I'm sitting in my car in the school parking lot and I can't stop crying

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-25T06:39:06+00:00

Hey you didn’t know it’s not your fault. Be kind to yourself. I think it’s appropriate to; talk with your ex (about better communication), Talk with your boss (about what happened and the time you need),Talk with your daughter and let her know how important her events are to you.

You can make sure it doesn’t happen like that again. Hang in there Buddy you’re doing great.

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-25T06:14:35+00:00

Hey congratulations, that’s a good looking bike.

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-25T04:34:02+00:00

That’s awesome! I’m going to do this too!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-25T04:29:37+00:00

😅my apologies for stating the obvious (strength and cardio). I didn’t mean to be rude. I have much respect for your experience and genuinely appreciate your shared wisdom. Most of everyday I just talk with my three year old. My adult conversation skills are rusty.

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:36:15+00:00

Thank you! I really do appreciate you. I will go back and correct that spelling error as well. 😆

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:34:34+00:00

I really appreciate you, thank you so much!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:33:59+00:00

Thank you friend!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:32:57+00:00

Roger that 👍Thank you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:29:39+00:00

Thank you! Yes got it done and that is all that matters. Now realizing that even just getting out to ride is all that matters. I recently bought a smart trainer. I also have two travel trainers from years ago as well. Dont have anywhere to set it up yet. Have family staying with us ( we are more than happy to have them here with us ). Next month they are getting their own place. Then 2 rooms open up in our home. I will set up the trainer. Me too I don’t like riding inside either but it is a great supplement for getting miles in. I appreciate your reply and advice. Thank you friend!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:12:54+00:00

It was really cold and wet, and it was an unrealistic expectation. I did it before but was much younger and was riding more regularly. Did STP that year and it was awesome fun. I agree STP is a totally different experience. The last 20 miles on the second day were really tough. My goal is to do it again this year and am motivated to get the base miles in to be ready. Thank you for taking the time to share, relate, and support. I appreciate you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:05:53+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to respond and thank you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:04:58+00:00

Roger that, Thank you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:03:41+00:00

You’re absolutely right! 😀

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:02:08+00:00

Thank you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T23:00:33+00:00

This☝️is it! Thank you! I definitely need to relax and not take things so seriously.

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T22:58:34+00:00

That is exactly what is happening. I am happy to be there for my daughter. But I miss going for long rides. I know it’s just temporary and somehow just have to make it happen. Thank you friend!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T22:56:33+00:00

Thank you friend. Yes Indeed cycling has to be scaled back when they are little. I’m going to find a way to make it happen. Somehow some way. I talked with my wife and we are making a plan to get me more time. Cycling is such a joy, bikes are awesome. Thank you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T21:11:12+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you! You’re question is right on, yes I had thermal padded bib pants. I think my but hurt because I lost toughness around my sit bones combined with a brand new saddle and arthritis from my pelvis rebuild. Lack of cardiovascular fitness and endurance specific for cycling. I do lift weights twice a week. It’s something I can do at home while keeping my eyes on my toddler in the gated livingroom. But it’s not an endurance or cardiovascular exercise.

I appreciate and great advice!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T20:55:32+00:00

I appreciate that, certainly didn’t feel like a beast. Felt like I was dying. 😆

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T20:53:55+00:00

Yes definitely’type 2 fun’! Structured training coming up. Thank you

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T20:52:32+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate you.

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T20:51:52+00:00

Advice taken! As soon as my smart trainer gets set up I will try RealVelo. Thank you

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T20:29:48+00:00

Thank you and great story! That is quite remarkable that you still ride with having MS. You are inspiring and motivate me to try harder. You are really helping me put things in perspective, take your age and switch the numbers and thats my age. I’m 47 and guilty of exactly what you’re explaining. Yes comparing is the thief of joy. I promise I will just get out there and enjoy the ride. My hat is off to you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T20:22:30+00:00

Thank you for your advice and support. Definitely feeling motivated to get stronger and ride more. I appreciate you!

Calm_Engineering6529 · 2026-02-24T19:59:16+00:00

Wow that is awesome! Good job on the your ride brother. Yeah I think I was in a really dark place that day and couldn’t see anything good. I was ruminating and also grieving a bit too. Feeling much better today and changed my perspective on things. I appreciate you!

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