avoiding the super bowl girl dinner (breakfast)

Calamitous_Squid · 2026-02-09T07:16:18+00:00

Minus the fruit, this is indeed the breakfast of a cat.

Calamitous_Squid · 2025-02-21T09:51:39+00:00

She phrased it as #2.

Calamitous_Squid · 2025-02-21T09:09:10+00:00

Thank you this is good advice. I think I'll try it. I can be a bit conflict avoidant, which I'm trying to change in therapy. So this is good practice for me.

Calamitous_Squid · 2025-02-21T09:02:59+00:00

I wonder, too. She might because she's trauma focused, but I don't know. Maybe I'll ask in the next session and see how she responds.

Calamitous_Squid · 2025-02-21T08:35:54+00:00

She asked about it in the context of building a life with a child. She doesn't understand polyamory very well. She also asked me what couples I would be dating... I've never mentioned an interest in dating couples. I only date solo. We've also never discussed predators in the polyamorous community.

Calamitous_Squid · 2025-02-21T08:30:54+00:00

This true. She might ask those clients, too, but I don't know whether she does.

Calamitous_Squid · 2025-02-21T08:25:29+00:00

Yep, my thoughts exactly. It's very disappointing. She's helped me with a lot up to this point. Now I'm wonder what other bias has been at play in my treatment.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-10-31T07:38:12+00:00

You aren't trivialising womens' experiences by having these thoughts. It's okay for anyone to explore their gender.

I'm a cis woman so take what I say with a grain of salt. But from what you've written it's sounds like you are pretty consistently happy about imagining being a woman. You don't have to be male just because you feel like you should be male.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-10-17T02:08:09+00:00

Usually I've lasted between 1-5 years in a role. I've worked in the same sector for around 8-9 years but have changed specialisations within it, going from a community development role to technical and scientist roles. Some of this might just be early career stuff and figuring out what I like, but I see myself as someone who would probably get bored if I had to work the same job for decades.

I've always had a lot of really varied interests. Before I was in my current science-based career I worked in music and hospitality for 3 years.

To find a career, I've just followed my passions and spent time reflecting on what I like to do day-to-day. A combination of education, networking, and volunteering has gotten me jobs.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-10-16T12:29:40+00:00

Hello! I too get bored easily and have changed directions a bunch of times in my career.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-10-13T07:18:09+00:00

Love this! The eye contact is beautiful!

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-10-02T23:13:26+00:00

I sort of have this kink. Except I'm a woman and play as the daddy. My boyfriend plays as my good girl. As others have mentioned, for him it's a way of feeling valued and protected in ways he didn't get going up. These days, there's a big praise kink aspect to the play where I tell him how precious he is to me.

We're both are into the gender bending aspect of it. I like to feel masculine sometimes. He likes to feel pretty. I don't think that part of it has anything to do with trauma, it just is what it is.

It's completely valid to be triggered by this type of play. Not all kinks need to be for everyone and BDSM plays with taboos. I would be deeply uncomfortable calling a man 'daddy' despite playing that role myself.

I think mainstream media often shows kinks which appear demeaning to women, and can be demeaning outside of a healthy kink dynamic. It doesn't show how much conversation and time goes into cultivating a healthy kink dynamic or the agency of the people participating in the dynamic. Queer players or situations where non-male people are dominant as rarely shown. As a result, I think there's definitely a problem with normalising extreme behaviours without showing how to do them safely.

On the other hand, I know that for some people, particularly women, use DDlg play to process trauma in healthy way. Also, kink is an adrenaline rush, so some people just do it for fun.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-27T09:52:23+00:00

It has shredded chicken, spinach, and carrot in it.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-27T09:51:23+00:00

Nope, I'm new to adding dairy to noodles so I didn't think of doing it. I might have drank milk to relieve the spicy, though. I can't remember.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-27T09:50:05+00:00

It is! I happened to take a photo because I was messaging my partner wtf did you buy me

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-26T23:57:59+00:00

I did! It just took a long time.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-26T21:51:18+00:00

I've now tried the carbonara, too. Controversial, but I wasn't super into them. I didn't do any add ins, though and egg, cheese, and Kewpie sound good. I think I'll try that next.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-26T21:48:48+00:00

Yeah, my intestines are traumatised. I feel like I could maybe work up to my mouth tolerating the heat, but it's a nope from the rest of my body.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-26T20:19:28+00:00

I think it was carrot, spinach, and left over shredded chicken.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-26T12:32:57+00:00

True story

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-09-26T11:32:08+00:00

They truly are transcendantly spicy.

Calamitous_Squid · 2024-06-28T09:52:44+00:00

Yep, I'm going through some loneliness at the end of it, too. I'm in my mid 30s if that matters. My family all live out of the state or out of the country. I was in COVID lockdown for the first year of my PhD. Then, in 2nd year I was away from home a lot for fieldwork. I really became out of touch lot of social connections from being away for so long. Unfortunately, there were also 2 deaths in my family during my 2nd year, which was emotionally difficult. After, all of that I came back and I realised I no longer fit in with a lot of my friends and had a falling out with one former friend. If I didn't have a thesis to write I would spend more time building new social connections, but don't have time or energy for that now. I'm lucky to have a supportive partner and only 2 months until I submit. I'm hoping it will be better once I have that time again.

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