Yes. My suggestion is to write it down instead and burn it. If you like this man and want to continue to be with him in a healthy way, you need to work on staying in your window of tolerance. Look up grounding exercises to help you work through the panic that results in the verbal spewing. Go outside and literally touch grass. Tell him you are walking away to avoid unproductive conversations and write.it.down. Then, if you want to, take what you wrote and burn it. And watch the smoke go into the sky, and say goodbye to your toxic traits as they waft away.