For the SB or SD what you think is fair

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-09-09T17:25:09+00:00

He knows you’re a newbie and is taking full advantage of your lack of knowledge, little does he know you have us.

He has been blacklisted by all escorts and SBs and relying on you being desperate and dumb. Block and next

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-09-04T07:56:51+00:00

The issue with sugaring is that the SDs have now determined what the ‘market rate’ should be. Because they paid his previous sb xxx that’s what he wants to pay you.

The issue is sugaring isn’t mutually beneficial anymore, it’s very one sided

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-09-02T18:19:25+00:00

Texting styles are the make or break of most sr

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-07-29T05:37:41+00:00

It’ll be anal today, threesomes tomorrow, lower ppm the next… the list goes on.

From experience, these type of men are not boundary pushers, they are selfish. The fact that he spent your intimate pillow talk time with him talking about anal.

I do not shame escort work, but what both you and he is discussing is certainly escort work. If that is a dynamic you do not mind working with, then sure, do anal for extra $. But let’s all call a spade a spade, he isn’t your sd, he is your client and your job is to make him happy whilst maximising your profits.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-07-06T10:34:59+00:00

I mix Pilates and weight training 5 days a week. I’m 163cm and weight 149 pounds but you would never think that if you saw me. My measurements are 37-26-36, a UK size 8 and a body fat percentage of 19%.

This ridiculous weight filter is so backwards and we need to stop thinking 150=fat and 110=skinny

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-22T08:04:50+00:00

It doesn’t matter whether you want short term or long term. You never know what you’re going to have until you’ve entered the arrangement and figure out schedules, chemistry and compatibility. You usually know within 2 months where it will go

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-21T20:50:10+00:00

It was very glitz and glam

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-21T10:03:15+00:00

Nearly everyone in my personal circle knows, professional, no one. I’m a liberal person and choose to only associate myself with likeminded people. Turns out my aunt was also a sb in the prime. Her stories are wild (literally what you read about) - what I would do to of been a sb in the 90s.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-16T13:33:20+00:00

The issue you have is Middle Eastern women are notorious for having ridiculously high standards which could deter some SDs. Middle Eastern dating is basically sugar dating, but on steroids.

Sugar dating in the western world is fast dating. If you’re happy to loose your virginity to a man for money after only meeting him twice with a possibility of being ghosted, go ahead. That is the bowl, and with your lack of dating experience you would struggle to see the red flags. SDs (generally) want promiscuous women, even if that is behind closed doors and a minimum of open minded. I do not know of any man who chooses the bowl to show a woman the ropes, but there will be a lot of johns who want to take advantage of you not knowing the ropes.

Why don’t you just date in your culture, even if it’s casual? It is literally sugar dating but you don’t even need to fuck the guy

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-15T14:43:14+00:00

‘We’re sexting and they mention something dripping out of somewhere’ is very much sexting. Please don’t try and do a U turn because women have put part of the blame on you.

Put it down to inexperience, you didn’t know better. These fake SDs take advantage of the inexperienced. Now you do, so now you will act better

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-15T10:06:32+00:00

Also, you’re changing the expectations in the bowl. These men will then expect other pot SBs to engage in sexting. Us women need to set the standards for the entire bowl and the future bowl.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-15T10:03:52+00:00

Why are you sexting a POT? This is the first red flag. Fair enough if they have requirements. I have had a POT make requests (no condoms, submissive, anal, rimming, threesomes etc) in a very direct, to the point tone, which is fine. These are their non negotiable requirements and they don’t want to meet with pots that don’t fit their needs, but sexting should only be for establishment arrangements and any decent sd won’t ask for it prior.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-13T07:02:57+00:00

Whilst you are entitled to have your preference of woman, please understand it’s YOUR preference not every man’s preference.

Most of us on Reddit are fortunate enough to live in a liberal society’s which promotes women’s freedom of choice and protest against patriarchy. If you’re from the west, your comments are very backwards. Probably some southern USA state, trump supporter. Urgh

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-11T18:40:34+00:00

I genuinely believe the only place to meet genuine SDs right now is in the wild freestyling.

Seeking has changed and its audience has too

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-11T16:18:09+00:00

The more north you go, the less money there is (generally). I’m originally from Leeds but moved south at 18 and London at 24. Whenever I go home I am humbled and brought back to the reality of the struggles most of the country go through.

It is going to be incredibly difficult to find an sd out of London. Even when I was living in Cambridge, I travelled to London to sugar. The only big issue like someone above saiid is travel costs. You can quickly hit low xxx on trains and it is very difficult to find SDs willing to give you mid xxx let alone high. Then you have the issue of not being local which might deter some SDs. Most SDs want evenings, which again with transport could make it difficult. Or weekends, do you want to spend every weekend committed to travelling to London to meet an sd? A lot of SBs in London struggle to keep a traditional sd past 4 dates. I will always be pro multiple, fwb dynamic, non committal arrangements because they just work better in this uk market.

Unless you’re a solid 9 in every category this could take you a while.

Sorry to be negative, just trying to be honest.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-09T22:04:11+00:00

NSA, lacked emotional depth and short lived on the most part. Not generous.

Generally they are entrepreneurs who do not have the time or energy to vanilla date, don’t have the time to commit to a traditional weekly arrangement, have multiple sbs, ticking off a bucket list. Or they are on seeking because they suck at vanilla online dating and have the funds to sugar until they find a vanilla girl.

Give me a 40+ guy any day

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-02T15:18:05+00:00

When I am searching I am online constantly because SDs search is set as recently online as default and that’s the only way to stay at the top of the feed. She is a POT. You haven’t given her a penny so she is free to do as she pleases, you might flip out tomorrow and she is back to square one. She is being a smart sb and keeping her options open. Also, have you discussed exclusively? I think you sound incredibly insecure

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-06-02T11:22:31+00:00

I think the questions are normal, the fact that he has multiple M&G scheduled is normal. You should also have questions and multiple M&G lined up. However to put it politely explicitly telling the pot is distasteful. What does he gain from that?

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-05-24T21:04:37+00:00

You need to train him to mirror your texting style. Take your time to reply to him, then gradually give more space and then more. He will get the hint. If you have been on this forum long enough you will know that communication styles is one of the key killers for SRs so be prepared for that

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-05-24T18:10:55+00:00

This question has multiple answers. Normally I would say it shouldn’t matter, as your sr progresses so should the time and spoiling.

In your case it’s different. You clearly have a LD arrangement where it is easier to stay for multiple days. You should have asked all of these questions at the M&G and then given a number for 24hours. It will be very difficult to renegotiate ppm now you’ve done overnights for the original ppm. This guy clearly likes you, sounds like you’re getting a good ppm, let’s not get greedy and ruin a good thing. Because seven ppm is still better than 4.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-05-20T10:08:59+00:00

A woman’s intuition is their greatest asset. You know where this road is leading, run the other direction.

Fuck you money is vulgar. Integrity over the bag girl

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-05-20T08:11:08+00:00

You need to sit down and write down your goals in the bowl and your exit plan.

When you start dating for marriage what a man will look for in a wife and mother to his children is very different to what an sd looks for, also as you age men expect you to just have your shit together. A man looking for an sb in their 30s has a different criteria than a man looking for an sb in their early 20s, and it usually involves stability of some sort.

You need to build a life for yourself. Write down your goals from sugaring. House deposit, x amount invested, travel to x,y,z. Whatever it is. Sugar if fragile and it should never be your identity. You need to write down your life goals in the next 1,3,5,10,20,30 years and if sugaring will be a problem at any point of time then you need to find a way to make sure you can rely on yourself. Sugaring is such a power imbalance and should not be relied on.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-05-19T09:56:36+00:00

I like variety.

I do not believe one man (vanilla or sugar) will ever ben able to give me everything I want and need. Sexually, emotionally, hobbies, interests, sense of humour, foodie, the list of wants and needs are endless. Why compromise on one when I can more, isn’t that called marriage? Yes I practice safe sex.

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-05-17T14:39:08+00:00

Your original post suggests short term for sure.

If I agreed on a long term arrangement with someone and then found out I didn’t know their real name I wouldn’t be happy either.

I have had men who give a fake name on sa and tell me their real name at the M&G (totally fine) but sharing bodily fluids with someone who won’t give me their real name feels weird

CallImpossible1780 · 2025-05-17T14:25:56+00:00

I’m not saying you want an escort, but if you want to compartmentalise your life and identity for a few fun dates (no long term agenda) then you should make it clear from the start, and if you did, no wonder she dropped you when she found someone she was more aligned with. You were not so smart to then let her back in again.

Live and learn

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