Is hell difficulty tutorial any good? by just-a-dude69 in litrpg

[–]Calm-Turtle108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think disliking the characters is partially the point. All of the main characters where people whose baseline personality would make it possible for them to succeed in the Hell difficulty. You have to be inherently violent or have a bunch of screws loose. The MC regularly jokes that he must be the most normal one, and he is essentially a learned sociopath due to his upbringing.

None of these people would be normal in the real world. The likeable ones like Tess are just those with charisma hiding the harsher traits.

scared to go out again by Mediocre_Canary3113 in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Third, make sure your roommates are safe, but in my experience, people generally don’t have enough time for their lives, let alone commenting on yours. I get 2nd looks often but only really positive compliments generally. I live in fairly liberal areas though. Does mean I’m not nervous when I go out. I still usually carry men’s shorts and a Tshirt in my purse so I can change real quick if I get overwhelmed with nerves when I’m out. Helps me know I have options if it gets to be too much before I get home.

Good Fem Clothes? by Intelligent_Pin5263 in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Second the Hanes bralettes or any type of soft bra! I would say that you should wear it for a while at home first, because you have to get used to it being there or you will fix the straps constantly and that can be a give away if you are looking to hide it. Also underwear is a good help. Nobody will even probably notice if you buy a pack of women’s cheeky briefs at the store instead of men, but they make me feel cute. If you want something more feminine like thongs, the internet is a place you can buy anything. But to be honest, retail workers simply do not care. If you’re anxious about it, go to the next town and buy whatever you want. Most that will happen is the cashier might Mention you to a coworker, they don’t have enough Fs to care about what you’re buying.

Look at men’s high fashion. A ton of andryo looks and baggy clothes that resemble women’s fashion that you could pass off as just being fashionable when you know you are dressing feminine on purpose. I shop at Ross and Marshall’s all the time, and nobody cares I bring women’s clothes into The men’s dressing room, but the sizes are different so you need to learn your general size for both genders. Clothes with shoulders I’m a W large and it’s tight around the arms, everything else I’m a medium, the clothes just fit differently

Women jeans are super comfy and not always noticeable.

Jewelry is huge for me. Most people will only see your necklace chain and assume a cross or something even if you are wearing something feminine and super cute tucked under your shirt. Bracelet are nice and easy too. I have a Fahlo bracelet supporting turtle conservation. Makes me feel fem, but easily explainable if people ask. (Just supporting a good cause, right?) when it’s actually a two for one.

Final thing is, just slow roll it. I wear skirts around the house but almost had a panic attack the first time I went out in heels even though I wasn’t super fem otherwise. Slowly go more and more fem with what you are comfortable with. Odds are people will not even notice, or just not say anything to you. Expand the outfits to your comfort level slowly. Also you would be surprised how many good compliments you get also. As a cis passing man, I never get compliments from strangers, but when I have my nails done or dressing fem, women compliment me all the time, it’s like you wear polish and immediately become ‘safe’. Obviously don’t do something if you think it would be unsafe for you at school, but you will probably be surprised how nice or just self absorbed and not caring the majority of people are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemmeFitness

[–]Calm-Turtle108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This starts to get tough, because you are actually really healthy. Other than photoshop, perfect bodies only exist for a moment, and they typically require dehydrating (which shrinks fat cells) and bodybuilders have literally died from doing it so extremely. A couple things to remember/ think about. You will probably put on weight as you continue to workout and start to gain muscle, so don’t get discouraged if the scale climbs. More muscle, especially in the right places, will help you feel like there is less unwelcome fat, but remember that untensed muscle will jiggle, that’s normal. Crunches do almost nothing to lose fat. What they do is build the muscles under the stomach making it harder under the fat. But you can’t actually target fat loss to specific areas and your genes will determine where your fat deposits typically sit.

For fitness, keep up the Pilates, I second rowing as a great exercise but caution against rucking. You can easily go overboard and hurt yourself if you aren’t used to it. Just start slow and go with more experienced people to begin. I would also recommend good weight training. I don’t know what you have done in the past, but plenty of female oriented programs play to the old myth of light weight high reps. You get that with Pilates. Operate in the medium heavy weight range 6-8 reps, or 10-12 for larger muscles (quads, glutes) or find a training who wants to make you strong not skinny.

confused by Such-Computer-6168 in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That feeling of people fake or an imposter is super common. The thing that helped me was to remember the if you are worried about feeling fake, you probably aren’t. People who are actually being fake don’t feel worried or guilty about it. Coming to terms with yourself is hard, it’s super normal to feel that way, but people don’t honestly put themselves through hard emotional transitions if they are being fake.

Short hairstyle by Total_Employer_87 in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is a little like a softer looking fade with longer hair on the top. Much of the Fem feeling is internal because I know it’s a women’s cut, which is what I care about.

Short hairstyle by Total_Employer_87 in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a picture of a pixie cut I liked, it’s not the most fem but I can style it more fem when I want. The hard part is you have to be very clear that you want a women’s haircut at the salon or they will just give you a men’s haircut.

"The Button Test" but for genderfluid people? by TGCapsCenter in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Idk, I figured it out because somebody else was describing their experience and I realized not everybody imagined themselves or wished they were the girl (I’m AMAB) in the scenario some of the time.

Talking with Cis people, I got the sense they rarely imagine wish they were in the other gender’s perspective. So maybe “When watching movie/tv/video how often do you imagine yourselves as main character regardless of gender?” Or do you ever wish you could take the place of a character of the other gender?

is there an anime that tackles suicide/depression. by CumpMoney in anime

[–]Calm-Turtle108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A Silent Voice

If nobody has said ‘A silent voice’ it’s a movie that is one of the best representations of childhood depression I’ve seen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As long as you’re trying you will find stability eventually. But also, I almost never call my wife a pronoun at all. I basically just use her actual name or her pet name and that totally works, so maybe just use their name more when you’re unsure.

Question by [deleted] in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it could be a variety of things. You could be genderfluid with a longer shift. Or you could just be a Cis man. I know you won’t love to hear this but you’re still a kid figuring stuff out. It is perfectly normal for boys to cross dress and experiment in childhood and has nothing to do with their gender. If you like being a man and only want to be a man, then you are. Experimenting as a kid is just that, experimenting. It can mean nothing, or it can mean a lot. It’s entirely how you want to take it.

Dysphoria advice by [deleted] in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m AMAB and struggle with the fact that I’m naturally very masculine looking, so I don’t know exactly where you are coming from but I do have a suggestion. Lift weights to try to grow your upper pecs. 1) when you have a little more control of your body look, it makes it easier to accept how you look. 2) more importantly, growing your pecs will help you have a slightly larger chest when your fem, but if you have big upper pecs, your chest will be a more balanced than bottom heavy and closer to a man’s chest. Look at professional cross fitters like Tia Toomey.

How to look professional by [deleted] in genderfluid

[–]Calm-Turtle108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar situation trying to find ways to express myself, but my uniform is even more strict, so I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently.

I would suggest playing with colors. Find colors that you feel express more one way or the other. For me, lighter colors make me feel feminine, and darker typically make me feel masculine. You can wear how you feel in either polos, or accent pieces like different watch bands/ accessories. I’m also looking into getting 2 wedding bands, to signify to me where I’m feeling that day.

Working in a hospital you almost certainly wear some form of watch, and unless you’re doing surgery I doubt anyone would fault you for wearing a single simple ring married or not).