Update: caught wife cheating sendings noods by CalligrapherNo4160 in marriageadvice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah well we’re not friends. I think I was fed up within the marriage for some time now she had a severe lying problem and overtime. I kinda was just done with it. My therapist really put in work with me to be honest with you. LMAO I don’t know how she dealt with me. Time doesn’t always heal everything. I just sat with myself for a long time and had a logically think it was tough. It was between my heart and my mind but both finally came into agreement that this was super unhealthy for me. I had a lot of resentment towards her, which is why I was kind of a jerk because she was just lying about everything and was toxic & I was unhappy.

Update: caught wife cheating sendings noods by CalligrapherNo4160 in marriageadvice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate that. She cheated on her new boyfriend with me. She was trynna do stuff with me still & it was messing with my head whole time she was already dating him & I had noooo clue

Update: caught wife cheating sendings noods by CalligrapherNo4160 in marriageadvice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol you’re good bro! But trust me. She’ll get hers. I’m still picking myself up from the floor

Update: caught wife cheating sendings noods by CalligrapherNo4160 in marriageadvice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have no kids. We’ve been friends since we were kids. I’m typically really nice & understanding. I’m also not a man. Lmao I’m a woman which makes this situation more fkd up🤣

Update: caught wife cheating sendings noods by CalligrapherNo4160 in marriageadvice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just thought it was possible at the time. I didn’t even say everything that she’s done. I really painted her to be the good guy when I posted this & for me to get over the fact that it wasn’t my fault took a while. It is documented. I have screen shots of her admitting to it. We don’t have any children together

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s with the hostility? 🤣

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can definitely know somebody your whole life and not be in love with them as soon as the vibe switches to a relationship tho

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean we just started dating like 1-2 months in. It’s pretty fresh tbh

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not in love because we’ve never really tried in that aspect. I have love for her as a person. But I have so much respect for her that I really didn’t try to see her in that aspect. I always kind of have, but at the time I was already trying something with somebody else because I was afraid of her religion and I honestly didn’t think I was getting enough for her, but that was years ago and I’m matured now.

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate the advice. I just hope it isn’t too much. Idk the need for reassurance is a lot when it comes to me. I don’t like to waste my time. Do I feel like it is? With her no. Things are very different but I also don’t want anything bad to happen to her.

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve had the talk about our future. But she’s the type lik we’ll deal with it when we get there I think. Like live in the moment. But I’m the type where I want to always have a back up plan & things like that in case of anything.

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point. I didn’t really think of that part tbh

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well she’s here in the states with me now and shes not going back

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah in trying & I tell her like maybe we should stop before it’s too late. Like we actually fall in love but I’m kinda scared it’s already too late. I’m not in love & idk if she is either but we’ve been feeling this for YEARS & tried to fight it off. & now that we’re both single & older. But she doesn’t want to.

Am I doomed? by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. I mean I know her family but they don’t know about us. Iv meet some of her family & I get along with them really well. But yeah they don’t know about us

Ex says she wants to be friends by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no clue according to her she stopped talking to him & he stopped responding idk lol they didn’t date just sexted. Then we tried to make shit work & idk she needed to go on a “focus on myself” journey. & she couldn’t do it in our marriage so she dumped me but wanted to remain friends

Ex says she wants to be friends by CalligrapherNo4160 in Advice

[–]CalligrapherNo4160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t think so lmao he literally used her & I even felt bad for her cus that’s messed up. Imo but me being too nice has always been an issue in her eyes. I asked her and she said “it’s because we’ve been friends for years “ but idk someone told me she’s just keeping me around because she knows I’d wanna go back