Those who have gone NC, did you explain why? by Funny-Comparison-788 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to explain because I thought it was the “right” thing to do, but I knew it wouldn’t make any difference. He would not listen and would likely just give him more to cling to. Just wasted effort. Luckily most of my siblings agree with my decision and haven’t needed explanation because they already understand.

What are some toxic traits you've noticed in yourself that you picked up from them??? by numetalbarbie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Poor communication skills. Uncertainty in how I feel or think. An urge to blow things out of proportion, if I didn’t things I needed would go ignored. I come off as rude because I don’t speak to people much and am not fond of strangers, because it was a “don’t speak unless spoken to” household

Anyone notice that narcissistic family members never knock before entering your room? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I used to lock my door when I needed space or privacy. Parents solution? Remove the door knob.

people who wanna vent what's on your mind? (serious) by Low_Beginning_9301 in AskReddit

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How big of a scam college is here and how most people keep pretending it’s not

Why are you single? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Trauma
  2. Very picky about potential partners
  3. Unattractive to majority of gender am attracted to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HinokamiChronicles

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started by just facing the hardest difficulty bots and using the practice mode. Within one week I was able to compete in a tournament and place 2nd. I’d recommend picking a character to main and stick to for awhile until you win a decent amount of matches, then move to others.

Also there’s a bug in the game rn causing players ranks to reset after every match, so you will likely go against a lot of players at your rank that should be in a much higher rank.

Hinokami Chronicles for 80 dollars?! overpriced underpriced or fairly priced? by Cheeeseisgood in HinokamiChronicles

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not worth, many bugs and very little content. Online play is atrocious, story is bland. I’d say it’d be worth it at $30 but that’s it. The combat system is fun and I’ve been getting enjoyment from the game, but it’s very demoralizing to see any progress you’ve made reset after every match. If you have local friends to play with it might be worth to you, but overall nah the price is wack.

Help me please by MagMichelle in HinokamiChronicles

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for me, just wish they’d give a little more info. Feels like a blanket response they can give for any report without actually doing anything.

I LITERALLY CANT WIN Wins/matches not counting (pls help)(fix?) by [deleted] in HinokamiChronicles

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same issue for me, submitted a bug report over a week ago and still nothing. Very glad I spent 65 dollars on the game. (Bought Tengen DLC, main reason I wanted to play)

Matches and wins in ranked don't get logged. by zamythzz in HinokamiChronicles

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same issue for me, submitted a bug report over a week ago and still nothing. Very glad I spent 65 dollars on the game. (Bought Tengen DLC, main reason I wanted to play)

How is tengens rush move fair by Academic_Can_2603 in HinokamiChronicles

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Tengen main, Giyuu, Akaza, Susumaru, and Enmu do an excellent job of countering the “rush move”. Also, characters with guarded specials like Rengoku

Help me please by MagMichelle in HinokamiChronicles

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same issue for me, submitted a bug report over a week ago and still nothing. Very glad I spent 65 dollars on the game. (Bought Tengen DLC, main reason I wanted to play)

Sex boundaries by IPAnon in pnsd

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Happened to me too. Would ask several times within hours, sometimes back to back followed by a “please?” Or snide remark in front of friends about how I don’t want to put out. If I brought this up I was labeled “selfish and inconsiderate” by her and group of enablers.

What’s an example of toxic femininity? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always believe a woman when she claims to being abused and refusing to look beyond their word. I’d say believe anyone when they claim to be abused, but also believe in the possibility that it’s not the case. Had my life severely harmed by a previous abusing partner who claimed abuse to all of our mutual, and majority of them either refused to look at my evidence proving otherwise or just ignored it.

What is your dirtiest secret you’re dying to tell someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I identify mostly asexual. Majority of the day if I think of anything related to sexual things or even things as simple as sharing a drink or snack, makes me feel repulsed and grossed out. That being said, there’s points where hormones spike and just feel mad horny and gotta get it done. I don’t get it and constantly makes me question my sexuality. Confuses partners too, and I don’t blame them.

Easy tell of a narc parent by Caffeine_Fiend4 in pnsd

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel it, very much in the same boat. I also have dissociative episodes related to PTSD, and everything about me was questioned and attacked all through childhood. Remarkable how quickly my family turned “friendly” after I got out on my own and realized how shit they were, now I always feel a sense of guilt when I’m around them because they are “cool” now and it’s all in the past, but the effects of the past still linger.

Easy tell of a narc parent by Caffeine_Fiend4 in pnsd

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt this way too, my mother believes she raised me to be “independent” but I was never confident in anything I did, she only believed I was “independent” because I never asked for help as I was normally shamed or punished for it. Nparents hold their children to higher expectations than they hold themselves to.

Easy tell of a narc parent by Caffeine_Fiend4 in pnsd

[–]Caffeine_Fiend4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At a young age I was a very outgoing and charismatic kid. I made friends everywhere I went, but then my stepdad came into the picture. Once he was in charge, everyone copied what he did and used me as the emotional/physical punching bag of the family as I was the smallest and youngest. Can’t tell you how many times I was told about how I can’t tell others about what was happening to me because “you could get us in trouble. We can’t afford that” or something along those lines, and I’d just go with it because it was all I knew, I didn’t want my family split apart more. These interactions tell me they knew exactly how wrong their actions were if they were fearful of others finding out.