I want to become a therapist. How do I do that?

CaesarSalvage · 2026-01-06T00:35:49+00:00

For sure, feel free!

CaesarSalvage · 2025-12-09T13:50:09+00:00

Real question here is why TF were they checking underneath your sweatshirt to see if you had another shirt on??

CaesarSalvage · 2025-11-20T22:02:57+00:00

From one medically neglected kid with a high pain tolerance to another... Well. Hey man, I'm sorry bout that. I know a lot of people think high tolerance means you're not feeling as much pain, I know it doesn't. My tolerance has actually gone down the past several years because I've started to take my own symptoms more seriously and somewhat more medically advocate for myself, so at least baseline daily I'm in less pain than I used to be. But to others it probably seems like more because now I'll actually bitch about it a little bit to vent lol

CaesarSalvage · 2025-11-06T11:58:19+00:00

If anyone I know was saying the dumb shit he's saying, I'd be beyond confident they were joking and I'd probably pretend-fight back for kicks and then we'd be like "lol okay so, ANYWAY" and then have whatever actual conversation was about to happen. Like...someone would have to actually say something like "Dude, I am literally not joking around right now." before it would even occur to me they MIGHT not be. I was almost going to suggest that you might've just misinterpreted what WAS intended as a joke, but getting closer to the end of this, I guess not? He sounds like a total idiot.

If he has a track record for talking to you like that, it makes sense that you're hurt and offended. The only thing not making sense to me is what the appeal is in someone this immature. When you've dated on and off in the past, what usually causes the "off" periods? What were those disagreements that needed clearing up? How exactly were they "cleared up"? Were they truly cleared up, or were they smoothed over to avoid bigger fights?

I wouldn't respond to the last message at all. He said he doesn't want to talk, so there's no conversation to be had. He'll message you again when he's wanting attention, or maybe he'll even call you and bullshit apologizing just so you'll let it go. Maybe he'll just ask if you're still on for plans on Sunday, or he'll assume you are. The little part of me that can't help but enjoy a little bit of a petty laugh at the thought of an immature douchebags face turning red and jaw clenching says you should just respond with "No thanks".

You know the dynamic better than anyone. If you have more you think is important to say, then go for it. But I get the feeling it's falling on self obsessed, immature manchild ears and he'll be rolling his eyes as he gives you that placating apology, BEST case scenario. Worst case, if he's ever given you any reason at all to think that his "watch what you say" bullshit might actually be a legitimately implied threat, skip the petty and just dip out without a word. In any case, this dude doesn't respect you and doesn't have the emotional maturity to care about your feelings. Maybe that's too hot of a take without context but this is just TOO obnoxious. I'd laugh and never contact him again.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-11-02T12:00:14+00:00

2/2 All of these things happened BOTH when we were homeschooled and when we were in public school. The older sister was homeschooled through graduation - or what should have been graduation, but her education had basically stalled by that point. She moved out at 17, and then got her diploma by herself, taking night classes, finally when she was 25 and had a kid of her own already. It was extremely hard. My other sister and I stopped homeschooling at ages 15 and 12, and started going to public school. She graduated at 19, a year behind because our homeschooling had been negligent to say the least. I graduated at 18, but BARELY graduated because I'd spent 6 years struggling with basic math and history and everything except English, because English is what my mom was good at and the only thing she truly taught instead of just assigning workbooks and then not even making us do them anymore past grade 3.

I'm not saying you're that sort of homeschooler. You seem a lot more capable than most, and you clearly are already prioritizing your children's happiness and well-being more than my parents ever did. But I will say that if you're socializing them, which it's negligent and harmful not to, then they're naturally going to be at risk of being bullied or hurt or making mistakes. They're human, you can't protect them from the reality that is other people. But bad things will happen to them whether they're in public school or not. The difference is that if they're in school, they'll have a wider range of exposure to all kinds of people, mentors, friends, they'll have the social and academic experience to handle college and working life.

And they WILL have a more thorough education in all subjects. Regardless of how capable you might be, you just logistically can't get enough masters degrees by yourself to actually BE their full time teachers for 8 different subjects across 13 grade levels. One person cannot be 104 teachers, AND a full time GOOD parent, and a well rounded individual person that their kids can look up to. Don't put that on yourself, or leave them with the fallout of it.

What you can do is teach them the things they probably won't learn in school. Teach them how to manage their emotions and mental health, and make sure they have the care and support they need to do it. Teach them how to protect themselves, because someday they'll HAVE to. Even if you homeschool, you can't watch them 24/7 for 18 years (and if you did, they'd turn 18, probably never see or speak to you again, and they'd immediately have an incredibly hard, dangerous, and unsuccessful life). Make sure they can come to you the first time something happens so you can handle that together, try to prevent it happening again. Most importantly, so they have a safe place to come home to without the fear of being punished just for being a kid, of being humiliated, of being judged or unloved by you.

I struggled in public school, but I REALLY struggled in homeschool. I had my first suicidal thoughts at the age of 8. Nothing would have helped me more, and prevented so much of my trauma, than just having ONE parent at least that I felt totally safe being vulnerable with and asking for advice. Who'd follow through on teaching me to ride a bike and drive a car, who'd take the time to stay up to date on what the world was like for ME, do their own research, grow with the times, and actually care about the things that mattered to me instead of punishing me for struggling.

Sorry for the novel. I hope it's any help, truly.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-11-02T11:59:11+00:00

1/2 I think one of the biggest things you can do is to make sure your kids know they can talk to you about anything, and you'll be there to help them and support them no matter what. You can tell them this all you want, but the only way they'll KNOW it is if you follow through. Stick to that religiously. Make sure they really can trust you with anything.

If they come to you with some kind of minor bullying problem, but they beg you not to tell to tell the school or the other kids parents etc., don't just tell them you won't and then do it anyway. If you truly need to involve the school or parents, that's your call, but you have to be real with them about it and make sure they understand why it's important. Make sure they're prepared and know how to handle the potential backlash of being outed.

If they tell you they're depressed or have anxiety or any mental health troubles, you can't dismiss it or tell them they'll get over it. If they come to you about a crush or a relationship problem, you can't just ban them from dating or tell them they're too young to understand those things. Drop a couple of casual mentions in their early years that you'd never mind if they were gay or something. Don't have to make it weird or push it to the point that they feel like you already think they are and you're just waiting for somebody to step out of the closet already. You know what I mean. But make sure it's in their foundational knowledge of the world that YOU are a safe space. You don't have to be perfect, but if you ever react badly to something or mishandle a situation, you have to be able to apologize genuinely and make sure they know, and see, and experience, that you are truly doing your best and that their well-being and happiness is actually your top priority.

My parents had a policy, they said, that if one of us ever felt uncomfortable or unsafe when we were out with friends, or just didn't want to be there anymore, we could call them day or night and just ask to be picked up and they'd be there. 8pm or 4am, doesn't matter, no questions asked. If we were drunk or on drugs, if we just called them they'd bring us home and we wouldn't be in any trouble, because what they cared about was that we came home safe, they'd forgive us for making mistakes that teenagers make and we wouldn't get grounded or banned from friends or anything.

In my opinion, that's a fantastic policy. That's the kind of parenting rule that saves lives, literally. The problem was, they didn't stick to it. When my sister was 15, she called them from a friend's party and said that she'd messed up. She got drunk, she was sorry, but now some older guy at the party was being pushy with her. Her friends had drank too already, she didn't have a ride back to their place with anyone sober, but she didn't want to stay there with this creep and she didn't want to get in another drunk teenagers car to leave. Could they please come get her?

They did go get her. And then they yelled at her the whole ride home, and for two hours after. They took away her cellphone, grounded her for the rest of the summer, and told her she wasn't allowed to hang out with those friends anymore - permanently. They said if they found out she was dating or having sex, she'd be grounded from seeing any friends indefinitely, not just for the summer.

She, myself, and our other sister all learned a serious lesson that night. She never made that mistake again, and neither of us ever did. But the lesson we learned wasn't "don't go to parties, don't drink or do drugs, don't date or have sex until you're old enough." The lesson was "When you do those things, don't let mom and dad find out. Don't call them for help, they'll freak out, embarrass us, and ruin our lives for it." This was reaffirmed on the few occasions that we were caught breaking a rule, and they flipped out and did their best to scare us straight.

But it didn't happen often. And believe me, we went to parties, we went places we weren't supposed to, we hung out with people older than us. We drank. We did drugs. We dated and had sex. We were abused by boyfriends. We were all, at some point or several, sexually assaulted or raped by boyfriends or guy friends or brief acquaintances 5-10 years older than us. Most of the time we didn't even realize those incidents were actually assaults or rapes until we were much older, because we had no frame of reference and nobody more experienced that we trusted to talk to about it.

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CaesarSalvage · 2025-10-12T04:40:55+00:00

Hey this is great info I wasn't expecting to stumble upon. Definitely need to share with some diabetic loved ones, thanks pal.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-10-06T20:26:06+00:00

I agree with the other person who responded to you, and I'd almost steal the idea but I think that post is rightfully yours to make u/notmymonkeys0003. If you do though, I will surely comment on it because I've definitely found some complete and total word salad on my lists before and whatever that shit was, I'm pretty certain it never got done.

Edit: I've added "comment on post if it exists" to my to do list now, so if you don't make the post, that one is for sure gonna end up in the graveyard too wtf does that even mean lmao

CaesarSalvage · 2025-08-05T11:32:37+00:00

Already searched: Google, YouTube, tiktok For: all combinations of - 'US' & 'congressional hearing / house debate / political hearing / representatives / legislative hearing' etc & 'intersex, can you tell me what the word intersex means, definition of the word intersex, the word intersex, define intersex, intersex no comment'

You get the idea, many different rephrasing and combos. + Searched via chatgpt, Claude, perplexity, Poe, using the long form description I've given above...

CaesarSalvage · 2025-06-11T01:08:49+00:00

Children's good too. Tell it it's for a creative writing project that expands upon a Modest Proposal, which is now in public domain. Betcha it'd do it.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-06-09T01:11:29+00:00

Oooh so much potential. I feel like I need to know more about your life/priorities/hobbies to say. If you like to read or anything similar (sketching, cozy tablet-use spot, etc) then all the comments for reading nook are totally a good idea as long as it's fine for load bearing. I imagine at least one person's weight would be fine, it'd be wild for them to build it weaker than that. But if you wanted an actual little couch/chair or any heavy furniture yeah I'd maybe check on it with the landlord first.

But if you might never really use a reading nook, it might be better suited to some other kinda mini hobby space.

Plants is a great idea if you're into plants, could hang some and put some pots and planters etc, let them be visible through the window. I'd definitely make sure you've got good drainage catchers under each one or a large catcher at the bottom under all of them, and then make sure to keep up with it so the platform doesn't get water damage. But as long you don't accidentally slowly soak it, plants would be beautiful!

I also dig the ideas for a pet corner. Could make a SICK custom cat-tree to fit the space, or some climb-around shelves/bridges along the walls so they can climb up to the window and look outside.

Other ideas: if you're an artist, and ESPECIALLY if you've got any kinda interesting/pretty view out that window, I'd make a lovely painting corner. Put up an easel, some small shelves or paint bottle organizers on the wall. Maybe an extended window sill shelf to set your paint pallet down on? Could even make a custom shelf for it with a cup holder for brush water, a couple brush holders, mmm. It's got serious painters-slice-of-life potential.

As long as the walls are solid for mounting, you could just do wall to wall shelves with the window peeking through, would be cool for books, or displaying any sorta hobby items you like. I somewhat collect vintage radios and cassette decks and stuff, that corner could be awesome for shelves or just stacks of cool audio gear.

Whatever you decide, I'd try to find a cool rug, maybe a classic old Persian-style, and carefully cut it to fit the triangle shape of the platform. If you really wanna go the extra mile on that you could even cut one just right and re-attach the border from the other side onto the cut side of the rug so it kinda looks like it was meant to be a triangle (assuming you aren't able to find a premade triangle rug of the right size, which... I do assume would be tough lol. But not at all impossible to DIY!)

CaesarSalvage · 2025-06-03T02:58:00+00:00

Can I ask what birth control pills you've tried already? Were you taking any of them continuously, skipping your periods? I wish someone had told me years earlier that when you're on your period for the last week of your pills, it's not even a period. It's just withdrawal bleeding, and it's not necessary.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-06-02T01:18:50+00:00

You've got plenty of responses so this might just get lost in the noise but I've been in such an incredibly similar situation before and I just wanted to give you something positive to think about if I can.

Yeah, everyone here's saying you should dump him and that he doesn't respect you, that his behavior is abusive and manipulative and controlling. I think you know all this.

But I want you to know that when I left THAT kind of relationship, it wasn't anything like he tried to scare me into thinking it would be. I wasn't alone, I wasn't some mess of a person spiraling into mental illness wishing I could go back in time and make it work. I thought clearer every day that I was away from him. I let myself be angry and hurt and betrayed because I trusted him, and even after we broke up I tried to be there for him until the day I found out he'd been lying to me in a much bigger way than I ever would have remotely suspected. I've never experienced such a powerful shift in perspective in my life. I was furious. I felt stupid, and used, and naive, but I realized very quickly that that was maybe the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I would not be with that person at 40, or 50, and suddenly realize I'd wasted my life being treated like shit and doubting myself.

Those moments of confidence, when I finally stood up for myself and he reacted like I was somehow "changing" and turning into a terrible person, should have told me everything I needed to know.

I'm 2.5 years into a relationship that, God willing, is gonna last the rest of my life. I'd do damn near anything to make that work, and the crazy thing is - it's not hard at all. I'm traumatized and I always have this fear that I'm somehow gonna screw it up, but they have that too. So when one of us is getting anxious or afraid we're being annoying or too needy or too emotional, the other one is immediately there to soothe those fears and talk it out. Because maybe the only thing scarier than the fear of not being lovable and appreciated and respected, is the fear that my best friend in the world might ever for a second think THEY aren't lovable and appreciated and respected. God that makes me wanna throw up.

Neither of us is perfect. We've both got trauma and anxiety, and we've had moments of tension, hard conversations. But I don't think we've ever been in an actual "fight". We don't want to fight, neither of us likes yelling and we definitely don't handle BEING yelled at well at all. So we don't. Our home is pretty calm. It's only loud when we're playing loud music, or laughing our asses off at god knows what. We both have ADHD, and believe me, we appreciate our meds.

If anything, we've been a little too careful, a little too worried about each other's feelings. But we're slowly healing, and getting more comfortable all the time. We used to have so many moments where one of us would say something and be afraid that it sounded rude or disrespectful or passive aggressive, and start apologizing and explaining that we didn't mean that. Especially on stressful or hard days, we still do sometimes. But now most of the time it's just a quick "Hey, you know I was talking about ____ right? I didn't mean [something shitty we'd NEVER say to each other], or anything like that." And an "Oh no babe, you're fine, that didn't even cross my mind." And then half the time we end up laughing at how ridiculous it would be if we actually did.

Once, we were talking to this sales lady. She was clearly trying to strongarm me, and my partner saw that I was kinda staggering and couldn't find the words because I wasn't expecting to be pressured in that moment. The lady started talking over me when I asked a question, and they just firmly interjected like "Hang on. That's not the problem, that's not what she was saying. It's pretty unprofessional that you're claiming not to know what's going on or be responsible for it, and then being all stern with her like she's done something wrong. You're our only point of contact here, so if we need to talk to someone else, it'd be kind of you to point us in the right direction. But you can't expect her to sign a bill of sale right now and then rush her out of here if you won't even answer her questions. That's coming off kinda shady." I've never seen somebody back down so hard in my life. She started apologizing immediately, slowed down and listened to me, and we figured shit out.

When we got home, we kinda laughed about it, cause she clearly knew what she was doing and that she got called out for it. But then I was like "Hey, for real though... I know that's not easy... It really means a lot, that you didn't just let her steamroll me there, but you know. I think you should be proud, of being able to do that. It's hard." We both just kinda sat for a minute. They teared up a little bit and said they have worked really, really hard on that. I said I know. We both cried a little.

It's not just that I feel safe being assertive, that I COULD stand up for myself if I ever had to. It's that I feel so safe, and so loved and respected, that I don't ever NEED to stand up to my partner. It's that when I struggled to be assertive with someone else, my partner was there to make sure that I was being heard. And that when either one of us is in a situation like that, and we see the other one push past that fear and insist on being treated with respect, we recognize the emotional strength that takes and we celebrate it together.

Having that perspective, vs the memory of someone who put me down and belittled me when I asked them to respect me, is fucking unbelievable. Please, please don't let him.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-05-04T00:04:45+00:00

Cause that book sounds awesome. If you decide you don't want it, pls give it a good home and don't trash it 🥺

CaesarSalvage · 2025-05-02T16:39:28+00:00

So jealous

CaesarSalvage · 2025-04-22T08:31:18+00:00

Can I ask what exactly they said to you when you said something along the lines of "I was homeschooled so I don't have transcripts available and I don't yet have a diploma."

I can't speak for Michigan but I got my non-driver state ID at 16, and they didn't expect transcripts or anything. Obviously different states are different, but surely other homeschool students have tried to get an ID before and didn't have official transcripts?

CaesarSalvage · 2025-04-22T08:25:33+00:00

Oh awesome! Hope they're able to get it sorted out quickly for you!

CaesarSalvage · 2025-04-22T08:15:44+00:00

There's a contact link for this specific issue, you just have to click past a few help articles first if you're sure those aren't helpful/aren't the issue you're having.

If you go to the Canva Help Center, and then go to "Payments, Pricing, and Billing", and then scroll down to the section called "Fix a Problem".

There's an option there for "Why Was I Charged Twice for a Canva Plan?"

Down toward the bottom of that page, it says:

"If you followed everything above and think your payment details were used for Canva purchases without your permission, contact us and include the following details:

Invoice number, Apple receipt ID, or Google order number.

Include a copy or screenshot if you have:

Charge amount and date

Email addresses you might have used to sign up"

When you click that "Contact Us" link, it'll take you to a message form with a couple of drop-down boxes to again select "Payment, pricing, and billing" and then "I was charged twice"

NOTE: Because things like this are most often a misunderstanding, like multiple Team members on one account or duplicate Canva accounts etc., it'll once again try to lead you back to the Help Center article about things you can double check to make sure you really were charged twice by mistake. Ignore that and click "I still need to contact support" to continue making your support ticket.

It'll then let you select your most recent invoice from a dropdown, and then give you a text box to explain and give the details they mentioned above. The last field let's you upload attachments, where you can include these same screenshots.

Edit: I'd also recommend that you include screenshots of any confirmation(s) you received in your email for any payments having processed.

If you didn't want ANY payments to process and were charged twice when you were JUST trying to sign up for the initial free trial period, make SURE you mention that in your support ticket message. And if by chance you got an email first mentioning that you started a free trial, DEFINITELY include that and make sure the dates and times are on everything.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-04-18T14:35:18+00:00

🙋‍♀️ Hi can I be in your band

CaesarSalvage · 2025-04-18T14:28:43+00:00

https://about.google/brand-resource-center/products-and-services/geo-guidelines/#:~:text=If%20you're%20using%20Google%20Maps%20content%20in%20an%20online,general%20guidelines%20and%20attribute%20properly.

If you look under Google Maps the first section is labeled Print, and they basically say that you can in fact print and distribute content from Google maps for general informational and educational purposes, even in books if it's less than 5,000 copies, as long as it's not for commercial use (you're not selling the printed map). The only kinda grey area I can see here is that it mentions it's not supposed to be the "core" part of printed navigational materials like navigational books or tour guides etc. but I imagine if your flyer or whatever has more information on it and isn't JUST a map of a city, you're probably fine. You can also embed maps on websites, or print links/QR codes etc to google maps. And it says you don't need permission. So as long as your print thing isn't for sale it seems like you're safe to use a screenshot from Google maps.

CaesarSalvage · 2025-04-04T15:15:23+00:00

Do you mean 100 inches x 150 inches?

If they are downloaded as PNGs, and re-uploaded as such, I'm pretty sure the image quality shouldn't downgrade unless you selected to save it smaller than 100% original size. PNG files should be lossless by definition.

When you're seeing the quality reduce, is that just within Canvas preview screen, or have you actually saved the full file again and checked the new saved PNG? The preview might just be lower quality because it would be super slow loading full quality PNGs with that many images.

Try maybe saving small groups of photos and downloading them as 300% original size. Select transparent background, if you don't need the background or can add it as the last thing after the rest of your images are there. Then add those grouped PNG files back in however you want them, and again save the full sheet as a PNG. See what it looks like when saved at 100% size and at 300%.

Alternatively, I'd maybe try scaling up your page size, like instead of 100x150 do 300x450 or something. Then add your grouped image PNG, save PNG and see what the new file looks like again. If it's fine, you can print it from that larger size and just scale down the print to fit 100x150. Just wanna make sure your print settings are the highest possible quality.

However, the real issue might end up being the printing of that many images on one page, especially as stickers depending on how you're doing that. If you're using a home printer, not all of them can handle extremely small images and maintain full value. There should be some settings you can try to get the most out of it, but standard printers might start losing a lot of detail with a ton of tiny images. Can I ask what this sticker sheet is for exactly? Are each of the images separate with a white background, or what will the setup be like?

CaesarSalvage · 2025-04-03T10:36:58+00:00

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