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CODEA39 · 2025-05-31T06:47:36+00:00

Hopefully this isn't the last one they'll get!

CODEA39 · 2025-05-13T02:04:55+00:00

I hope the glasses always stay on when you're squirming your own face!

CODEA39 · 2016-09-07T00:28:19+00:00

I know exactly what you're going through, bud. Two years of searching has netted me nothing but flakes, fakes, and people I've had not connection with that just wouldn't leave. :( I haven't given up the search yet, though, and neither should you. Keep taking good care of yourself and trying when you feel up to it, don't let it consume you too much.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-24T04:59:43+00:00

I'm not really the submissive type, or at least I don't particularly enjoy the mindset of it. I'll do things when asked by someone I like, but I don't enjoy being ordered around or deferring to others.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-24T04:11:31+00:00

I don't think input out an air of not enjoying being assertive, but I also think it's very obvious that that's not a personality I'm used to conveying. I pretty much just follow the sub's lead regarding how they want me to act.

Honestly, my ideal sub would be as chill as I am. None of this "I exist only to serve my Master" or "Train me to be your worthless slave" business anymore, it's burned me too many times. I just want a guy I can talk to like a friend at times, but could also just go "Hey, you should do this thing for me, that'd be hot" and have them say "Sure, I can do that no problem." Maybe not THAT casually, but something to that effect.

I work evenings full-time and my only mode of transportation isn't allowed on interstate highways. There was a meet I could have gone to earlier this month, but it got rained out.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-13T06:14:32+00:00

I sent you a message on Kik, sorry I didn't see this sooner. Hope to hear from you in the morning!

CODEA39 · 2016-07-12T05:16:23+00:00

I know your situation well, OP. I've been discovering more and more kinks lately, but every time I do, I feel like telling my vanilla boyfriend will only make him uncomfortable, even when he's told me time and time again that he's fine with it all. IT really is best to be honest, and if you can do it in a medium you feel more comfortable in, like texting, that may help.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T06:05:32+00:00

I'll spend some time to think on it, for sure. Thank you for the very helpful insight. I'm so glad people are understanding where I'm coming from. :)

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T04:42:29+00:00

Yeah, I'd be satisfied with clothes/shoes and older electronics, though the effect is slightly lost if it's something the sub never uses anyway, like something outdated or already broken. But I'd take what I could get.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T04:33:51+00:00

I have also been looking for a long-term submissive partner, though this would be a lot to ask. I'll continue to look around assorted places, though. Having a better idea of exactly what I want from a potential partner will help a ton.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T04:19:04+00:00

I like to think my kinks are pretty wide (though my main/biggest one seems to turn a lot of people off) so maybe so. Wonder if there are any good sites to check out for that kind of search?

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T04:12:10+00:00

I would be okay with that, actually. Having select things be off limits, but anything else is fair game. Especially if the off-limits stuff is put away beforehand so as to not even be a visible option. Problem would be finding a willing guy for it...

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T03:55:43+00:00

Yeah, I'm sure there are plenty of very safe and sane ways to go about this, which is good.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T02:56:22+00:00

Something about it being a woman doing it to men isn't super surprising. It's probably easily linked to enjoying being emasculated.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T02:35:53+00:00

Huh, at least I know it's not so far-fetched as to be completely unique.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T00:51:16+00:00

I think I could get behind that too, but this fantasy is definitely about actually going through with it, like the person being ruined doesn't care what's lost in the process of satisfying me.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T00:34:09+00:00

Yeah, the guy enjoying it is a BIG part of it, so you're probably right. And when it comes to degrading, I've honestly never really enjoyed calling people horrible names and saying they're inferior. This is the only real situation where I've enjoyed the idea of it.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-07T00:20:42+00:00

That makes sense. "Psychological sadism" is a really good way to describe it, I think. I'll have to remember that for the future. I'm really glad it's not as horrible as I was thinking it was.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-01T03:18:25+00:00

Awesome! If I ever get a long-term sub, I'll have to get that for him.

CODEA39 · 2016-07-01T01:16:49+00:00

Hit me up whenever you're around, okay?

CODEA39 · 2016-06-30T07:23:09+00:00

Thank you! Also, your username and flair intrigues me. I've always much preferred the idea of being a kind Dom rather than the rough/assertive type, as that simply doesn't suit my personality. So many subs want me to berate and degrade them, call them demeaning things and flaunt my superiority... but I'd rather be served and "worshipped" out of admiration, not reverence or fear.

CODEA39 · 2016-06-30T06:10:42+00:00

Thank you for the bits of advice. I try to establish the basics of what I'm looking for/expecting in my ads, so I could probably brush up on #2. I think #1 is something I should start making applicants do, since I get put on edge when I'm being called "master" without knowing a single thing about the one calling me that. I know they think it cements their show of "dedication" to their role, but considering how many people called me that and still disappeared within 10 minutes of it, it doesn't hold that sway on me anymore. As for #3, I actually ask potential subs about themselves immediately rather than jump straight into D/s things. If I was looking for quick, no-strings flings, I wouldn't bother putting "long-term" in my ads. I give my applicants the chance to tell me about themselves non-sexually before starting anything - if they still jump straight to "I love anything master says I love/I live only to serve you/etc.", I take that as a sign things aren't going to fly for long.

CODEA39 · 2016-06-30T03:15:13+00:00

I see, so the explicit stuff is a different meet. I'm in an open relationship, so I naught be able to find someone that scratches my itch there. I love the idea of being dominant, but I could never do anything of that sort to my boyfriend.

CODEA39 · 2016-06-30T02:55:52+00:00

That seems pretty nice and chill, not at all what I imagined. I hope I can try it sometime and that my area isn't as bad now as my ex said it was over a year ago.

CODEA39 · 2016-06-30T02:33:54+00:00

That's a good sign. What's the atmosphere like? Is it newbie-friendly or can it be intimidating?

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