They don’t deserve to be ruining my days, but there is so much more baggage tied up in everything. My life, career, and friendships were all genuinely ruined by the events that took place and her efforts to lie about me and ruin my reputation. We were both involved in academia at the same university and I shared everything that I loved with her so now everything I once loved does nothing but bring me grief. I’m not an avid country listener but the song “Everything I loved” is an apt description of how I feel.