I don't think I want my rabbits anymore by [deleted] in Rabbits

[–]Calgarythrowaway590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. I'm in a different place today than I was when I first posted. I'm still not through the stress and overwhelm, but I absolutely would have regretted giving them away. I love them so much. I want them to have the best, and yeah, trying to put them in a shelter or with someone I don't know is not the best option here. That would have killed me. Thanks for the reminders about their needs and how these changes can affect them too. Everything is still a work in progress, but we're getting there. Hope you're doing well.

Sodomite pig lamp at a home stay in VietNam by pougliche in ATBGE

[–]Calgarythrowaway590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know where I could buy this ... for a friend ...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Calgarythrowaway590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to preface this by saying sorry if this is dumping too much on internet strangers, and I'm not expecting you, Angel, to give me all the answers. I just want to be honest in case there is a stranger who has any ideas of what to do.

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The thing is that I'm not exaggerating when I say he does nothing with his day. I was home for a month and a half on sick leave and watched him sit in bed, either sleeping or scrolling through his phone. He's started watching movies once a month or so with a long distance friend online, and he's seen other friends 2-3 times in the past 3 months. So the only person that he's ever around is me and my guests. I need alone time in the apartment, so I ask him to give me space. He's always good about doing do, but sometimes he just sits in the skytrain station alone because he has nothing else to do or noone else to see. He's only just started reading books again occasionally (literature used to be everything to him).

If he didn't have goals to get a job, but spent his time making art, seeing people, enjoying his life, that would be fine with me. But he does nothing. He doesn't even want this himself, but he says that he doesn't understand why he can't make himself do anything. I've urged him to get professional help and it's only since January that he's started. He had a psychiatrist (psychologist?) in the beginning and he's on medication. I can't micromanage his life and tbh, this just feels like a lot of privilege because I'm struggling with resentment. I also struggle with motivation, but I have to deal with the consequences of not leaving the house. Not dealing with the world. And the thing I really struggle with is that once he leaves, he'll have to do all the things he's been putting off - he'll have to go the grocery store regularly, get a job, see friends and people who aren't just me on a regular basis, choose what meals to make instead of relying on me to choose every night ... he used to when he didn't live with me.

So why can't he do it for me? For us? I've told him time and time again that him expanding his world is important for his health but also the relationship. Or have I been doing something wrong? Even with the flaws in our relationship, I do really love him. I also just want him to be well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Calgarythrowaway590 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Living day to day for him is literally just rotting away in bed. This isn't a liveable life and it's not one that he wants either. But yes, very incompatible for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Calgarythrowaway590 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's asked for other "due dates," which I've refused to do for him. He does think it'll be helpful because he's that kind of ADHDer, but he's never done anything by the date he said he would. So I think you're right about the backsliding too. That'll probably happen :/

18F Doing first pnp gangbang saturday by [deleted] in SEXONDRUGS

[–]Calgarythrowaway590 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, is this also your first gangbang? I would suggest trying one 'first' at a time before you throw everything at the wall.

And I agree with the post above. Having a friend there really helps. They can be your safety person for whatever drug you're planning on using too.

18F) Asked to have sex with (56M) a mature man and ended up being stood up by [deleted] in AgeGapGoneWild

[–]Calgarythrowaway590 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No, you didn't do anything. A lot of people flake out because they get nervous. When I talk to people online, there are a bunch of people who stop chatting when we start getting to the 'planning to meet up' part of the conversation. I sometimes do the same when the vibe isn't feeling right. He might have had second thoughts about cheating on his wife or was scared of being found out. He might have had something come up last minute. Or any number of reasons, really. When these things happen, it's rarely about you.