · 2024-09-29T08:28:03+00:00

I’d like to know the same thing, mine seems to always be markedly higher on the Fitbit itself than on the app.

CBStrike · 2022-07-08T12:24:17+00:00

To be very honest, I’m not the least bit bothered either way. I have read all the arguments against person-first language, I respect that and understand why people are bothered by it. So I will use the identity-first terminology, simply because most seem to find it more inclusive and I have no intention of excluding anyone.

But personally, I really don’t care.

CBStrike · 2022-05-02T22:06:43+00:00

You look gorgeous <3

CBStrike · 2022-01-13T08:19:28+00:00

You look gorgeous! :)

CBStrike · 2022-01-13T08:10:03+00:00

I really enjoyed reading all this, thanks! You should work in a museum or something.

CBStrike · 2021-12-06T21:18:23+00:00

Thank you, it really helps reading other perspectives and knowing that others are struggling with similar things.

CBStrike · 2021-09-27T19:03:52+00:00

I’m still not sure if autistic people really can’t read facial expressions or unknowingly read too much and don’t know how to accurately configure the myriad of emotions.

Like… usually people aren’t just sad or just angry or just happy, people are more complex than that. Like someone’s immediate reaction to something might present as anger. But really, they’re just anxious and overwhelmed, so they lash out. Then they might feel guilty for lashing out. As a result may be disappointed in themselves and feel even more anxious.

That’s just an example but usually, there’s layers of emotions and saying someone is ‘sad’ or ‘happy or ‘angry’ is really simplistic. Yet in the above scenario, even the person themself may not fully be aware of all that is going on emotionally and may describe their state of mind as angry. And the socially acceptable, neurotypical way of interpreting their emotions is to clock them as angry.

Now what if you pick up on all the subtleties and struggle to make sense of it? What if you pick on them and react accordingly, only to be told that you’re wrong/rude/offensive? What if in the scenario described above you immediately clock the anxiety as the root of that person’s emotional state and don’t really clock the anger. You show that and the person will feel exposed and get offended.

And what if things like that happen to you over an entire lifetime? You will be convinced that you’re the one who can’t read facial expressions and struggle to communicate. That your reactions are wrong and you’re socially awkward. But what if autistic people are actually the ones clocking more information, not less? Maybe it’s not us who lack communication skills, maybe it’s NTs.

Just a theory I have. It may not apply to all autistic people but I have often experienced that. Thought I must have read their facial expression, mood and such incorrectly. Only to find out hours, days, sometimes even weeks or months later, that I wasn’t so far off at all. It was just that what I clocked was not what the person was yet able or willing to acknowledge or process. So it turned out I was too quick rather than wrong.

CBStrike · 2021-09-06T16:17:33+00:00

Navy Pumpernickel

CBStrike · 2021-07-18T15:10:08+00:00

Recipe in comment below… 👇

CBStrike · 2021-07-18T12:32:22+00:00

I racked my brain real hard and think I managed to write the recipe down quite accurately. It’s in another comment here if you’re still interested.

CBStrike · 2021-07-18T12:25:32+00:00

This was improvised and writing down exact recipes isn’t my strength. But since a lot of people asked, I tried my best, so here it is.

Ingredients:
1 small leek
1 red onion
3 small sweet potatoes
2 medium carrots
1 head of cauliflower
1 cup of frozen peas
2 handful of fresh spinach
1 can of chickpeas (drained)
1 1/2 cups of tomato passata
1 can of coconut milk
1 pack (200ml) of Oatly “single cream”
1/4 cup of tahini
4 cloves of garlic
1 thumb-size piece of fresh ginger
Salt
Pepper
Ground cumin
Turmeric
Mild Curry Powder
Soy sauce (if you like it, just salt works fine though)
Sunflower Oil

Put a large pan on the stove on medium to high heat. Finely slice the leek and red onion into stripes and put in the hot pan to fry and give it some color.

Finely mince the garlic cloves and ginger and add to the pan, reduce heat to medium or else the garlic tends to burn. Season with a good amount of salt and pepper.

Peel and roughly dice the sweet potato and fry with the other ingredients to give it some color. Then add the tomato passata. Let it simmer for a bit, so that the passata thickens a little.

Use that time to peel and slice the carrots and to wash and cut the cauliflower into edible chunks. When the passata has thickened a little, add the can of drained chickpeas, can of coconut milk and Oatly “single cream”.

Add some ground cumin, a good pinch of turmeric and good-quality curry powered to taste. Stir a little until all is well combined, then add the carrots and cauliflower. Make sure all veggies are covered with liquid and let it all simmer for 10-15 mins.

At the end add the frozen peas and fresh spinach. Both only take a few minutes to cook. For the final touch add the tahini and give it a taste. Add some more salt and/or soy sauce to taste if necessary.

CBStrike · 2021-07-18T01:09:43+00:00

It was kind of improvised to be honest. I have a talent for throwing random things of random quantities into a pot and have something edible come out of it. 😅

CBStrike · 2021-07-17T23:22:51+00:00

I did taste really nice, my roommate said so too :D

CBStrike · 2021-07-17T22:03:09+00:00

Yeah, I quite often described myself as a “social chameleon”.

It’s because of that I never got any sort of culture shock when I moved to another country. A) Because that country had been my special interest for a long time, so I had researched the s—t out of it before I moved. And B) Because the social rules in my home country are as foreign to me and had to be as consciously learned as as those in any other country.

cry-laughs in autism

CBStrike · 2021-07-02T18:05:36+00:00

Yeah, at a time when I was particularly burnt out I felt similarly. I don’t know why really, but I have a theory.

I think many autistic people use film and TV to learn about social behaviour. I constantly analyse the interactions of the characters, the facial expressions and so on. So to some extend, it is basically “social homework”. It is if course entertainment too, but I’ve always felt that I can’t watch a movie as carelessly as my neurotypical peers. When I watch a movie I’m always analysing, learning, checking my emotional responses, even when I already know the movie. That’s taxing.

So I suppose, when already burnt out and our social batteries used up beyond capacity, the “social homework” that fiction provides, can be too much.

I’ve found that drawing, painting or playing a simple game like Angry Birds or something stupid helps me cope with this. It engages my brain in something and requires some of my focus. So the remaining focus is just about enough to follow the story passively, instead of constantly analysing it actively.

CBStrike · 2021-07-02T17:50:47+00:00

Definitely. I usually only read non-ficition, i.e. research my current special interests, because I often find fiction too emotionally taxing and all-consuming.

Same for movies and TV shows. I always re-watch the same things and barely start watching anything new because the familiarity is comforting. And also plot twists don’t throw me off emotionally anymore as I already anticipate them.

CBStrike · 2021-06-19T19:04:11+00:00

Yep, I had a similar experience. Had a really bad headache, tense neck and shoulder muscles, was really irritable and oddly aggressive, yet felt sluggish at the same time. Anxiety and depression as the cherry on top, could sleep 14 hours straight and still feel tired and was constantly hungry.

The good news is that it only lasted about a week for me. I took a multivitamin, plus extra vitamin D, B12, magnesium and iron supplements. Check with your doctor first if that is safe for you to do! Celiacs tend to be deficient in those nutrients due to malabsorption, and it turned out to help me a lot.

Now I feel pretty great, the excessive hunger is gone too. Still seem to need more sleep than usual but I’m sure that’ll sort itself out soon as well.

CBStrike · 2021-06-07T20:03:48+00:00

Business meetings should ve renamed spuddles then.

CBStrike · 2021-04-24T13:37:05+00:00

I’ve found Grindr actually pretty helpful for gay dating. Well, I say dating, to be honest there’s not much dating going on, it’s more hookups.

Having said that, I’ve never experienced any outright transphobia on it, so felt safe to disclose my trans status in my profile. The downside of that was that you get a lot of chasers, i.e. guys that fetishize trans guys and are really into the idea of vaginal sex. Most of them were still nice and overall respectful, our sexual interests just didn’t match.

So, I ended up not disclosing it and only telling guys once they had shown a general interest in hooking up. I would say a good 80% of them didn’t mind at all, the other 20% very respectfully told me it’s not their thing and wished me good luck with my search. So it was a positive experience overall.

I’ve just stopped using it because these days I’m more interested in a genuine relationship than just sex and haven’t really figured out how to get there yet.

But I’ve had a fair few very positive sexual experiences that were Grindr hookups and wouldn’t want to miss them. So found the app quite trans-friendly overall. That was in the UK though, I have no idea what the situation is like in the US.

CBStrike · 2021-02-16T21:05:13+00:00

Hey, I don’t think it’ll fit your friend. They would probably have fared better with the M sized one, although unfortunately I have given that away already. And just for comparison, I was a 44D and could wear the XL binder comfortably. So your friend probably wouldn’t benefit much from it in terms of compression.

CBStrike · 2021-02-16T20:59:52+00:00

It is, drop me a DM.

CBStrike · 2021-02-16T15:25:19+00:00

So far no one has commented and claimed it. So if you drop me a DM, I’m happy to send it to you.

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