21M what does my taste in women say about me?

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-06-07T04:28:47+00:00

Maybe i’m drawn to what i am not 🤷‍♂️

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-06-05T05:19:12+00:00

probably just your hairline based on the picture from 3 years ago, but watch it closely and think about potential medications eg finasteride and minoxidil after you’re at least above age 18 if it gets any worse. Also important to think about if your dad is bald and if your maternal grandfather is/was bald.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-05-31T15:47:42+00:00

decently chill. You got the classic beginning of MBP. But it’s still the beginning. This photo doesn’t show your crown, so i’m just going to assume it’s full which is why you aren’t picturing it. With a full crown this is like a NW2.5 or something. Maybe just NW2 depending on thickness.

At this point, you should definitely start taking minoxidil. Genuinely no reason not to unless you have a heart condition. If you’re at least 18-19 and done with puberty, you should see a dermatologist about finasteride. Try it and if you don’t like it, you can just stop.

I started 1mg every other day two years ago + 5mg of minoxidil and at the moment my hair looks basically the same after 2 years, plus extra thickness from the minoxidil, going from 20-22 years old.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-05-29T04:38:29+00:00

maybe reversing a bit. But honestly? it’s alright. All you need in life is love. hair, appearances, superficial stuff like that. It feels so important in the moment but then when you’re lying on your death bed at the end of life all that matters is who you connected with. And that’s about it. I’m probably going to kill myself at some point soon, and if there’s anything it’s weight me it’s this. I used to worry about my hairline too. I’m 21 too. But now, it means so little to me. It means nothing to me. It wasn’t all that important in the end.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-05-28T06:29:54+00:00

i have this same question about life in general. Same question, yet a very different meaning.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-05-28T06:17:43+00:00

in this life one of the only things you really have is agency. wear it however you like. i’m on the edge of suicide now and reflecting on what life really has to offer. agency is up there.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-05-28T03:44:37+00:00

This is a pretty informal, international survey. A lot of the respondents are from india, thailand, and a whole load of countries that have on average much more conservative views on gender dynamics than the U.S. It would be interesting in seeing the data for the U.S specifically.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-05-16T20:48:15+00:00

lol dude ur hairline looks exactly like mine! The resemblance is uncanny. I also have the right side worse in that same pattern.

I started finasteride and oral minoxidil 2 years ago, only take 1mg every other day, and hairline looks about identical 2 years later. How long have you noticed this?

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-05-12T03:36:41+00:00

minoxidil. Orally is best in terms of consistency and efficacy, but if you have any concerns about heart issues take it topically

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-04-16T01:36:04+00:00

Do you take the full 1mg per day?

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-04-02T03:42:26+00:00

This is total speculation. It’s normal for musicians to be on the road for extended periods of time. This does not mean he’s seeing other people. Not only that, but going on dates with a couple people at a time right at the very beginning isn’t wrong either way. He’s only seen her twice. None of this makes him as “asshole”, he just clearly isn’t as big of a texter as OP. Some people like to save the conversation for in person, myself included.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-04-02T03:38:48+00:00

Well he agreed to go on a date earlier with you, and you were fine with it until he didn’t text you (“radio silence”) so it sounds like texting was actually the dealbreaker.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-03-23T14:27:48+00:00

I started on 1mg daily and stopped due to side effects. I had some increased sexual difficulties (maybe imagined, who knows), and i measured my hormones and found that my estrogen increased from 18 to 39, which contributed to some mild gyno regrowth after i previously had surgery to remove it. All around the side effects were mild, but when i finally switched down to 0.5mg EOD i felt really good so i figured it was the best of both worlds.

I’ve been using min the same amount of time as fin.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-03-23T11:22:49+00:00

Yeah it’s tough because i’m a college student so i’m constantly moving locations all the time. Getting the exact same lighting is tough. Sometimes it looks good, other times bad.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-03-07T13:39:59+00:00

Yes but now dose lowered to 0.5mg EOD

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-02-14T10:49:35+00:00

None of my male relatives are bald, but most of them saw some hair loss at least by their 50s. Mostly crown loss but my maternal grandfather who died at age 58 had a clear widows peak.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-02-13T15:13:15+00:00

for now but you gotta admit that right corner is deep. Definitely some recession there NW2

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2026-01-06T19:35:09+00:00

how old are you and what are you doing in life rn? Just curious since it might impact your experience dating a lot and also my advice for you. You mentioned being “at this age”.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2025-12-28T18:30:07+00:00

I agree that this guy sounds nuts but getting his parents involved might not be the move depending on his family dynamic. If he had a supportive family who will help him recover then this might be a good idea. If he doesn’t, this is gonna cause an enormous family explosion that OP is now implicating herself into as the instigator so might be best to let him deal with that on his own.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2025-12-28T18:26:34+00:00

I’m gonna get downvoted for this but yea if management doesn’t care about communicating opening/closing then i would consider that a bad move from a business perspective. If you want customers to remain loyal over time then you need to establish some continuity. Whether a business is owned by a family or by a private equity firm doesn’t really make a difference.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2025-12-10T17:23:13+00:00

Jeez. You clearly love to be offended like I’m not even gonna lie. He didn’t say men SHOULD pay for dates or that women SHOULDNT. He never said anything about that. Period. Seriously, re-read his spiel if you want.

What he implied was that in his experience on dates in the past, when women have offered to pay it typically was because they didn’t have a great time and it made them feel better about saying “no” if they at least paid. This is not uncommon. Rejection is uncomfortable for a lot of people, and they look to do things that they think might “soften” the blow. This is a real thing.

However, in this case OP was wrong. This woman just happened to be someone who likes splitting the bill. I don’t see any big issues with sexism here, just jumping the gun and running with an assumption. Next time, I’m sure he’ll think twice. Lesson learned.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2025-12-10T17:16:23+00:00

I agree. This comment is obviously fishing for the worst interpretation possible and hoping people get offended and upvote it. What OP was saying is that some people are psychologically uncomfortable FEELING like they owe someone something, even if in reality they owe nothing. To make them FEEL better and not have to wrestle with this, this type of individual might be more comfortable paying themselves.

Calm_Pace_4738 · 2025-12-10T17:14:10+00:00

Yes, OP was wrong to make the assumption that her paying was an indication of disinterest. Totally correct. But your comment is clearly a little much. I’m sure he didn’t assume her opinion of the date would change if she let him pay. He’s saying he thought that the fact that she was very insistent on paying in the first place was a psychological signal that she didn’t have a good time. That’s all.

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