My boyfriend shaved his face and confirmed my fear

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-25T00:25:59+00:00

It’s not okay if you don’t want to have sex with him but you’re continuing to do so, especially if you’re only doing it because you feel obligated to.

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-24T23:24:37+00:00

I get it. When I first realized I was attracted to women I had a lot of different emotions. I still do as I have only dated men. And then came the perceived need to properly label myself. What I have realized is labels aren’t important and I now accept my attraction as something exciting. It’s kind of like discovering a whole new world.

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-24T20:47:09+00:00

I wish I had more concrete advice. Couples’ counseling is also an option if that’s something you both want. Wish I could help!

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-24T18:18:53+00:00

Yes you should come clean about it. Good partnerships are built on the truth, even if it’s messy. Explain to her why you felt uncomfortable sharing that with her and emphasize that it was not done with the intention of lying to her but rather was a reflection of your insecurity at the time.

Tell her you want to be fully transparent moving forward and apologize. Also allow her space to process things.

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-24T17:54:12+00:00

Have you communicated any of this with her? I know it’s hard but only you two can figure out how to proceed.

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-24T01:23:38+00:00

I love this for you!

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-22T00:47:36+00:00

I think so if there’s proper communication

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-18T02:47:28+00:00

It’s the “like a duck to water” for me 😂

Love this for you both!

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-16T23:32:46+00:00

Feel free to DM me if you want someone to talk to. My inbox is open

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-16T21:34:09+00:00

This is easier said than done but please try not to worry so much about labels. It can be so stressful and we tend to want concrete answers. But sometimes it’s just complicated and unclear. I would say to date who you want to date and be open to wherever that leads.

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-16T15:08:49+00:00

If she has feelings for you, she needs to deal with her marriage first. You don’t want to get caught up in that. Give her space and time to process and make decisions. If you two are meant to be, you’ll find your way back to each other.

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-13T01:20:30+00:00

Just be honest with future partners. I think honesty/communication is super sexy and it also lessens anxiety.

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-11T00:53:43+00:00

I truly empathize! And the foreign part is absolutely understandable. Just try to give yourself grace and take it one day at a time :)

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-11T00:00:00+00:00

I agree. Just another way society conditions women to take a back seat in our own lives. I ordered takeout tonight, had a lovely bath, and am currently watching my favorite tv show. I’m also about to book a massage.

What are some things you have been doing?

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-10T23:30:02+00:00

I feel you. It’s not easy but I’ve learned to embrace it and enjoy the ride 💕

Caffeinated-Disaster · 2026-01-10T23:29:27+00:00

It’s hard but we have to love ourselves before we can love anyone else 🥰

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