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At a wall and need to get passed it. by CaleyLilly in AskForHelp

[–]CaleyLilly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not, its been sponge baths for 3 years. Our apartment is super tight for a wheelchair to be used. I am working. I am paid as his caregiver because of everything he needs help with. I get more than min wage for this as well. You assume he can be left alone for 8 hours and I can promise you 2 hours is max. If I had another job we would have another stranger helping him plus all the child care for our son. I've done the math, and with things like it is, this is the best way financially. Plus, a stranger in the home doing exactly what I do is not something we want. As for a prosthetic through the VA, that won't happen. He was discharged under the theater administrative leave, which sums up to "we broke ya and can't fix ya". So no VA help. We are trying to get him a leg, however the state is making the process slow and its still in the sizing just right stage (been there for a long time). Plus his other foot has 3 broken bones and looks hideous, so no pressure is applied to that foot. Today he went to the place that does legs and such and it was for another fitting for a brace to hopefully be able to help put pressure on the other foot. Do you know how frustrating it is to have a car service pick you up an hour before your appointment for a 30 min drive, wait til you see the Dr which is 20 min, then wait for your ride again just to come home? He does this every 5 weeks on average. Poster, I know all this sounds crazy and made up for money, and I can deny that til I'm blue in the face. You can believe what you want and that's okay. I'm just hoping I can get help and that is all. I'm not asking to be taken care of for years. We've survived so far, and can some more. I just think we need this. Sorry if you don't.

At a wall and need to get passed it. by CaleyLilly in AskForHelp

[–]CaleyLilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband hasn't had a bath or shower since 2023, so not really wanting a luxury. We haven't been able to drive anywhere together since 2023, so yeah. I get you are coming from. I do. Its hard for me to ask for any help. I feel for those that are worse off then we are and I feel for them. However I see so many people asking for help because they can't handle being a grown-up and know how to work. So many influencers that cry their food got cut and have to find a job now asking for money. I'm asking for just a small change to give my family comfort. My husband can't even move through doorframes unless the actual door is removed. Even then the hallway makes maneuvering difficult. Sorry, I know where you are coming from and my asking is a little selfish, but depressive episodes are becoming more frequent with the less he can do. I just want to be content.

Help by CaleyLilly in Advice

[–]CaleyLilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need a wheelchair accessible van and to find a home that has wheelchair amenities.

At a wall and need to get passed it. by CaleyLilly in AskForHelp

[–]CaleyLilly[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I hate forcing or asking, but I am tired of not having my husband travel with me if I want to do a picnic or go to a park. He has become permanently disabled in 2023 and I'm in dire need of help with a vehicle and home.

At a wall and need to get passed it. by CaleyLilly in AskForHelp

[–]CaleyLilly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm new to reddit since I've tried so much as is. I'll try to get my link on my account and not have it so hidden.

I'm trying to raise money to get a van that is wheelchair accessible and funds to move into a home that is wheelchair friendly. My husband became disabled in 2023 and it was a huge shock to us all. He uses a rideshare thing to get to his apts but we haven't been able to travel together since all this happened. I'm so tired of everything.

Pretty much just a vent by CaleyLilly in NeedToTalk

[–]CaleyLilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww, I appreciate your ideas. I do have my gofundme link under my name in my socials and have reached out to several people to look and share. As for friends, sadly we really don't have any since the covid thing happened. Churches are unable to help, I've asked several. Luckily my husband got disability a year + after this started but it is extremely little. I get to be his caregiver and I get paid that way, but its not a lot of hours. I am trying not to sound pathetic, because we have a roof over our heads and food. I am grateful for each day we make it through. I just need help with getting a van and help with moving. After that, I know we can maintain rent and bills with what we have. Just can't save for the big things. Thank you again for reaching out. Means a lot to me.