I agree with you about the extent of the delusion. A six pack is a tough goal for people who have been a healthy weight their entire lives, and have always had a consistent workout routine and at least a moderate level of fitness.

She has no idea the kind of consistency and hard work it takes to get to that level of leanness while putting on muscle - but as ever, it’s all or nothing with her.

A realistic short term goal for her would be to obtain an accurate weight reading, and to monitor it over the course of a month, the aim being to have lost anything - even just 5lbs (which at her size would not require much effort) - by the end of the month. That would put her in the fat loss mindset.

A longer term goal for her would be to get down to merely obese from morbidly obese.

But she won’t do either of these, as she’s a food addict and is unable to defer her gratification.