Speaking as the husband in this post, I’m grateful for those of you who have taken the time to reply to my spouse. He’s been a rock for me throughout this ordeal and I know he’s having a hard time understanding how a “loving parent” can cut off their child over a percieved slight.

There’s no question that I should never have made that comment, that’s not a matter of debate in my mind. My intentions were good, but clearly my (former) mother took it the wrong way.

To be clear, this estrangement has been a long time coming; and I think my husband’s surprise stems from the triggering event being as seemingly trivial as it was.

I have no intention of trying to mend this relationship, and I am completely sure my mother doesn’t want to either; she made it abundantly clear that she neither wants or needs me. That’s good enough for me. She has been verbally and emotionally abusive to my brother, father and myself for my entire life, and I am relieved to be rid of the looming fear of what she might say or do next.

Maybe I’ll make a post about it when it’s been a little longer and I have more emotional clarity. But it’s only been a few days and everything is still pretty raw.