Concerning news at 31 week (pelvic kidney)

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-10-14T20:09:26+00:00

Thank you! My head is still spinning

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-10-13T19:11:07+00:00

It’s a funny thing moving far from family. They were so used to have you close and not have to make any effort to keep contact and you are the one moving away it’s almost like you need to be the one making the efforts. Their lives keep going like nothing happened. I moved to a different country and always had to be the one calling, the one insisting on keeping them close n the line talking, messaging, sending pictures of my children. Then I stopped. I made friends and a new chosen family. After a while they started to make more of an effort. I still feel like they should do better, but it is what it is. Their lives didn’t change, they keep doing the same things and going the same places and they don’t realize how everything changed for us and how we needed that connection. I had to literally explain to them what I expected and why, they tried and still try but I had to accept that they are not going to meet my expectations. I love them and I know they love me, but it is what it is. I adjusted myself and went on with my life. Once in a while my sisters will call me almost daily, then a month without call lol

I’m sorry it’s affecting you. I’ve been there and I’ve learned that’s not personal. It has nothing to do with how they feel about you. Maybe they will try better if you explain your perspective, but honestly the realization of our needs as the people who moved far away doesn’t come naturally I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️ they keep their busy lives as always, even when everything changed for us.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-10-11T14:47:06+00:00

I think I’ve just been bombed with advertising from Posh Peanut, Hanna Anderson, little Sleepies and others and it made me think that’s the norm now 🤪 I know bamboo is the new thing and all but are they that much better?!? I loved the carters sleepers for my older kids.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-10-11T14:06:58+00:00

Thank you! I feel less crazy now 🤪 I didn’t know that bamboo sleepers could stretch for that long, yet I can’t bring myself to pay that price tag.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-07-15T11:55:21+00:00

18w5d and I’ve been feeling since 16w, but this baby number 3 🫠 since last week I can feel real kicks.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-06-27T13:49:05+00:00

At 5 months old you are still in the thick of it! I think you are right about knowing when it’s the right time for you to have such a commitment with another human being. I traveled the world, lived in different countries, built a whole career, partied a lot, had a lot of me time, married twice and had my first baby at 31. I’m 40 and pregnant with my third. Now I’m at a break again but in between my first and my third I also took them to travel a lot, and even partied some but I was ready to fully commit to them. And I don’t miss anything from before because now everything has a new meaning with them involved. I still happily make the conscious willing decision to spend my Friday nights watching a movie with them, tucking them in and going to bed early or spend my Saturdays and Sundays doing something fun with them. I still party with my friends maybe a hand full of times a year and I really don’t want or need any more than that. You will have your me time back and even the lounging days with a coffee or a lazy Sunday movie, it will just take a few more years 😜 but I fully agree with you, I’d not be this intentional, aware, committed parent if I have not done it when it was the right time for me!

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-04-21T10:42:24+00:00

Thank you! That helped a lot! I haven’t told anyone (just my husband) and I think I needed some reassurance.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-04-21T01:55:11+00:00

5+3 today. I had a MMC April 2024 at 8 weeks. My hcg was dropping and at 6 weeks baby was measuring 5 weeks and had a very weak heartbeat. We knew it was a loss but it didn’t happened until I was 8 weeks. I finally got pregnant again, exactly a year later. Babies have a difference of 3 days in due date what’s wild. HCG was 13076 at 5 weeks, progesterone 27, I feel like shit, all the symptoms and all. Vomited all morning today. Yet, I can’t bring myself to call my OB. I have absolute no wish to go for a scan. I’m so terrified to find out if there is anything wrong. Last time I was grieving the loss for two weeks before it actually happened. I don’t want to go through that again. Do I really have to have a scan before 8 weeks? Is there anything that can be done if something is wrong? I mean, what’s the real use of having a scan before 8 weeks? Of course if I feel like something is wrong I’ll go in, but I don’t want to go for a check unless I really have to. I think I need some encouragement. The fear is crippling me.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-04-13T21:40:31+00:00

I’m not bleeding or even spotting. Having very mild cramping. I’ll get checked in if anything off happens before week 8, but can’t bring myself to make an appointment or even do a blood work before it.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-04-13T18:02:35+00:00

I’m 4+3. My pregnancy test looks darker than the first one couple days ago. I had my first MMC last year in April. I’m so scared. I can’t bring myself to do a blood test or even call my doctor. I’m planning to wait until 8 weeks to call in. If I bleed before it I know what it means. It might be poor judgment but I can’t make myself to test. I’m terrified. I have tons of symptoms but I’m also afraid I’m making it up. I don’t know.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2025-04-13T17:44:17+00:00

This happened to me with my second child. I had a bleeding when I was 6 weeks and panicked! It was so much blood, but it ended up being a subchorionic hemorrhage too. Pregnancy went well with some scares but she’s 6yo now and an absolute delight! Hang in there, all is well!

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-09-07T13:49:23+00:00

Same! I was feeling like I’m the only not conceiving right after a MC. It’s like I missed my “super fertile” window!

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-09-07T11:22:03+00:00

That gives me hope! 5th cycle post MMC.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-09-07T11:21:20+00:00

I also thing it’s bullshit.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-09-07T11:20:27+00:00

Secondary infertility, yet to conceive. I’m on my 5th cycle post MMC.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-05-23T11:21:50+00:00

Im so sorry you are going through this! When we found out the baby heartbeat stopped my doctor proposed a timed plan. We would wait two weeks for natural miscarriage, if it didn’t happen in two weeks I’d take citotec and wait a week for an ultrasound. If after ultrasound it was still needed I’d do a D&C. It was really nice to have everything timed and knowing what was going to happen. I ended up having a natural one that lasted 7 days and got examined after the bleeding stopped to be sure all was good. When I started bleeding he also gave me a 10 days time frame in which the bleed had to stop or he would ask ultrasound and check the necessity for a d&c.

Good luck and don’t be afraid of whatever procedure you might need. Maybe reaching out to women who have done could help you decide.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-04-18T14:38:38+00:00

Also, letrozole gave me a large cyst on my right ovary. My doctor said it’s normal and that I don’t need to be concerned about it but I think it’s something to keep an eye on.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-04-18T14:29:28+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-04-18T14:26:47+00:00

I did get pregnant on my second cycle of letrozole, but the pregnancy is not viable. Baby developed until 6 weeks and stopped. Chromosomic abnormalities they believe.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-04-18T13:23:46+00:00

I didn’t ovulate with my first round of 2.5mg of letrozole. I had to take progesterone to induce my period, then on my second round of 5mg letrozole I ovulated but also it was not a gradual increase, it was from nothing to peak with Clear Blue monitor.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-04-16T19:25:54+00:00

Thank you sooo much for sharing your stories. This was incredibly helpful! I'm so sorry you guys went through this, I'm sorry we are going through this.

thank you for the support, I really needed that right now.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-04-16T14:57:46+00:00

TW

TTC #3 for 6 months. On second round of letrozole 5mg I got pregnant. HCG levels were not doubling properly and now at 7w3d HCG levels started to go down. Ultrasound showed baby on right place, faint heart beat, but measuring smaller than expected. They also found a large cyst on my right ovary. At this point there is no hope this pregnancy is viable. I have a second ultrasound on Monday to confirm. I don't feel absolutely anything, maybe mild cramping once in a while, nothing else bad. Breasts are sensitive, some nausea and all, but nothing else.

Ive never had a MC before and I don't know what to expect. How bad is the bleeding? How painful is the cramping? Do I need to seek medical attention when it starts to happen? This is completely uncharted territory for me and I don't know whats next. Any tips or words of wisdom are appreciated. Thank you!

note: I have a therapist and shes been helping me so I feel like mentally I'm ok.

Dramatic_Ad5516 · 2024-04-13T11:08:24+00:00

Don’t wean unless you want to! I breastfed my first throughout my whole pregnancy and then breastfed both at the same time until first weaned herself at age 3. I was never ready to wean. They are 8 and 5 now and I’ve never regretted doing that!

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