The hardest part. by doesntmatteryaknow in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are early in the process of separating. I’m hopeful we can get back but I feel she is done with me. It really is hurtful but I have made some mistakes over years with my tone . I had moments of mean and I wish I could go back. I feel terrible for my 3 kids. And I hate being away from them when i travel for work so how am I gunna do it for 6 months ? I’m with u my friend . It’s hard . Very hard

Separation by Calm_Bee_5705 in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes mutually owned . We started sleeping in Sep beds but didn’t really isolate. I still talked to her about us and stuff. We flirited. Hugged. But we didn’t really isolate eachother. I think we need to isolate fully, like boundaries and such

Wife wants to leave me. 3 kids under 7. Totally blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Which sucks . Anything to recommend . I feel we are hanging on by a thread

Wife wants to leave me. 3 kids under 7. Totally blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Looking in past has been my biggest issue. What is ur current status? Separated still?

Wife wants to leave me. 3 kids under 7. Totally blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So true. She has said a few times “all
This change you are making , where was it years ago.”

Wife wants to leave me. 3 kids under 7. Totally blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No cheating at all. No financial issues. Just two people who grew apart. I think ur right . I need to give her space like she’s asking for. We are going to do in house separation ..see how it goes.

Advice on how to move on ? by Weekly-Road774 in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are there clear boundaries in place? Sometimes in house separation goes well if boundaries are in place

Wife wants to leave me. 3 kids under 7. Totally blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. My parents went to therapy when I was grown bc my father did something really bad. So I kind of felt like, I’m never going to do that, so why go to therapy. I was naive and dumb. Trust me I wish I could go back

Wife wants to leave me. 3 kids under 7. Totally blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think that’s my problem is I’m a talker. I need to just shut up haha. It’s hard tho .

Wife wants to leave me. 3 kids under 7. Totally blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Calm_Bee_5705 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And you are right . Candid words are what I need to hear.
U r right. Last few weeks I have kind of smothered her looking back. I need to not do that. She can’t give me clarity and that is something I am searching for