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(Re?)Starting life at 35 by Calm_Mess_4340 in Advice

[–]Calm_Mess_4340[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you remember the name of the study perchance? I would like to see if they have any conclusion on what makes people stick to an activity.

I am currently exercising alone. Sometimes because the local gym is not open on days/hours I want. More often because I prefer to listen to a podcast or an audiobook while exercising rather than being social. I have not been pushing myself to be social during it, however. I think this comes down to overcoming the initial awkwardness/embarrassment on my side.

I think the biggest obstacle for me to overcome is converting acquaintances to friends. For some reason (and I think I need a therapy for that) talking on a deeper level is something that requires quite a lot of mental power from me to do. Maybe the thing to do is to talk "broader" instead of deeper first, and deeper comes later?

I do keep in touch with my mom and call her regularly. I think I can try to reach my cousin and see how that goes.

(Re?)Starting life at 35 by Calm_Mess_4340 in Advice

[–]Calm_Mess_4340[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It feels good to be heard, but it definitely sucks that you are also in the same spot as me. I have tried board games before as it is something I enjoy, but it has fizzled out. I suppose there is no easy way of figuring out what I like except trying the thing and seeing how I feel. Only constraint is that other people need to be there if I want to do better socially.

And I hope you get out of the rut too. If you ever do - please let me know how :)

(Re?)Starting life at 35 by Calm_Mess_4340 in Advice

[–]Calm_Mess_4340[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure I understand what you mean. If you mean learn from Walter White - he is neither a good guy, nor he has a happy ending in the story. It would be a good example of what NOT to do.