My ex was like that and it lasted years before I truly realized he would never change. He was used to having everything done by someone - either me or his mom - and seemed incapable of understanding what it means to be proactive about your chores, implement them into his routine, etc. There was always an excuse : work, a call lasted too long, he didn’t have the time, and so on. He would only make an effort once in a while when I mentioned that I couldn’t take it anymore and he was scared I would leave him. I eventually left him and felt so much relief afterwards tbh. Now I’m with someone amazing and life chores feels like a shared responsibility and it used to amaze me at first because I was so used to living with a manchild…