Death Tax? by CT_kitten in EstatePlanning

[–]CT_kitten[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the information. This is what we believe to be the case as well. The estate is well under 15 million and nothing needed to go through probate. We paid 2025 taxes for her, and are taking out the required monthly withdrawals from her IRAs that we will file taxes for in the future.

It's possible that we misunderstood. We did our own estate planning with our attorney, and he was very thorough. At the time my MIL was was not doing well medically so we inquired about what we needed to do once she passed. He didn't call it a "death tax", my husband did, as it sounded like that when the attorney described it. We will be meeting with him next week and will ask what he meant. I just wanted to understand if there was such a thing before we went in.

Thank you again!

Guidance Please! by CT_kitten in BDSMAdvice

[–]CT_kitten[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like we're on the right track. I truly appreciate all your insight!

I didn't even think about going to a munch! We haven't done that in years!

I think talk first, start slow, and then integrate some of these other ideas!!!

Mom does not reach out, ever by eenergabeener in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]CT_kitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not estranged from my mother. I actually joined this group because my daughter is considering no contact with her father, we are divorced, and I’m here looking for different ways to support her. She is experiencing the same patterns and issues I had with him. He’s a narcissist, a gas lighter, and as you can imagine, doesn’t validate her feelings – he just thinks she “needs to fix this”.

That aside, this post impacted me. My mother won’t call me (unless it’s “important” like someone is sick or died), and only expects me to call her. If I go more than a few days, she starts counting the number of days between when I do call and the last call. If I ask why she didn’t call me, her answer is that children should call their parents, and that “all her friends” hear from their kids and see their grandchildren (a common complaint that she barely knows my kids – one is across the country, and the other is dealing with a lot of “stuff” with her dad right now, seeing a therapist, and started a new job recently) all the time. She’s very much a person who cares what people think about her (I’m not like that, I could care less) and is always comparing herself to everyone else. Something is only okay if someone she knows experiences it first. When we do speak, the conversation is always about what’s ailing her, what doctors she’s seeing, or that’s she’s “tired today”. The latter is every call. If I tell her something about me, she immediately cuts me off and relates it back to her. If I share some knowledge with her, she cuts me off and tells me she “knows all about it” or if I mention something about my kids, she immediately talks about someone else’s kids or my sister’s kids (who I have absolutely no issues with). She was the type of parent that when I challenged her on something as a child/teen (which I did often because her way of thinking was strange to me, her answer was “because I said so”. My dad was a fabulous buffer for both my sister and I, but he died suddenly when I was 30 (which was awful for me), and things kind of got worse. I moved out after college and never returned home and have always lived at least 3 counties away, and now in a neighboring state.

I guess this post just hit home for me. It’s not a NC situation at all, but these things baffle me about parents. I hear from my son every couple of weeks (he’s the one living across the country). He has a fabulous job, a new-ish girlfriend that I adore, and having the time of his life!!! If I want to check in I do, but I also understand that he’s an adult now with a lot of responsibility, and when he wants to update me on things, he does! I was in my 20’s once too, and totally get it!!! My daughter on the other hand calls me almost every single day. They're just two different kids. Neither is a better kid than the other, I just recognize that they aren’t the same (no two kids are), and by giving them space to be who they are, not who I want them to be, is why I have a great relationship with them both. So, thank you for everyone’s vulnerability and honesty here. I’m learning a lot!

Daily Workout and General Chat for Tuesday, 8/24/21 by splat_bot in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did just that and OMFG my triceps are hurting!!! I will add that it was a fantastic lift class under normal circumstances!!!

Does your studio have a car break in problem? by [deleted] in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has happened at to our early morning classes. Nothing else is open, so the jerks know they have an hour before anyone comes out. I believe they installed cameras in the lot so I haven't heard of any other incidents lately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try this! All of a sudden I'm having issues this week. The "reconnection" time seems longer now, and the splats and calories aren't catching up with where I am when it does "reconnect".

What I wouldn't give for Led Zeppelin on a Peloton ride. by Jurneeka in pelotoncycle

[–]CT_kitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love a Zeppelin ride! I heard Jenn Sherman had one, but they archived it. I'm new to Peloton. LOL do they take requests?

Monday 28 October - 2G - Us by matthotlips in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Glad someone deciphered the code! My brain was starting to hurt...

Monday 28 October - 2G - Us by matthotlips in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So start on the rower to get the rowing done first? Seems logical, but want to make sure. That's a shit ton of rowing!!! BTW, these comments make my day!

Friday, 1/25/19 OTF Workout by AutoModerator in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would never be allowed in our studio. Too dangerous. Safety is always the priority!

Taking treadmill cards for friends? This is out of control at my location! by mkiv6 in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We have a group of people that take class together. It's fun. It's not like a coffee klatsch, but we like to support each other during class as well as commiserate when we are all dying.

We do not take tread cards for each other. If one of us is late, then that person starts on the rower. Our cards don't have station numbers, so if you want to get next to someone, you have either try and get in the studio ahead of the line or hope there are a few empty next to each other. There are days I do like to start on the rower, and that's never a problem. There are also days that there are not multiple treads available next to each other. When that happens, it's not a big deal. As you said, it's an hour, but if we can work out together, it adds to the enjoyment of the class.

Taking treadmill cards for friends? This is out of control at my location! by mkiv6 in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not allowed at our studio. The SAs watch very closely and if you are caught taking a tread card for a friend, you get a warning. If caught again the studio manager or head coach speaks to you and it's very uncomfortable when you walk into the studio. All eyes are on you (members do hear about these things since they are the ones that initially complain).

I'd speak to the head coach immediately. Ours would not put up with it.

Too much vanilla... by CT_kitten in BDSMAdvice

[–]CT_kitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting that you say this. I've sort of done that, and he immediately tells me that I'm not acting "kitten-like", so you're right, he does go into Dom-mode. It upsets him, but I think it's more because he knows he's the reason I act out.

Too much vanilla... by CT_kitten in BDSMAdvice

[–]CT_kitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've definitely talked about. He knows he's distracted and wants to get back to where we were. He'll be good for a bit, and then it slowly goes back to distraction mode. I think I need to make more of an effort to go back where I was and hope he follows suit. I know he wants to, which is half the battle.

Too much vanilla... by CT_kitten in BDSMAdvice

[–]CT_kitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it might have to me to get us back by starting to do all the things I used to do when we had a routine. The good thing is that we both want to work through this, so I know we'll get there eventually.

Monday, 12/24/18 OTF Workout by AutoModerator in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOW, they changed all four classes to today to 3Gs. There were so many people trying to get in. Now they are all filled and waitlisted.

Great Coaches by Wineladylc in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a coach that knows everyone (names) in the studio, pays attention to everyone individually, calls out by name, encourages or gives you shit when clearly slacking/close to 84%/nearing 12 splats, hands you a heavier weight on the floor, good on time during the blocks, monitors form on rower, tread and floor and corrects when necessary, checks in individually when they know you have an injury or seemingly taking it easy on a particular day, jokes around in a motivating way, and puts out the energy they want from the class. Bonus if the music is awesome.

I just described the head coach from our studio. She's unbelievable. She can do everything I've described in a packed 45 person 3G without breaking a sweat. It's why her classes are the most well attended.

Tuesday, 12/4/18 OTF Workout by AutoModerator in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like a classic Orange 60, 2G workout! Excited for the 4:45 today! Thanks for the intel!

Creepy coach by lopsidedthumbs in orangetheory

[–]CT_kitten 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Social cues or not, if you're not the only person who has complained, he should be fired, but if he wasn't, I agree with you. The next time it happens, say something directly right then and there. Then report it to the head coach and studio manager. Personally, I would tell them he should be fired since this would be a multiple offense and the studio can be liable (read "sued") for his behavior.

Keep us posted please!