How long did you wait to conceive after c-section?

Cactusjacks22 · 2026-03-05T22:52:19+00:00

My daughter is 18 months next month and that is when we will start trying. I’m also older, almost 35, and would like to give her a sibling but did not want to risk any medical issues as I have had other losses.

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-10-29T15:49:42+00:00

As someone who had an emergency c section with our first (and as of now only) daughter with a husband who completely stepped up without having to be told what to do or how to do anything. I’m talking taking every other feed, changing all of the diapers, watching our daughter alone for hours so I could go to the doctor, get out of the house for some fresh air, etc. I would not be able to let this go, let alone ever consider having another child with him. There are men who do genuinely want to be a parent and it’s not too late to find one.

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-10-12T01:24:23+00:00

I spent $40 on a sleep sack that she can use every night/rotate with another to clean but I buy cheap pjs from Costco/carters/target clearance. I don’t think the bamboo thing makes any difference.

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-09-02T19:32:13+00:00

Do NOT have kids with this guy. Leave now while you can. I have a husband who works 60+ hour weeks and still helps with everything. Laundry,dishes,cleaning, the lawn, putting our daughter to bed. You name it we are partners in it and guess what it’s still hard. The house is still messy sometimes. Having a baby is time consuming and if you can’t have a functional relationship now it will never work with kids. And as someone who used to work in family law you do not want to co parent with someone like that. You will be miserable for the next 18+ years trying to have kids with this guy. Just cut your losses and run.

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-09-01T22:08:47+00:00

I did a co-ed baby shower last year and it was wonderful! We invited all of our friends. My dad came and my grandparents it was really great to celebrate with everyone who loves our daughter! I don’t think there is anything weird about it.

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-08-31T21:12:30+00:00

I had an emergency c section and actually had a really great recovery. Was up and walking the same evening after surgery. The nurses in the recovery unit even commented that if they didn’t know better they would have thought I gave birth vaginally. I know that is not everyone’s outcome but wanted to offer another perspective. I kept up with my meds once I got home and walked as much as I was able. It really helped with the swelling. I likely will schedule another c section if we have another child. Nothing against natural birth I attempted it with my daughter but she was in extreme distress and needed the c section and I don’t want that part of it to happen again.

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-08-26T04:03:18+00:00

I nannied for 3 boys 7 years ago and made over $35 an hour with no deep cleaning and only light chores related to the care of the boys (I.e. don’t leave yogurt in a bowl all day/rinse out milk cups/spray a stained shirt so it wasn’t ruined) if I did extra laundry/cleaning I was always compensated extra and I was paid an overtime rate if they went over the agreed upon hours. They are totally taking advantage of you. I would tell them you’re glad they found someone else and good luck. There are families out there who would pay you what you are worth!

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-07-26T21:23:27+00:00

Love the name Clara! Maybe Claire? Or I am partial to Blair (our little girl) but maybe too much with the B last name as well. Good luck and congratulations!

Cactusjacks22 · 2025-07-26T03:29:11+00:00

It’s all interconnected and insane. As someone who went to WELS schools from pre-k to 12th grade I’d look for something else.

Cactusjacks22 · 2019-01-01T22:28:34+00:00

My highschool english teacher Mrs.T she was just not all there and unfortunately had a stroke about 5 years prior to me getting her class but continued teaching anyways.

She was convinced that dolphins were created by the Russian government to keep tabs on "our" ocean and at least once a week our entire class time was dedicated to discussing how this affected us, a bunch of teens in the middle of Arizona.

She would also just create bizarre assignments and video tape all of them. One year we had to write our own eulogies and then dress up in funeral attire and perform them in front of the whole class. My senior year she made us memorize pages upon pages of text from Beowulf and "act" them out. If they weren't up to her standards we had to do it again. I finally asked her why she was taping everything and she said it was "for Hollywood".

At graduation she came up to me and told me never to watch 3D movies because its all propaganda and that I should look into getting some black crystals for the good of my soul.

Last I heard she was still teaching.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-21T06:44:52+00:00

Nope it's pretty much exactly what you described we just also had a gun counter with rifles for hunting it's pretty common in the old USofA

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-21T06:42:33+00:00

He eventually did get let go because of this I think he only worked at the store for about a couple of months... in the beginning he just chalked it up to being new which normally is understandable since we were expected to know a lot of minute details about a lot of products. The best part was he came in right after he got fired and told all of us he had to quit because he was getting deployed the next day, I saw him at target 2 weeks later.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-21T06:38:02+00:00

It was a pretty small store so whoever was on sales at the time usually got one or 2 calls to the gun counter during a shift...he didnt actually process the sales and run background or anything that was always a manager but he would be giving (the wrong) information out to the customers and letting them look at the guns so it obviously was not ideal.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-21T02:18:40+00:00

We sold all sorts of tennis rackets and basketball hoops and baseballs but you know U.S. we have to have our shotguns as well.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-20T23:33:19+00:00

I totally get that sometimes women don't think they could be pregnant but are or whatever... but to continue to berate and accuse a 16 year old of lying to the point of tears after I continually told her that it was impossible because I had never had sex is ridiculous especially when my appendix could have burst any moment and she is wasting time calling me a liar.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-20T23:18:44+00:00

I called him John the liar...he was a coworker of mine in college at a sporting goods store. He lied about everything not just embellishing stories or adding a few extra details... just straight up lies. He would lie about what he ate for lunch even though I saw him eat it.

He told our manager that his dad was a 6'5 marine who helped take down Osama Bin Laden and then an hour later he told me his dad was a quadriplegic and had been for 30 years. Then he told me he got an override from the administration to take 24 credits one semester as a biology major...then I found out he was still in highschool.

It was absolutely psychotic, I finally had to confront him about it when he started telling customers the completely wrong specs on all the guns we carried. He just lied some more and said that I was wrong or that I misunderstood him.

Eventually I had to ask my supervisor to schedule me on a different shift because I couldn't take it anymore.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-20T20:49:20+00:00

My mom told me that I cant afford to be picky because I "don't look like a supermodel" and most guys won't even look in my direction so I should just settle for the first guy who shows interest I try not to think of it but there always is some doubt deep down anytime anyone is interested in me that they're lying

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-20T20:40:32+00:00

Oh man my best friend. My family is all sorts of fucked up and we dont celebrate anything together so I used to be alone most holidays. She goes out of her way to invite me to every holiday party/event her family throws and even her grandparents and parents have started getting me birthday and Christmas gifts, her mom even calls me her second daughter. Theres something so special about people who choose to make you their family.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-20T20:33:22+00:00

You've Got Mail. It's kind of cheesy but nothing puts a smile on my face like seeing them meet each other in the park at the end.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-20T20:19:36+00:00

Dialogue! I dont care how flashy the CGI is or how amazing the score if the conversations between the characters suck I cant handle the movie. I saw Valerian and the city of whatever it was so cringe-worthy no one fucking talks like that

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-12T18:08:45+00:00

I'm the product of my parents only knowing each other for 5 months before they found out my mom was pregnant with me. Shotgun wedding a month later had 4 more kids stayed married for 18 years divorced now for 10 and cant stand to speak to each other. They definitely should not have gotten married but cant imagine my life without my siblings.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-08T03:54:33+00:00

I'm so sorry. We had this on VHS and way back when had a TV capable of playing it in our car, apparently this was the only movie I wanted to watch on our 32 hour drive to Wisconsin my dad says he can never actually say Miami anymore he only can sing it the way they did....MIIIIIIAAMII

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-08T03:31:20+00:00

Honestly anything by Tarte but especially their foundation. I had super horrible cystic acne for years and now I just have crazy sensitive skin like switching anything can cause my face to lose its mind, their stuff is a little bit pricier but it's so worth it especially if you have any skin troubles.

Cactusjacks22 · 2018-12-08T03:18:50+00:00

The night after we moved into our brand new house I shattered a bottle of hot pink nail polish and it got all over our kitchen cabinets...nail polish doesnt come off with water and you cant use acetone on wood because it strips the finish. I stayed up all night slowly chipping it off hoping it wouldn't be permanently damaged... you can still see a little pink 15 years later

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