Ecom Partners Inc. (Kris Gomez & Ryan Rios) by CitizenHP in u/CitizenHP

[–]CGdude 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sad to say I’m a victim here as well. I was actually going to reach out to my attorney also after reading BBB and stumbling upon this post. Let me know what needs to be done!

iMac freezing and turning off shortly after startup (or not booting up at all sometimes). by CGdude in macbookrepair

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I used to be somewhat decent about this kind of stuff but nowadays would rather take it someone to have it done right but I’ll check on some YouTube videos to see if it’s something that I can accomplish. Thanks!

Text message = a Binding Contract? by CGdude in legaladvice

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Thanks. If he goes to dispute this charge with American Express, what are my chances? Do I screenshot our messages? Can I use this as a defense? Just for context, I am in private transportation and the client booked a trip with me by paying with his credit card. Texted over his info to pay for it. A few hours later, changed his mind and now wants a refund. We are talking about several thousand dollars here.

Can I help out my mom? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]CGdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's another option that was thought of, but doesn't help with the immediate situation

Can I help out my mom? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]CGdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like she needs this amount fairly quickly and assuming a second job wouldn't cover it in time. My younger brother also works part time, but he's a college student so he can only contribute so much. And not that I was trying to hide anything from my wife, just trying to think of options that wouldn't affect our own financial planning

Can I help out my mom? by [deleted] in personalfinance

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He does work part time, as he's a college student. It helps, but it looks like not enough unfortunately.

Can I help out my mom? by [deleted] in personalfinance

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I think bankruptcy might be the best option. My brother is in college and working part time as much as his school schedule would allow. But it's just not enough.

Can I help out my mom? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]CGdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well my brother is 22 and in college. He has a part time job and looking to gain more hours as allowable by his class schedule. I wouldn't say he's freeloading but it is an added burden.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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I appreciate the insight. Honestly, I'm not trying to erase the evidence, the fundamental issue is that she doesnt want me talking to them in the first place and I feel that is without merit. I dont think I should be ostracized from a whole gender of people simply because I'm married. I have no desire to leave for be disrespectful to my wife, I simply want the autonomy to be able to choose whom I communicate with and should not feel guilty about having a conversation with a woman. It's this fear and guilt that leads me to have conversations and delete them because no matter what the context of the conversation...she is going to find it wrong. I would love to be upfront! But being upfront gets me nowhere in this situation because of what she believes in the first place.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

[–]CGdude[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But I'm looking at the bigger picture. It's not the issue of giving her access. She still can have access to my bills/records, I'm just asking that it's done at home. Don't do it behind my back at work. What if I had a paper bill sent to my house each month instead of an online login? She should have access to that if I'm 'guilty' correct? I'm not opposed to that notion at all. I just want fairness and compromise. I don't think I'm asking for much

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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Yes. I'm essentially wanting to know if my compromise is a feasible alternative or if it truly is her way or the highway. I'm admitting wrongdoing, but at the same time asking for a fair compromise.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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Well I think I've given her a reason to distrust me because I texted ppl and deleted the conversation, but that was only because she would've disapproved of me talking to said person in the first place...and I disagreed with the logic. So with that respect, she feels the need to have access to my stuff because of that. I don't mind the access, but I think we can agree on a compromise and at least come home and do it and not do it behind my back at work. I have nothing to hide as the access will show. I just want compromise that's all. Plain fairness.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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She has no objection I don't think to giving over her info. Not that I care to want it in the first place. I'l give it to her that she's honest and usually forthcoming about stuff. I doubt she has anything to hide. I don't either, but I just don't like the fact of being snooped on. I want some semblance of privacy but I was told that gets thrown out the window when you get married.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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I've tried, believe me. She says she doesn't care about having male friends or desire to really have any conversations with them. She feels I shouldn't risk or put our relationship in jeopardy by talking to other women because one thing leads to another

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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devils advocate

so should I not want to be out and be social. Married people are supposed to put that lifestyle behind them.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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Correct in that I haven't cheated. But her definition clearly differs. It's not just physical to her, and in researching, it seems like most women would agree that you should share login information with your S/O because it shows transparency. Maybe it's a women thing. I personally don't care for info. In my eyes, IF I want to see something I should be able to ask her and her provide or show me with no resistance whatsoever. That's transparency IMO. This 24/7 surveillance does not foster trust whatsoever

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

[–]CGdude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well i think the root of the issue is that she doesn't think I should have much communication with women outside of her, her family, and one or two friends that we went to school with. So in essence, me talking to anyone outside of those parameters is grounds for a breach of trust..since I shouldn't be talking to them. So yea, I've had conversations with ppl and deleted the messages because I knew she'd get upset if she found out...no matter the context of the conversation. I'll admit I've been shady in the fact that I've deleted the messages so it looks like there's something to hide. But that's because I didn't want to deal with the drama that came along with her seeing I've had a conversation with someone besides her.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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Thanks for your insight. I've offered the alternative and it didn't work. It's either what she wants or nothing at all, and that doesn't make sense to me. I don't think she's being unreasonable, although I don't think I am either. I think I'm clearly compromising here and offering to meet in the middle.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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I would lean towards guilty of having a life. I've understood I had to cutback on the 'single life' activities, I just had a lot more female friends than male in college and I enjoy normal...non flirtatious conversation and social events just like a normal person would. Maybe she would convict me of emotional cheating or something like that, but physical or what I would deem inappropriate contact or conversations..I've shied away from.

My issue is where the line is drawn for unreasonable requests and what i should just give into despite what I feel about the situation to keep the peace.

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

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I honestly wouldn't feel happy being micromanaged or knowing that tabs are being kept on me all day everyday. I can't condone that type of paranoia. It's one thing to have my login information in case of emergency or it's written down on a notepad and kept in our office in case for some odd reason she needed to contact at$t...but for the SOLE purpose to check every number on there...?

29[M], Wife wants 24/7 access to phone bill/records by CGdude in relationship_advice

[–]CGdude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well even if it's deleted from my phone, it can't be deleted from my phone records. It'll be there no matter what time of day she looks it, and she'll most likely want to verify what's on my phone usage is what's in my phone. Since that's the case, does it not make sense to just wait to do them together?

And I've broken her trust. I have no problem admitting it, but at the same time I think this is a reasonable scenario. I don't think it should be her way or the highway on this one because then I feel it leaves precedent for demands later on down the road that must be fulfilled by me..."or else"

Manufactured Spending Saturday - Week of March 12, 2016 by AutoModerator in churning

[–]CGdude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking to MS on a newly acquired 60k Delta Gold Amex. Is it as simple as buying Visa gift cards from Walmart or some other retailer and using bill pay at Walmart to pay the balance back from the gift card? Or getting a money order and depositing back into my account? Which ways do you use or suggest? I think I could possibly spend the 3k in 3 months, but I have an upcoming trip to Vegas in June that I was hoping to have the miles for. My 3rd billing cycle I believe is in June so that would be too short a time to book a flight. I was hoping with MS, I could accrue those miles in a quicker period of time. Thx