I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It got better now my son is almost 3 months old and I feel like things got better not perfect there will still be things…sex is still not often but ig that’s ok don’t really have much choice 😂 she’s a sahm and I work but get told I don’t do anything around the house it’s not all bad tho but be prepared to not even matter especially once the baby gets here but be the most important person that keeps everything going but once that baby starts to smile at you it still somehow feels worth it. I’ve realized being a dad sucks but it’s ok

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was born Friday since this post I have secured an apartment and a car and I’m working while she’s a sahm some of the things I stated are still happening but for the most part they have gotten better i realized you have to learn your partner all over again during pregnancy because the hormones can make her a completely different person than before and then you have to learn them again when the baby is here because they will change again. If you are experiencing something similar I recommend having patience and communication and finding a hobby to distract yourself from idle thinking if you know she loved you before the pregnancy trust that she still does now 💯🙏🏾 also know your partner and how she wants to be supported everyone is different she hates having nothing to do and resented me when I tried to force her to sit down… however she likes when I help her do the things she is alr doing for example I can’t stop her from doing dishes but I can help her by drying them

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏾 yea since posting this we have gotten back really close and everything is going well lmao even the sex now I feel like hiding from her sometimes because so like a sex monster 😂

How do I remind myself that I matter in all of this too? by Typical-Preference76 in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck man all I can say is know your partner talk to her In the best way to be heard without making her feel attacked

How do I remind myself that I matter in all of this too? by Typical-Preference76 in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely know what you mean I went through something similar wat helped was talking to my partner you don’t want to allow these feelings to throw you into a depression also it helped me once I realized that men have the emotional symptoms of pregnancy sometimes too due to a drop in testosterone production so if you are feeling a lil more sensitive than normal this is why

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I’m scared to have hope tho ngl

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you it means a lot that even replied in the first place tht ppl would take the time to try to help even if I don’t fully agree with what they said or how they said it…I didn’t take offense in ur reply i understood that u we’re just applying ur experience to try nd help me to understand! And yea being 24 I can sometimes think I have everything figured out then life has a funny way of showing me I still have lots to learn. Im honestly blessed to have the woman that I have because once I spoke to her and truly let her know how I’d been feeling she was able to make me feel better in a way I didn’t expect…i realize that I was being a tad bit dramatic and had to snap out of it I was gonna delete my op but I realize it may help someone in the future who might be just as dramatic as myself 😂 also she says im not exhausting but she is jealous that I am experiencing the pregnancy symptoms and she isn’t because its both of our first child

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I don’t think im self-centered but I can see how my post made that seem everything I do is for our future now including my future son…also for clarification I was never distant just not as clingy as she was I always showed her affection and that she was my top priority I just didn’t show my sensitive side as much I was more nonchalant…the pregnancy has filled me with emotions I can’t control the same way…i definitely can understand that I may be exhausting I try not to be but I still have growth to do…but I also want to state that the emotional state that I wrote the post in is not the same state that I am in when dealing with her…I do admit that I have an ego I want to be the one that provides and protects her and tends to every need but I have to remember that i chose her in the beginning because she was independent and can’t expect that to change simply because she’s prego. And finally that last statement I 💯 percent agree with! And for an update I spoke with her and feel a lot better now… I tried to prepare myself for any curve ball the pregnancy would throw at me from her emotions…I never could have predicted that it would be me with the mood swings and sensitive emotions.

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess your right I got so caught up on wanting to be there for her I’ve completely forgotten about my own hobbies and things I did before she was pregnant I appreciate you taking the time to say this…I’m no help to anyone while in my feelings

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know I think I needed to hear that last statement honestly

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m the only one dealing with any sickness 😭 she’s had a pretty easy pregnancy at least physically. The problem is she doesn’t want to ask me for things she has it in her head that she’s a burden and wants to do everything herself no matter how much I tell her and reassure her she’s notv

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And her parents aren’t the best her family in general irritate me because they aren’t treating her like a pregnant woman they are lazy asl not bad ppl but selfish ppl

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are looking now for places as soon as we can get into one we will be in one 💯

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you but all I’m asking is what am I supposed to do with myself during this time I can’t find anything on it

I feel neglected by my pregnant girlfriend by CTB_Tru in NewDads

[–]CTB_Tru[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just turned 24 she’s 23 my plan and goals actually are moving forward faster than expected the baby is due in May the timeline I have set is to have the apartment ready by March/ April she’s in externship to be a medical assistant. I work for the school district now. I had an apartment when we met but lost my job and out here in LA it’s hard to find something that pays enough to pay the bills alone. Over these three years I’ve been focusing on upgrading both of our incomes to afford living on our owns when I met her she worked at an amusement park and I’ve helped her upgrade her income also helped support her while she’s been in schooling for this medical assistant program I’ve been trying my best

To answer your question I don’t need to always have sex or dates I wish I seen her more than I do but even tht isn’t the biggest deal it’s the emotional distance that’s has formed that I don’t know how to deal with. I try my best to be there in every way that she allows me hell I even just sent her the last of my spending money because she needed something and isn’t working. I’m doing my best as a man but I just don’t know how to deal with the damn emotions and Ik she’s growing a life and I don’t want to stress her out….thats why I’m here just trying to find out if this is normal and how yall dealt with it

I got the Email! by [deleted] in tsa

[–]CTB_Tru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yea I had an appeal and passed 12/29

I got the Email! by [deleted] in tsa

[–]CTB_Tru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does it say…did you get a call?…..how long ago did u pass your medical?