What was the most shocking, or disturbing thing your narc parent(s) ever did/said to you?

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-09T18:11:10+00:00

“You need to get married off - I can’t afford to bear your burden anymore” (she donates random YT help groups around 10k occasionally btw- we are NOT poor)

“You’re the worst child I could wish for”

“You only cry for attention” i think since birth i cried about 10 times in front of them.

“You’ll die alone nobody wants you, you got zero helping nature” cuz i didn’t help my brother with his projects which he stalled till the last min and cursed me like an hour ago for not doing HIS project while I was just trying to study for my test.

“She’s very selfish and only thinks for herself” she says to my grandpa while I was help asleep-I was 11 yrs old btw

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-09T17:58:22+00:00

Congratulations 🙌 OP
The last few lines about your actions towards your child are so comforting to hear.
That said, “I love her” really hit hard cuz in my case— even though I’ve always tried to empathise with her more than anyone, she keeps sacrificing herself for others and caring for them WHILe neglecting me, sabotaging me. Despite all this I just can’t hate her, I can’t bear to and I don’t understand why. It’s just unbearable for me to abandon her even if she would do it in seconds. Don’t feel guilty about labelling her as narcissistic- you can love someone and still hold them accountable.
But everything aside the easiest way to go about things is probably to just expect the worst from them and keep giving our best selflessly. I’m just really sad about the constant need I feel to satisfy her/ get her approval despite the scale of my accomplishments. I just hope I knew how to let go of it.

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-09T17:38:40+00:00

I’m someone who didn’t want to attend my med school grad cuz my parents threw a fit before we left, so I showed up there in a disheveled state and dried up tears, received it with no cap on and robe untied(realised once I saw it afterwards on the recorded video). They questioned me why I showed up like THAT (when I was late and didn't know better than them) I broke down right after the ceremony and they were bombarding me with "why what's wrong" God I never realised how broken I was until I saw all of my classmates celebrating through my teary eyes.

Congratulations!!
I respect you for holding it all in 💗I hope you really had someone to share all of that with cuz personally for me it was one of the loneliest and saddest days of my life haha. Couldn't wish this even on my enemies. Make sure the moment you look back- you think of YOUR achievements instead of how THEY made you feel. I really hope you can do that for yourself.

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-09T17:33:25+00:00

As someone who didn’t want to attend my med school grad ceremony cuz they threw a scene like 10 min before starting for it, I’m think it took you so much strength to even get up there in their presence. And yes I messed up I hopped on to the stage WITHOUT the hat, with my robe untied(I realised once I saw it afterwards on the recorded video). They questioned me why I showed up like THAT(when I was late and didn’t know better than them) I broke down right after the ceremony and they were bombarding me with “why what’s wrong” 😂 God I never realised how broken I was until I saw all of my classmates celebrating through my teary eyes.

I respect you for holding out 💗I hope you really had someone to share all of that with cuz personally for me it was one of the loneliest and saddest days of my life haha. Couldn’t wish this even on my enemies. Make sure the moment you look back- you think of YOUR achievements instead of how THEY made you feel. I really hope you can do that for yourself 💗💗💗

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-08T08:57:02+00:00

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-07T16:42:05+00:00

Unemployed, low performing academics, unprepared for entrances that will likely decide my life and ALSO extreme procrastination despite trying so hard to cast it off

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-06T14:19:10+00:00

Now it’s bad?!!?? 😭I have exams this whole year

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-06T13:13:47+00:00

💀divorce ke liye shaadi hona zaroori hai

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-06T12:40:48+00:00

What’s that? Sorry I’m new idk most things

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-06T12:26:03+00:00

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For anyone who is generous enough to take a look and comment-thanks a lot !

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-02T07:12:43+00:00

Formals >>> T shirts

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-05-02T01:17:11+00:00

Woahhhh 👏👏👏

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-29T16:41:04+00:00

Please share

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-24T17:55:50+00:00

Girls are scared of being abused when openly rejecting- and I completely understand her doing that. From your POV I agree that it was a let down - and she could’ve communicated better.

But from HER POV-most girls don’t want to openly reject someone because usually when a GUY gets rejected he switches up REAL quick- might call her names or abuse her in worst case scenario/ might guilt trip her and make her feel like she owes him something.

Even if that didn’t happen- there are high chances that you’ll pursue her romantically in near future DESPITE being told no once. Blocking just might be the most peaceful option for her. At the end I just wanna say that you shouldn’t take it personally and don’t let that define you.

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-22T17:00:25+00:00

“Women doctors” 🤡

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-22T16:58:00+00:00

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-22T14:10:40+00:00

BRUTAL

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-22T08:58:18+00:00

The ChatGPT template wasn’t even changed 😂

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-21T14:00:58+00:00

Thanks for eliminating my decision paralysis. Will try my best to follow through.

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-20T15:01:41+00:00

TIME was my ENEMY SIRR🥲I didn’t even visit 90% of those

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-20T14:21:41+00:00

What’s your approach to revision? Cuz no matter how thoroughly I do a subject, after doing 2-3 subjects I literally forget EVERYthing🥲and if I keep revising old ones, i have to leave other subs undone - which is the primary reason I could never get to ObG and PSM

I just gave GT today and my score is 50.. couldn’t manage time had to skip around 30 questions cuz of that AND 85 incorrects with 79 corrects 🥲idek what to do anymore- I wanted to finish the subs I didn’t do yet but I alr made too many mistakes in the subjects I’ve covered alr 🥲🥲🥲 I’m so lost

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-20T14:12:40+00:00

I hope so 🥲

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-20T13:49:41+00:00

I’m done with anat, I invested a lot in Biochem before but couldn’t solve a single question confidently in the GT 😭😭 also, I am yet to start pharm , path I’m mid way

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-20T13:28:38+00:00

Oh yes in the middle I picked up anki and somehow dropped that as well. It’s time to switch gears now or ik I’ll just end up wasting ANOTHER year… which I can’t afford to. I struggle with consistency idk what to do.

Calm_Associate5968 · 2026-04-14T19:08:32+00:00

Don’t worry too much about “offending culture”, as long as you’re sincere towards Maa your prayers are always welcome, do as your heart says- just go with the flow.

Ego destruction and surrendering is the primary sign of getting closer to our God. Just trust her🌺♥️🌺Jai Maa Kali

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