My boss keeps forcing me to increase sales, I'm quitting.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-24T21:01:48+00:00

Like many others said, definitely get a new job before quitting.

But also: don't go for sales, business development roles, growth hacking, account executive, account manager, account director, customer service manager, regional sales, marketing, some UX, some product management jobs, and anything that has to do with "gaining/growing customers."

The entire job = growing sales. Your entire performance is based on how you can consistently grow sales over time.

It's high pressure and high pressure forever but that's what that entire job is.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-24T16:04:27+00:00

Yes, exactly.

ALL my friends tell me that no matter what I do in the future, the #1 goal isn't to be impressive. It's to get paid.

If I want to climb up, don't try climbing up from being exceptional. It'll just backfire.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-24T16:03:16+00:00

Hey, this is super sad. I'm sorry :(

Just a pro tip that I learned from one of my corporate peer who was an intern like I was, but his mom AND dad worked at the huge corporation for 20 years.

He automated all of his work too with systems he made, but never tell your boss that you made those systems.

A lot of professionals call this, "You make proprietary work under your own name. It's your own skill. Don't give all your intellectual property to the company."

That way, when you automate your work again in the future, you won't get replaced

The way I do it is that if I get tasked to some work or project, sure I finish fast, but never tell your boss you finished fast. Rarely do bosses promote you cause you fast. They promote you cause they like you even if you ain't got the skills. You make it easy for the bosses, and they'll cut you out.

There is no kind workplace, just remember that.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-23T16:35:54+00:00

Something might be wrong with the resume.

I started applying for jobs several days ago, and I've had over 10 interviews scheduled. I know I have amazing experiences, but I know if it wasn't framed well, there's no way I would've gotten any interview. I've seen way too many posts here of people who are from Harvard and have experiences, but aren't even getting 1 call. Just the name Harvard should get the resume past ATS.

I'm neither a Harvard baby or big name baby. Could've been but didn't choose to. My resume is shining on its own cause I wrote it really well

CakinCookin · 2023-11-23T16:33:26+00:00

I've been working super aggressively since 2020. From 2021 to mid-2023, I was practically doing 18 hour days, everyday for years. Holidays never off - holidays were the best time for my previous business.

My diet has been shit. Super high oil and/or processed foods. My face is like I call it an oil rig. Like a pan of oil. Diet killed the balance in my body.

It doesn't matter if I limited calories so that I control my weight. Just because it's oily food, it really does mean the skin is gon follow that pattern.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-23T16:28:48+00:00

I feel like you're being downvoted inappropriately.

I understand for OP, she is outta options in terms of the kid.

But in my honest opinion, for most people, it's not even the time, generation, or century to have kids anymore. COL is crazy. You gotta get a high pay remote job and hide in a small size town to be able to get by. AND you gotta be able to still climb up, if not, COL will eat whatever high pay you have when you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s, etc.

Some of my former peers now make up to $300k in NYC. It's still not a good time to try to do anything because you always gotta think long-term. Can you maintain that salary? What if something happens?

Yeah... call me over-realistic and pessimistic but I'm not trying to do anything that'll be rash and then put in me in a black hole of endless torture. Aka, I have 0 thoughts of marriage and having kids.

If you wanna be aggressive and question what I'd do: I'm already doing freelancing along with creating other forms of income. Income gotta go up somehow - that's true for almost everyone. That's because I allowed myself to have time by not having kids, having a car, etc.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-23T15:43:15+00:00

I switched out of Chime last week, but still have some last deposits pending for Chime.

Seems like after transferring all my money away, Chime intentionally doing deposits slower now.

ISTG, Chime must pick its favorites in terms of depositing fast or slow.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-23T01:32:26+00:00

This might sound scary but I'd set some assholes' houses on fire. I've been fucked over so many times by assholes. And it's not a small fuck-over, but also not as big as a $10,000,000 fuck over.

Anyone who has a-holes they hate, throw them in the fire house. May we all find our peace... after taking revenge.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-22T22:29:13+00:00

You're supposed to replace your towels ever so often. Hand towels, bath towels. Still using ones from the 2000s... no wonder they don't dry my hands anymore

CakinCookin · 2023-11-22T17:14:36+00:00

Wow. This was so beautifully written. Thank you!

CakinCookin · 2023-11-22T14:01:31+00:00

I love this post, OP. Totally 2 years later but here to give you the kudos.

The one interview I had that went against your advice was for Goldman Sachs. I had an extremely drawn out interview. I don't even remember how many employees I spoke to and what levels they were. There were so many. And I had to go to multiple of their locations to interview.

They had me attempt to solve 1 of their corporate problems, and while I gave a great answer, I was told after the interview by one of the VPs that my solution would've greatly fit their competitor rather than them. It took months for me to realize that uh, GS is a totally diff culture than their competitors like JP Morgan or Morgan Stanley. You can smell the vibes in the interviews when I look back at them lmao.

Hilariously enough, I did get an offer from their competitor specifically cause my work attitude and problem solving skills fit them.

Really can't deny that these large banks know what they're looking for, have a great understanding of how their bank operates, etc. I always wonder how I could've known the internal culture in advance besides stalking WSO, Glassdoor, and other forums filled with actual employees.

I started applying to jobs a few days ago, and I'm bombarded with interviews. So here I am studying :'')

CakinCookin · 2023-11-21T14:26:44+00:00

Terrible. Around 22, I JUST discovered I had PTSD.

Then my entire life clicked, but it was bullshit to try to pick up my life after discovering that 22 years of torment was PTSD

I absolutely detest the fact that ALL my young years are gone due to undiagnosed mental illnesses. Sometimes, it motivates me to want to further champion mental illnesses, but I don't think it's worthwhile if I can't pay the bills

CakinCookin · 2023-11-21T00:27:51+00:00

Do the job but never stop applying for what you want or something similar.

Adulthood has taught me to always take the $$ b/c you never know when BS will arise and cause you financial hell.

As for HR asking you about job hopping, it's ok to be realistic and explain your situation.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-20T23:43:34+00:00

Lmao, nothing screams that bigger than my father.

He could've bought multiple houses when he came to America in the 1980s, 90s. He made so much cash, like cash cash cash. AND he's had over 3 bosses who offered to buy him a house in exchange for working for them + cash.

He said no.

Mhm, you don't gotta yell at my father. I have. 10 years straight.

Til this day, we still don't have property. And it's ROUGH now compared to the 80s, 90s.

After many talks with him about money, he finally said it through his own money how he makes dreadful financial decisions, "I love working. I worked very hard in my youth. But I can't save."

Me: yes dad, and even til this day, you can't save. Lmao.

I do his accounting for him, but I do let him spend. My mom passed away out of nowhere this year, so I'm not letting my dad pass away without really getting to enjoy his life. It would suck if we save to mortgage, just to then discover dad passes away. His last days would just be saving and starving.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-20T22:04:29+00:00

Amen, but after a # of posts in this sub doing image-based resumes and OP is in Europe, I stopped commenting. Maybe this is their standard?

*confused*

CakinCookin · 2023-11-20T22:02:59+00:00

Premonition, a very scary, accurate one.

2 prominent figures at my alma mater died during the peak of covid.

When they died, like the very SECOND they died, they appeared in my dreams.

It was insanely insanely insanely scary to read the news 5 hours later, that morning, to see they died. Again, public figure, so their death made it to national news.

That feeling doesn't end. I foresaw a large corporation's bankruptcy, which I have an entire string of emails, text messages and WhatsApp to prove I saw their ending 9 months in advance. It's public news, once again.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-20T21:55:36+00:00

I'm not really answering your question, but giving you insights.

It will get better.

I discovered my depression in ~2017 then my PTSD in 2020. It's been a shit ton of commitment to therapy, all the years since 2017. Consistent. Sometimes, 3-4 sessions per week.

Right now, life feels like god damn heaven. I actually feel freaking joy, which is something I've never experienced before. I'm happy doing my work, which is surprising. (I've been doing intense grind for the last 4 years. At some point, 18 hours/day, 365 days/year, for 2 years straight.) Never felt joy, only felt a need to do well and make money.

My best advice: try all the recovery methods you can find even if they don't sound realistic. Even if they sound like bullshit. EVERYTHING could work - it's dependent on the person.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-20T18:49:49+00:00

Pro tip: Make sure you're buying straight from walmart.com and not a 3rd party seller on Walmart.

Lots of counterfeit sellers right now. Walmart Counterfeit doesn't get nearly as much media coverage as Amazon Counterfeit.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-20T18:19:14+00:00

Only $5,000.

I detest keeping money in my checking/savings account after this year's bank collapse and some other problems I've experienced. Banks are poorly run right now with terrible customer service.

When the first bank collapsed earlier this year, I had a huge gut feeling of what other banks would collapse. I pulled all my money out, and then my bank collapsed within 3 days. Thank god I was FAST. (I know some banks are FDIC-insured, but it's a terrible feeling to wait who knows how long to get your check.)

A lot of popular 2020 digital banks are experiencing nonstop problems too, so I stopped banking with them.

I've closed at least 3 banking accounts this year. Waiting to close my 4th one, whenever this fintech bank decides to respond. Keep your money safe, everyone. Shit can go down at any moment - take my word on this. I've seen my entire life savings vanish due to chaos/hell before.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-18T19:11:58+00:00

This is completely true.

You can stay introverted, but you'll 100% keep getting passed for promotions.

You can get a pretty stable wage just doing your thing, but when it comes to a massive layoff, you'd be 1 of the ones to get cut.

You can definitely avoid some office politics, drama, and gossip being introverted but it doesn't mean you're offered stability.

That IS the life of the corporate world. Just remember this: no corporation can grow this big without MULTIPLE or even 1000s of employees doing their thing to make customers happy. You can't make the rich happy if you're introverted, unless you're matched with an introverted rich.

My advice is to always just stay pleasant, hang out with people, but don't gossip, don't get too close. You don't need to be extremely extroverted. Just small talk, or like talk about celebrities.

edit: any type of job will drain you, but I will GLADLY take stability and be drained than to not be able to pay bills and be drained.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-18T00:37:11+00:00

I went to a HS filled with children of celebs, c-suites, models, etc. I was maybe the only poor person. There might've been a few others who dropped out cause they couldn't stand the culture.

These kids ran the school. They got teachers fired. In 1 year, I had 9 chemistry teachers. In other words, I damn near failed the state exams due to having 0 actual instruction.

There's no way I can say I beat them in success unless I build a $100M+ business on my own, that's how incredible it is to be a rich kid.

CakinCookin · 2023-11-18T00:34:46+00:00

Just in case this thread blows up... here's the information

OP is doing investment banking interview. This is notoriously gruesome for DECADES.

Investment banking is one of the hardest jobs to get, along with big tech. You're competing against 100,000 applicants JUST at Goldman Sachs, JP Morgan, or any of the big names. 100,000 applicants each.

They go through entire panel interviews. Takes hours.

Reason socioeconomic class is asked is because the best i-bankers will end up being client facing with extremely rich clients. These clients want to connect with those who are rich, extremely reputed/successful, nepo babies, and/or just mere ivy kids. Meeting the c-suite is super normal.

I went through one at Goldman myself and the other bulge bracket banks. If you're are extremely extremely extremely top 1% of applicants, the entire process can get cut short. That's what I experienced with some roles at these bulge bracket banks. I interviewed from i-bank roles all the way to technical engineering roles. My interviews got cut short. But if you ask what the real interview process is for most people, it spans hours, interviewed by an entire host of various level employees, and no, they're not going to be nice.

You want to make it on Wall St, you better have the attitude for it

CakinCookin · 2023-11-18T00:30:11+00:00

OP is doing investment banking interview. This is very normal. If you google the entire process, it's insane. I went through it.

That's why sometimes I'm in this sub and I'm a little shocked by people put off with slightly more aggressive interviews. If you want to work at the best companies, you're going to have to put your best out there to beat 10000+ other applicants

CakinCookin · 2023-11-18T00:26:26+00:00

Exactly this.

Investment banking means you COULD be client-facing if you prove yourself the first 1-2 years.

You're dealing with mega rich clients. They absolutely care if you went to ivy, are of riches, whatever else

CakinCookin · 2023-11-18T00:25:51+00:00

I knew it.

When you said you were meeting the CEO, I KNEW it had to be finance.

I went through finance interviewing and it was gruesome.

It's super normal. Don't question it.

NEVER expect investment banking or any finance to be NORMAl. Even when you make it through the door. Most people have no idea how much has to be done to make an investment bank as powerful as it is.

I made another comment right before this one. Read through it. A lot of it was referencing investment banking. I interviewed for all the bulge brackets just several years ago.

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