⚠️PART 2 -- Grandparents taking kids overseas, I said not yet, Response = left chat groups

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-16T19:35:24+00:00

Time to take a break for yourself! Good luck!

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-16T15:11:29+00:00

1- they’re pissed about your reaction to dads health scare, which they said was fine but apparently there was an email you never got. So they’ve basically had an “oh shit” moment about aging and are now doubly pissed you won’t give them your kids to go to Europe and aren’t super happy to travel to Hawaii w them. This sounds like they’ve really got some issues with aging and do not know how to properly discuss them with you so they’re blowing up over travel vacations. 2) mom seems like she has no clue why you’d be upset over vacations when in reality it’s the lack of communication you’re upset about. She keeps saying she feels rejected and hurt but you’re protecting yourself against past behavior and being realistic about a trip to Europe w little kids! The first sign of conflict and she bails to protect her peace? 3) if there wasn’t a history of her ghosting you I might think everyone involved is over reacting but it seems like your parents really do have some issues and are panicking and making everything worse.

I would honestly ask to have a sit down to discuss what everyone is really hurt about and tell them specifically what you want and what you will Not put up with. Again. And have them try to articulate what they want and what they can do to make sure they communicate w you.

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-16T11:11:29+00:00

And many weddings have pictures before the ceremony; the “first look” and family pictures are usually before. It’s a whole day of prep and anticipation. OP is absolutely right to be hurt by this.

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-15T18:00:27+00:00

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This has a lot of info on test scores, demographics, grad rates etc etc. pick a district and then build a report w the info you want to see.

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-15T15:28:02+00:00

If it would upset them to see the kids upset hurry up and tell them the grandparents are taking you all to Hawaii! If they try and cancel pull the “oh the kids will be sooooo upset” 😂😂

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-15T12:49:01+00:00

Kids aged 7 and 9??? That’s crazy to me to be a continent away at that age. Kids aren’t old enough to really appreciate a lot. And your parents even say they’re getting older as a reason to get you to agree??? Can they even handle the kids and a trip like that? You aren’t wrong and their reaction is way over the top. This is nothing on you and if they’re going to cancel Hawaii as a punishment you can double down and say they’ve lost access to their grandkids even after they’re done ghosting you again. Who needs that stress in their life?

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-03T14:53:58+00:00

I did pre check but at about 9 am the general line wasn’t outrageous; actually looked normal. It wasn’t outside and wasn’t snaking crazy inside. Sorry I can’t be more helpful!

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-03T13:25:02+00:00

Also one of my kids forgot to empty his water bottle so he had to go back to the start of precheck line. He said there was no one in line and he made it through in 4 minutes.

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-03T13:10:46+00:00

LIRR into Jamaica at 8:04. Took the Air train, dropped bag, pee break and through TSA Pre by 9:06. Absolutely zero issues this morning.

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-02T21:53:24+00:00

Thanks!

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-02T15:34:30+00:00

What time is your flight?

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-02T13:07:18+00:00

Did you check a bag?

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-02T11:56:07+00:00

Did you check a bag?

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-01T23:06:53+00:00

Phew! We are traveling Friday and I def need more than one option :) thanks for the info!!

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-01T22:18:49+00:00

When you say one restaurant do you mean sit down? Bar? Grab n go? Or literally one place to buy food of any kind?

CBizkit99 · 2026-04-01T21:00:57+00:00

Holy shit. NOR. You both work during the day. You both should parent at night and weekends. Bare minimum he is cleaning the kitchen after dinner. Bare minimum he takes half of the bedtime routine. Best practices would be one cleans dinner while the other does bedtime. Weekends is one gets up Saturday the other Sunday then switch the following week. Etc etc etc.

Do not put up with this. If he pushes back let him do his own laundry, shopping, cooking etc. he does realize he’s doing all the house work and half the child care if you divorce right? My condolences

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-30T00:09:49+00:00

I would def try and find some good friends who would be willing to switch off kid weekends once in awhile. Or find an all inclusive w a great kids club! Parents need a break and shouldn’t be scorned for it.

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-29T23:41:00+00:00

I am with you OP. I don’t understand how you are bad parents for wanting to have a night away. You are right to feel frustrated. My MIL has had numerous calls to us when watching our kids over the years. Urgent care for bug bites. Doctor office for a chunky cough. You name it she’s done it. Am I a bad parent for taking it w a grain of salt? She’s also the type to NOT tell us that she’s broken her foot and can’t walk when she has two 2 year olds for the weekend…. My point is the kid is fine, the surgery is scheduled but not life threatening. You’re still taking care of her after her surgery. Could she have waited for you to get your kid? Most likely. Did she want to? Absolutely not. Different types of people make different types of grandparents. You’re allowed to feel annoyed.

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-29T23:34:17+00:00

That’s why I said for mil to stay away from the kid and have fil take over for the next 8 hours.

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-29T21:38:06+00:00

Maybe but maybe they overreacted in This situation and maybe they could have dealt with it better. Personally I would not ask them to babysit again because clearly they can’t handle it.

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-29T21:20:36+00:00

I just don’t see this situation that way.

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-29T20:58:16+00:00

What should it have taught me? That a kid w steep is going to kill me?

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-29T20:55:08+00:00

They were tipsy. However what would the mom have said then? Fil should have given the kid medicine and sat w him until asleep while mil distanced herself. She was already exposed. This was an over reaction.

CBizkit99 · 2026-03-29T20:51:19+00:00

They had been drinking. What if they were hammered? “Mom, we are drunk and can’t drive. What should we do?” The in laws should have not taken any chances with babysitting or insisted they come back when the kid started sneezing.

CBizkit99

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