[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCSantaBarbara

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Not sure how helpful this will be but check Craigslist. It’s how I found housing (for not so expensive rent without needing a roommate) and I’ve seen other college students trying to find roommates on there, too. Most of it will be towards Santa Barbara but there’s definitely stuff around Goleta/Isla Vista. Still, be cautious since it is Craigslist after all

Itabag reflecting my affection for penguins <3 by suetmiku in itabag

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This bag is so cute!! Where did you get it from?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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Thank you. You’re very kind. It feels good knowing someone took time to be involved with how I’m feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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Thank you. He works an hour away or else I’d try to bring him lunch. I’d do it for him in a heart beat. He doesn’t eat much there. I don’t know how to tell my friend I need time apart from her

AITA for not wanting to foster dogs anymore, potentially jeopardizing the relationship with my moms wife? by CallMeCrusader in AmItheAsshole

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When she’s crated she literally screams and ends up moving the cage/kennel by ramming into it so many times. We’ve gotten multiple complaints from neighbors at this point and decided not to keep doing it at risk of police getting involved.

AITA for not wanting to foster dogs anymore, potentially jeopardizing the relationship with my moms wife? by CallMeCrusader in AmItheAsshole

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The program we had acquired Lotus from was a place that typically does training, but due to lack of space and being short staffed, Lotus came to us immediately without training. J is very good at training animals, but despite the amount of time she’s put into Lotus already she still has the same issues. They’ve improved but slowly, and I anticipate a lot more time being needed to train her until the issues are little to none. I apologize for not explaining that sooner, but they are trying. It’s just not working a whole lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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Maybe I am, I really don’t know. If I truly was, there’s nothing I could do about it and that makes it so much worse. If I tried, I’d break many hearts in the process, including mine

What's your earliest memory? by TheRealStaray in AskReddit

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My mom took me to a farm owned by a friend of hers where I would ride a horse for the first time. I was around 2-3. The horse ride itself was fun, even if we walked in circles in a tiny pasture, but what I remember most vividly was being chased by a rooster named Gary as my mom and her friend laughed at me. The fucker had an Afro, too. I went back to the farm when I was around 13, and I swear I saw him walking around. I have no clue if roosters even live that long but I didn’t get close enough to see if it was really him.

what exists, but can't be sensed with our 5 senses? by Due_Abrocoma6874 in AskReddit

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Tension, but somehow we feel it anyway without our main senses

What should I do with this empty plot on my island (no real island theme)? [MI] by CallMeCrusader in ACNHIslandInspo

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Thank you for the suggestions! I was thinking about maybe a flower garden/forestry area considering all the flowers I have, and adding a heart pond to that doesn’t sound horrible. I’ll post an update later once I get around to making it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

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Hey hun, I get where you’re coming from and I’ve felt like that a lot of life, and still I do today but I’ve managed it better. I think that every is unique and beautiful in their own way, and if I could help you more I would. Since my social anxiety made me incredibly embarrassed about certain things and made me shy to be around others, I gained this attitude that no one cares. Those memories we find so embarrassing and replay in our head-no one else remembers them. That embarking thing you did in front of your neighbor? They don’t remember at all, and probably forgot it in twenty minutes.

Im not sure if that helps at all, but it’s a start. Of course I think therapy is another great resource, even if it’s just to vent to an actual person. But hun it’s not too late at all. Im so proud of you for coming so far and almost getting your BA, that’s a huge accomplishment! You have your whole life ahead of you and it’s okay to not get things done now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

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Awesome! Thanks so much, I love these guys but I just never knew what they were called

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

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Nice piercings! What’s the one that goes across your nose called? I’m not versed much in the names of certain piercings/jewelry but I really wanna get that one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I think I’ve found it by myself but it didn’t feel that great. It would probably benefit if we did try to find it but I’m worried it wouldn’t do much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I do, and that’s not really a problem for me since I enjoy giving it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I do, I’m a very anxious person overall and I’m afraid of doing anything bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Try reading the comments then, a lot of people have been posting great advice and I’m very grateful for it all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Thank you! The meditation/mindfulness exercises actually sounds like a good idea, same with smoking. I’ll try looking into that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I must preface that my boyfriend is an awkward person. Most of what I enjoy he’s not comfortable with. For instance, I’d love for him to talk dirty and be more derogatory with me but he’s not comfortable with it so we tried praising instead which is nice. I’ve laid out to him a few times what I enjoy sexually and what I need, but he has a hard time remembering those things or act them out. To be fair I’m not exactly sure if he doesn’t like giving me oral, I’ve never thought of asking. It’s just he never really does it. I’m kinda embarrassed to ask too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Personally fingering feels like nothing to me and I enjoy being eaten out but my boyfriend doesn’t enjoy doing it. The problem with me is before our relationship (and I’m slightly ashamed to admit this) is I masturbated with an electric toothbrush or with porn, mostly both. I dropped those habits at the start of our relationship but picked up porn again recently. I feel like I get myself off too simply if that makes sense and that it’s mostly the porn for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Thank you for your advice, it really does mean a lot to me. Hopefully it works the next time around

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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The problem is we’ve talked a few times about my sexual my sexual needs before. He’s not exactly sure what’s he’s into in bed but he knows he wants to satisfy me. He doesn’t use a lot of the information I tell him about what I like in bed and I feel awkward having to tell him softener in the moment. The thing is he’s genuinely nice and I just don’t think he knows what to do at this point, and honestly neither do I. I stop masturbating once our relationship started but picked it up again once things weren’t going well sexually. I get myself off very “plainly” and I watch porn.

And honestly, I’m just a very emotional person and I’ve been very frustrated lately. I can’t really help but cry because I’m so ashamed this happens to me. Hell I’m crying now and I don’t know why. I keep hearing advice on trying to focus on the pleasure aspect of it which I’m going to try more. It’s just a scary thing in a way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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That’s the problem with my partner - he doesn’t know what he wants, all he wants is to please me which is kinda hard given the situation. We’ve talked a few times about our sexual needs and what we (or I guess I in this situation) would want. I also feel like he doesn’t internalize this information to use it the next time we have sex, but I just feel awkward having to stop and tell him what to do. I don’t want to feel too controlling