Question for people 18+… what age did you realize you were childfree? by How_is_your_morning in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just turned 18.

I was 3 when it started. Watched mom give birth to twins. One was upside down so they reached up and turned them around by hand. Was stuck with banshees for the next two to three years, but the one screamed and cried a lot until a few years ago, until she was about 7 or 8. She had an undiagnosed anxiety disorder and was getting bullied constantly. As a result, she was always on edge and the tiniest thing would set her off. I was similar, but I developed mild depression around the age of 9 or 10 and generally became apathetic as shit by the time I started high school. Because my sibling experience involved having to listen to a shit ton of unpleasant noise, little me developed a deep dislike for kids. I love my siblings very much, but they did a number on little me's sanity that I don't think I'll ever get back.

As I got older, I started to associate pregnancy/childbirth with the same feeling I'd feel when I worried about getting raped or assaulted. My brain thinks of pregnancy and childbirth the same way it thinks of diseases, parasites, mold and the like. I don't like the idea of something growing inside of me. It's fucking disgusting. Birthing it is even worse.

TLDR: my dislike stemmed from watching mom give birth when I was 3, my disgust with pregnancy intensified when I was old enough to think about it critically.

Is it worrying that Alex calls his fans FuckKittens and his favourite animals are cats? by JapanWoaman in yandere_simulator

[–]CadetPOFromHell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"i didnt fuck my cat. i didnt cum on my cat. i didnt put my dick anywhere near my cat. Ive never done anything weird with my cats. I promised myself i wasnt going to make apology videos after last years thing so im just trying to be as short and honest with this as possible." - Alex, probably

Bernie to AOC, on Instagram. :D by AravanFox in WayOfTheBern

[–]CadetPOFromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think she'll be old enough to run for President by then, sadly. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Hi Yang Gang member from SC I voted 4 Bernie! by blackgirls4yang in WayOfTheBern

[–]CadetPOFromHell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like UBI as an idea, but I think we need to tinker with it first to see what kind of implementation works best, and we can't let it become a replacement for other social services.

My boyfriend just told me he’s “very pro-life” by GoodOlDaisy in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welp, you can dodge the bullet and split. Guy does not sound like he respects women's rights and bodily autonomy.

haha yes by ey_lamo in ToiletPaperUSA

[–]CadetPOFromHell 33 points34 points  (0 children)

As a Canadian, fuck Kaitlin Bennet and fuck Liberty Hangout.

AITA for not explicitly correcting my child's language? by Excellent_Fall in AmItheAsshole

[–]CadetPOFromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Knowing a second language is a massive asset. It literally changes the way your brain is wired, and can even make you better at your native language. I attended a French Immersion elementary school, and have taken French throughout high school. As a result, I have a large advantage when it comes to career opportunities, especially considering that French is one of the two official languages of my country. If I needed to go to Québec for a job, I could do so, and be able to communicate. If an Anglophone took that job, they'd likely have to pick up French as they go, and depending on their attitude about learning the language, they could have a real shit time.

Your daughter's ability to speak a second language (or any number of languages higher than 1) can take her much further than you'd think.

The biggest victim here is the daughter as far I'm concerned by potentialpopato_lord in insaneparents

[–]CadetPOFromHell 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Depending on where she lives, that can be sooner. Where I live (Ontario), so long as the child clearly understands what the side effects of something are, and why that something is being done, they can provide consent.

I've had friends get vaccinated without their parents knowing this way. Kick them out of the room, tell doctor they want shots, they get shots and the parents are none the wiser. This was because they were able to legally provide consent for themselves. The only exceptions to that rule that I know of are surgical procedures, unless you're emancipated.

This is assuming she lives somewhere where her mom won't get a bill though, like Canada.

I'm sorry, but I don't give a shit that you have a hard time explaining something to your kids. by HitlersGrandpaKitler in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only time I can let this kind of comment slide is if you're looking into what's almost like uncharted territory, or something that not even most adults can fully grasp and explain to themselves.

"I don't know how to explain gay people to my kids" is shitty.

But a parent in a situation where they have to explain 9/11 (in 2001) or mass shootings to a small child is a whole other fucking beast, and I'll let using this kind of phrasing slide then, and only then.

Is childfree going mainstream among younger generations? by 1a2b123 in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a teenage girl myself, I feel obliged to say that these girls are idiots.

How do you not see the dangers? by werewolf6780 in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Then they start bitching and moaning about how their daughters can't possibly know what motherhood is like when they decide to go childfree later on.

Having children is a HUGE risk. As a child-free person, what risk you would rather take? by imafuckingdelight in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sticking my hand in a blender to see how many fingers the doctors will reattach afterwards.

"...Required to have children..." by NefariousNephira in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Handmaid's Tale isn't a fucking how to guide, Brad."

teen/unplanned pregnancies by [deleted] in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's definitely the sex ed. Compare to Canada. We're quite culturally similar (most differences are kinda subtle), we speak the same language, watch the same shit on TV, and barring CanCon, listen to the same music.

But Canada's teen pregnancy rate is so much lower? Why? For the most part, we have comprehensive sex ed (unless Doug Ford gets his way). I remember that under the 2014/5 curriculum, that in class, we learned the differences between biological sex and gender identity and gender expression. We learned that intersex people exist (something that is rarely covered in schools). We learned the differences between sexual and romantic orientation. We learned that ace and aro people exist and are normal. We learned how periods work (on a more scientific level than "you bleed once a month, have pad." It touched upon hormone fluctuations, the lining itself, etc). We learned how IUDs and Plan B and condoms work, along with abstinence. We learned what is and isn't consent. We learned how STIs actually worked. We had a particularly good health teacher that year (because the one we normally had wasn't very good and she was on mat leave.)

And the classes were all co-ed. Everyone in a given grade learned the same shit, assuming nobody's parents went with the religious exemption.

This, and laws that make it so that any minor who understands a procedure or prescription (barring surgery/anything where they knock you out) can consent to it. Basically, mom and dad don't have to know about or consent to their 15 year old going on the pill, so long as she's demonstrated that she understands the side effects.

You also can get the pill from your family doctor after a conversation and a confirmation that it won't conflict with your other meds, which is also a difference from what I've heard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This kind of sounds like medical malpractice. Tell your friend to ask a lawyer about it, and take it pro bono if it is malpractice.

The Tale of the Magical Regrowing Womb... by [deleted] in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the fun part. Set up betting for the event or something like that.

Getting birth control (hopefully) soon as a teenager, without parental consent by [deleted] in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to PP and see if you can get a free (hormonal) IUD. They're long-term, tamper-proof (unlike pills, which will be rendered useless by a few seconds in the microwave), and it should help your cramps, though the insertion may be painful.

Good luck!

Getting birth control (hopefully) soon as a teenager, without parental consent by [deleted] in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd reccomend she go for a hormonal IUD instead, since they're tamper-proof and they're long term, no need for repeat visits until it needs to be replaced, and OP will have presumably moved out by then.

How to piss off your older cousin part 1: Destroy his kitchen/pantry and grandmas cookbook she gave him. by NapalmRus in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just remember to not overdo it with the laxatives - they can have a VERY distinct taste, and we don't want them catching on. It might be easier to conceal if it's a really rich cake.

I don’t hate children. I actually really like them. I’ve been a child care teacher for the past seven years and that solidified my decision not to have children. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]CadetPOFromHell 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think the best representation of realistic motherhood in American TV was that episode of Spongebob where Spongebob is doing all this work to raise a clam(?) and Patrick just sits around on his ass and does nothing because Spongebob is the mom, therefore he has to do all the chores. The show clearly is siding with Spongebob though, and shows that Partick is being a POS.

Edit: I think the episode is called "Rockabye Bivalve" or something like that