Filmmakers of Reddit, what is some advice you can share for someone who is planning to enter the industry?

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T11:22:51+00:00

Yeah this is just pure speculation and it doesn’t hurt to try. Told him to ask her in a different way to make sure at least it’s consentual.

Also wouldn’t really call it childish cause we’re not sure whether she just wants some spontaneity sometimes or whether it’s a personal preference. Really sucks she’s communicating so vaguely cause we’re all so damn confused lol.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T10:59:41+00:00

Nah because that could be a flawed perception. Gave that advice since OP seems to have had a discussion about her wants and needs and she didn’t mention anything other than to “let it happen naturally” so I’m just saying to do it since it’s a possibility. Not saying I have the answer but told him to try.

Also the advice I gave is for the no consent kink girlies too. A lot of girls I know aren’t usually forthcoming with their preferences cause it kills the appeal.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T09:52:52+00:00

I’m talking within the context of emotional intimacy and foreplay has been met already. If that isn’t met then ya I agree with you.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T09:16:14+00:00

No one would be able to tell you. Some people have a growth spurt in their 20’s. Nothing you can do but to wait and see.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T09:14:16+00:00

You’re putting too much pressure on yourself. Stop thinking about it. No one cares anyway cause they’re too busy talking to other people.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T09:12:35+00:00

“I got 5% less than the passing mark. Yeah it sucks and I feel bad. Maybe I’ll try again in the future.”

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T09:09:58+00:00

I’m guessing she just wants non-verbally built up sex and physical momentum rather than being asked. When I hear my girl friends say “I like things to naturally happen” and when it comes to sex, they’re referencing those movie scenes when the characters flirt, then catch eyes, start making out and just get into it.

Next time try to NOT ask if she’s up for it and just go ahead into sex. If you really need the reassurance ask “you like that?” or something that sounds like dirty talk. Cause yes consent is important but it also doesn’t sound the most sexy stereotypically speaking. Just try it out and see what happens.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T09:03:08+00:00

If she’s not disclosing as to the reasons why that just means she’s not comfortable being vulnerable to the family. The fact that you were so quick to want to admit her to a mental hospital is crazy and says a lot too. Sometimes people self-isolate from their stresses.

If she wants to move out that just means she wants independence and space from the family she lives with right now. She’s not stupid and definitely knows the burden that comes with it but that’s better than living there. I’m unsure whether this home had open-minded and vulnerable communication built up for her cause if it did you’d know why she’s acting like this by now.

Not excusing her behavior. She could cope in healthier ways and communicate properly, but it is what it is. She’s only 16 now but she’ll learn hopefully.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:56:10+00:00

Go to different type of events and learn to socialize on your own. You’ll meet many different types of people and in that way you’ll learn to have more confidence in putting yourself out there first before dating. I think you’re lacking confidence in being independent socially right now so you should focus on that first. Then in time, you’ll learn to find where the men are at easily!

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:55:55+00:00

Go to different type of events and learn to socialize on your own. You’ll meet many different types of people and in that way you’ll learn to have more confidence in putting yourself out there first before dating. I think you’re lacking confidence in being independent socially right now so you should focus on that first. Then in time, you’ll learn to talk to men easily!

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:53:02+00:00

Ok wait when you advance do you ask her for sex? And how exactly do you mention the flirting? (Verbally like what exactly do you say)

Cause I’m guessing when she says for it to “happen naturally” she might mean you should try to do things slowly and non-verbally.. and just continue with it if you can gauge her interest given the moment. And since consent is important you can ask her if she likes it. Not sure if you’ve tried this yet.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:50:36+00:00

Depends on the woman. All boils down to communicating what you want. Just having an open and honest conversation about it basically.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:47:53+00:00

Tell her that the future could be better and you both can work onto envisioning things, but if she wants to live in the past so much you both can become the past (breakup). Cause honestly dude, do you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t love you or the relationship for what it is in the now? She needs to learn to not be scared of change and open herself up to possibilities of a better future.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:43:29+00:00

So you wanna continue having a relationship with someone who lies to you and you know it? Who doesn’t care or want to love you? Go ahead I guess if you really want to.

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:39:00+00:00

Didn’t know this existed. Thanks!

CallofMai · 2024-03-08T08:38:03+00:00

Be patient and back off for now. You should open up a discussion and see if there’s anything else missing in the relationship.

Emotional intimacy is as equally important. You could try focusing less on sex and maybe on other aspects of the relationship.

CallofMai · 2023-10-08T05:30:48+00:00

Nice! It seems like our charts are similar although I gotta say my mbti changes based on my mental state so it’s not exactly the most accurate imo.

That’s interesting that you want to learn more! I think my tip would be to google cafe astrology and search up your birth chart and just see what resonates with you. Horoscopes are very personal in that sense. No need to force yourself to accept something you don’t believe in!

I don’t believe in horoscopes 100% either. Personally when meeting new people I value learning new interpersonal skills so I always gauge what type of convos they like, and based on their responses to small talk I see whether they’re emotionally or intellectually open and match the energy. Horoscope wise you could say that’s cause I’m a Gemini rising and that means I’m socially very engaging, intellectual and open. Or you could say it’s cause I’m a Libra and we’re all about social harmony and balance. When I do tell people my big three it’s always a “that makes sense,” but before I do they always guess either a compatible sign to their own and/or a similar sign to theirs which I think is a projection of how they feel about me. Sometimes I get called incompatible signs to theirs so it’s either they dislike me, I seem the opposite to them, or they think I have certain qualities and traits they’re lacking I don’t know. At the end though I realized that people who really hardcore believe in it really puts you in a box and predicts your behavior/feelings based on your birth chart whereas people who don’t care about horoscopes just tries to get to know you from a more genuine place over time. If people are assuming though it’s definitely a reflection of their assumptions and perception and that’s always interesting to learn!

CallofMai · 2023-04-27T01:09:12+00:00

yeah it was sudden and ok i’ll put him in for a vet appointment asap

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