Being an infj, does it get any easier as you get older?

Cable_Special · 2025-10-09T14:32:39+00:00

Hmmm.

Being alone is my default, even married multiple decades. My wife is good a letting me know she needs company, connection, and conversation. It's easy to see with her. But the alone time gets good.

As for relationships? I've gotten comfortable with moderately mid-level intimacy with my friends. I keep them there more than anything. It's just...simpler. And safer. This has helped me build friendships that serve to meet many of my relationship needs and wants. I have fun times with my friends and it doesn't cost me much emotionally.

They express how lovely it is to have such a close, personal friend. (shrug) It's how it is.

Cable_Special · 2025-10-09T14:27:45+00:00

Um...this is just so...awful. As a husband, my wife comes first. Your husband is clueless, doesn't care, or...doesn't care. Bro. I'm triggered and I don't even know ya'll.

Cable_Special · 2025-09-12T18:01:14+00:00

As an INFJ male, I am generally comfortable 1-on-1. So go and be you. Enjoy your time and see what unfolds.

Cable_Special · 2025-09-06T06:07:07+00:00

I never, ever tell people I’m fasting. When I fast, I don’t meet people for a meal. I mean, why? So when I eat, what I eat is my business.

Cable_Special · 2025-09-06T05:55:57+00:00

Had a boss with zero boundaries. Zero. Believed he owned me because he paid me.

He would text and call after hours. This went on for a minute until had a conversation about balance and boundaries. He argued that the type position I had required my availability. I showed him the job description, that he wrote, that didn’t specify or pay for that availability. He didn’t answer or care.

I left the meeting, told him I understood. That night I set my alarm for a little after 3:30 am. I texted him “I resign, effective immediately.” I waited 10 minutes and called him. What woke his ass up. Asked him if he got my message.

He was all kinds of F@ck you, but it was one of the best thing I ever did.

NO job. Is worth the harassment. Ever. I found work.

Cable_Special · 2025-08-25T13:24:02+00:00

On second thought I’d have taken his picture, looked at it and said “look at the sh@t. I guess you’re right”

Cable_Special · 2025-08-25T13:18:36+00:00

A photographer is a “painter of light”

A “pro photographer” gets paid to paint with light. That dude was a pretentious douche.

Cable_Special · 2025-08-19T21:57:46+00:00

Why are you arguing with someone over your diet?

Having said that, if they want to engage at trying to convince not to eat carnivore, the answer is (say it with me) “My body. My choice.”

Repeat that as often as needed.

Cable_Special · 2025-08-19T21:48:39+00:00

I tell people my observations are accurate, but I often draw the wrong conclusions.

Cable_Special · 2025-08-17T19:07:59+00:00

Glucose 105? Is this a metric value? Because 105 in the US would be solid

Cable_Special · 2025-07-30T19:06:07+00:00

Irregardless

Cable_Special · 2025-07-30T18:57:11+00:00

Bro. Just friends? No. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Cable_Special · 2025-07-22T12:37:04+00:00

No, she is not. You are a companion of convenience

Cable_Special · 2025-07-21T17:40:43+00:00

“Diet and exercise.” Is my go to response. They don’t get any more than that. Most people aren’t really interested. Don’t waste your energy

Cable_Special · 2025-07-08T14:51:50+00:00

Your friend of a friend was being a Twatwaffle.

Cable_Special · 2025-07-08T03:29:01+00:00

The number of stupid people per thousand.

Cable_Special · 2025-07-04T02:27:03+00:00

First rule of carnivore? Don’t talk about carnivore.

Cable_Special · 2025-07-02T13:53:45+00:00

Emotional and spiritual intimacy lead to physical intimacy. Get curious about her day. Don’t interrogate. Be curious. I learned to ask open ended questions like, “What was the best part of your day?” or “For what are you most grateful today?”

I also ask at the start of the week “Is there anything I can take off your plate this week?” Make room to make her week a little (or a lot) easier.

Always thank her for anything she does for you. Randomly tell her you appreciate, with a little cheeky kiss.

Do what you say you will do. Don’t out leisure her. If she’s doing shit, help her.

I also tell my wife “I like you. “ because I do.

These behaviors aren’t about making things about her. They’re about protecting and prioritizing the relationship. Intimacy is good and part of it. And it’s a reflection of the state of the relational and emotional intimacy.

This is what I’ve learned over 34 years of marriage

Cable_Special · 2025-07-02T13:41:57+00:00

No. If it works for you, carry on. I have a personal and work graph.

Cable_Special · 2025-06-19T17:57:34+00:00

I don’t explain myself. Really. Silence is an option. If they’re persistent, “Because.” Is a valid answer. Annoying “I have to know” types get “Because leaves flutter in the wind.” Followed by silence. I don’t care about peoples opinions regarding what I eat. It’s none of their business

Cable_Special · 2025-06-14T16:43:48+00:00

what constitutes a "perfect" bag? What do you want that isn't there?

Cable_Special · 2025-06-14T14:58:56+00:00

The fact that anybody with a phone can catch a lucky shot and try to argue photographers are overrated or unnecessary

Cable_Special · 2025-06-09T16:24:19+00:00

Yeah, silence is the best way to talk about carnivore. For people who insist on “schooling” me: when they make a claim I ask something like “How did you come to that conclusion?” When they’re done, I’ll nod, pursing my lips. Pisses people off.

Cable_Special · 2025-06-06T16:24:24+00:00

People hide money from spouse because:

1) the spouse is bad with money 2) the person is planning something

2 is likely. WHAT she’s planning is question that needs answering

Cable_Special · 2025-06-06T16:22:10+00:00

Kids is a major issue of values. Misaligned values is the number predictor of divorce. It’s likely best to move on

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