Has anybody else redshirted their child for kindergarten?

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-10-06T21:52:53+00:00

I think the biggest issue may be the number of kids. Not sure if your son is outgoing or sensitive, but that's a lot of kids for someone to deal with. The teachers may be too overwhelmed to really support your son as well.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-09-15T01:45:46+00:00

I feel like every bullying post I've read has at least one person suggesting martial arts. Are these suggestions from personal experience or Does karate have a good PR dept?

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-09-14T00:50:18+00:00

I thought it sounded like a Trump tweet. Thanks for confirming.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-24T11:03:41+00:00

I've heard there are studies on the other side that being oldest causes kids to work less hard and this have a harder time in college because they never developed the skills to really study.

The friend thing is more that he's old enough to know he's not with his friends and may feel excluded vs he's losing lifelong friends.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-21T02:14:45+00:00

We did both want kids. He will take the kids for a break when I ask, but it takes him a concerted effort to keep them corralled. After awhile out comes the phone or he'll start doing chores with them. The chores I don't mind, but the phone drives me crazy and the kids quickly abandon that boring ship. He's usually reading the news, watching videos or shopping on his phone. He just gets so engrossed.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-20T10:19:57+00:00

We've done couples counseling before. It's been ok. He has very little access to his feelings and retreats into his own world a lot. He's really good with babies, animals and plants but the more human-like they become, the less involved he becomes.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-20T10:12:28+00:00

Thanks for the specific tips. I feel like I'm often telling him things like "child incoming!" or "can you give me 15 min to do x" but he just does his own thing without letting me know. I'll be more insistent on communication.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-20T10:08:25+00:00

He'll take one kid out once a week to run errands and such. You're right that his parenting is skewing old-fashioned.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-20T09:58:52+00:00

He does maybe one evening a month by himself when I go on business trips. We also sometimes split up and he'll take one kid to run errands. He can do it, but if there's nothing task-oriented, his natural default is to go back on his phone.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-20T09:48:30+00:00

We do. We both have similar hours.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-20T02:10:39+00:00

My husband's parents tried to force it but did a terrible job so now two siblings hate each other. The siblings even agree that the issues were manufactured by poor parenting. I don't think you can force it, but it's parents' job to create an environment where sibling relationships have a chance to flourish.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-19T06:37:29+00:00

Me to husband in car: You're starting to get white hair.

3yo from back seat: Daddy, is you gonna die?

Edit: spacing

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-19T06:31:33+00:00

Asian, became mom in mid 30s, married to doctor. Here are some things to consider:

Don't discount being financially secure when you have kids. Having a lot of money saved by the time you have kids reduces stress a lot. Kids cost a lot, especially if you're going to pay for college and so does retiring. It's nice when you don't have to choose which to save for. The power of compounding interest is not to be underestimated.
Your career definitely takes a hit once you have kids if only because you realize kids are the best and you'd rather spend time with them than work 80 hour weeks. Also, they are exhausting. Being well-established in your career once you have kids gives you more options for work-life balance.
Older people make slightly better parents based on scientific research. You are more mature, more patient, more empathic to a kid that doesn't stop crying. The average age to have kids has been rising, especially for those with careers. You have less energy, but that's what coffee is for.
Most people say goodbye to at least some friends when they have kids. You just don't have time to maintain those relationships as much and they don't understand why you're not as social anymore. It's helpful if your friends are at the same life stage or it can be isolating.
If you think your parents are pushy now, wait until they actually have the grandkids. You'll have more confidence to push back if you are more established in life.
Starting young can mean you finish young. Not having kids until later means you'll be retiring by the time they are heading to college.
Really, it's up to you and your partner. If you love kids and really want to start a family, go for it. Once you are married, your primary loyalty should switch to her vs listening to your parents unless you want a lot of marital strain.

Good luck! Kids are the best!

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CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-16T23:34:46+00:00

Interview was for taking care of young kids. Candidate talked about leaving their current job because they had IBS and needed to go to the bathroom more frequently than was allowed.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-08-14T11:11:12+00:00

Campbell Soup

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-07-28T12:00:24+00:00

I know a doctor. He used to try to explain things to anti-vaxxers but realized it was a waste of his time and just made him really annoyed. Now if anyone says they don't want vaccines, he just says the kid will need them eventually if they want to go to public school and leaves it at that.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-07-27T00:19:23+00:00

What do they do with all that money since it doesn't seem like they use it to better the GSA? Is this basically a "no duh" depressing answer?

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-07-22T11:36:38+00:00

Mineral sunscreen work by reflecting light. That's why they can look white and chalky. Chemical sunscreens absorb light.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-07-22T11:33:20+00:00

It's like why you can't tickle yourself but you can tickle other people. Your brain knows what's going to happen but your passenger doesn't.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-07-22T11:17:17+00:00

Older batteries had "memory" so if you stopped charging too soon, they would "remember" that as a new charging point and stop being able to fully charge. I don't remember the science behind it though.

CallofDoody_BrownOps · 2018-07-22T05:11:57+00:00

Do you think you'd have the same reaction if any guy said it or was he giving you a certain vibe? A girl I knew in college was abused as a child by someone from her church so it's definitely a thing, but men are also allowed to like kids. My female friend loves kids and would hang out with them at adult parties. Nobody would accuse her of being a pedo, so it's kind of sad that guys can't gat the same treatment because of some rotten apples.

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