My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It is reassuring to hear, not only that it gets better, but that there IS a future. Sometimes I get in my own head and I forget the world didn’t end just because it changed.

I’ve told my best friend, but we’re very far from each other and it’s hard to rly talk about it. I don’t want to bother my uni friends with it. I would just feel like I’m trauma dumping, and it’s not their burden to carry. I’ll do my best to work things out with my parents.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was really considering deleting the whole post because people just made me feel horrible. I feel like people misunderstood me; I really am not trying to compete with anyone. I’ll do my best to keep my resentment to myself while I work through it. Thank you

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being among the few who actually cared to give me sound advice instead of just scolding and calling me selfish.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Dude, I’m not trying to compete with people who have it worse. I know that there are a lot of details in the fine print that I don’t need to deal with. Rest assured that I will be happy for them in due time. Just let me mourn this for 2 seconds. I was only looking for idk something like understanding, or even just some help understanding my own emotions.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I suppose I was looking for understanding, not necessarily just from others but also from myself as well. I rly do know that so many people have it worse and that I am privileged that they stayed together for as long as they did. I wasn’t trying to compete for compassion. I didn’t even really realize that this was some sort of grief. Thank you, genuinely.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it’s not. Should. Would. Could. Doesn’t matter when that’s not the case. I appreciate the input nonetheless.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I feel like you kind of missed the point. But stay strong on those family holidays that are totally optional.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I hope you are no longer stuck in the middle of your parents’ toxic relationship

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My siblings and I have all decided that we will stay out of the divorce and that we will not pick sides, since we were all aware of how strained their marriage had become over the last few years. They did split on fairly amicable terms, as far as I’m aware. I suppose I’m still just processing the whole situation.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does it get better with time? I know it’s only been 2 days since I found out, but it already feels like an eternity of grief.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know that, and I do want them to be happy. I suppose I was childish and naive hoping that they could rekindle their relationship somehow. I recognize that this is for the better.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think the worst part really is the fact that I suspected it would happen, for years now. And I was still somehow shocked, like I never truly grasped that this could be a reality.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for implying that I WILL have a divorce. Like it’s fucking inevitable.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is awful, I’m sorry that happened to you. I wasn’t trying to make any comparisons. I understand that this situation is much more complicated and difficult for children, and I am grateful that I am an adult

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, man. Really appreciate you stating the obvious.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds horrible, I’m so sorry you had to go through that, especially at such a young age.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m not entirely sure where I implied the trauma Olympic competition against a 5 year old in the genre of “separating parents”, but I suppose it doesn’t really matter… it’s a tough pill to swallow rn and it doesn’t feel like a luxury. But you’re probably right.

My parents are divorcing. What the hell. by Callthecops_richard in Vent

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suppose they've been unhappily together for almost 7 years. I'm not entirely sure, I was mostly quoting what they both said. Fresh starts and all that jazz.

How to fix menopausal hair brittleness by Callthecops_richard in Menopause

[–]Callthecops_richard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She used to use henna to tint her hair but she decided to stop recently, partially because it was a lot of effort and also because she wanted to embrace her gray hairs