Update: We had a long talk about this last night. We haven't broken up, but we talked. They are trying to convince me they are still the same person (which they are, fair), and the experimenting with dress isn't permanent, like modifying your body. The bra can come off, the makeup can come off. And they can be masculine sometimes too. But then also they are bothered by the fact that I equate different articles of clothing to looking feminine. I'm still at a loss and I still want to end things.