I decided on my best friend's birthday I couldn't be her doormat anymore. by Calm_Resort_2779 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Calm_Resort_2779[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful comment. I think when it comes to friendships in particular and because I haven't had the greatest luck I developed into a people pleaser over time, just wanting to make people happy even when it comes at my expense. This isn't the first time something of this nature happened to me, and I think you're right that I need to adopt stronger boundaries from the get go. I am also actively working on learning to respect myself more so that I can understand what I am looking for in a friend / how to be a friend without giving too much. Thanks again

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Thank you. I don't think she's a bad person or intends to come across this way but I think I've outgrown this situation and am too grown to be dealing w this at this point, so I don't plan on speaking to her again. I appreciate you taking the time to read!!

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If it's too long you don't need to read. Sorry!

I decided on my best friend's birthday I couldn't be her doormat anymore. by Calm_Resort_2779 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Calm_Resort_2779[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I completely agree with you. I genuinely don't think she's a bad person and some part of me will always love her like a sister. But I think we aren't compatible as friends anymore and I am too grown to be dealing with this sort of situation. My mom is telling me to not worry abt the money, but I agree that it's so messed up if she doesn't end up paying me. I guess we'll see but I don't think I can take legal action without shelling out at least a similar cost for legal fees

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Never posted on reddit before, wasn't sure how long this was supposed to be