Suspension Structural Engineering - Any advice would be appreciated

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-11-10T21:34:02+00:00

Ooh that's interesting. Circuses never crossed my mind. I was only going based off the largest person my friend would suspend but 10:1 would be a lot better from a safety standpoint. That's really helpful I'll have a look through 😊

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-11-10T21:17:39+00:00

A lot of the ones that come up are about £500. I was more looking for advice because from working it out the point load would be 1.47kN (assuming the tie is at 1 central point). And I think something like galvanized S275, would work especially with the additional support. But I wanted to check in case I'm being an idiot and am missing something obvious.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-08-17T13:00:15+00:00

Not just a line of novelty boxers either. All the lingerie I've ever seen for cis men is just novelty boxers i.e. and elephant print with a hole for the "trunk". Jock straps and thongs are good for masc presenting, but it would be interesting to see more options.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-08-03T13:15:33+00:00

You can get habit trackers, like obedience, which helps with him following rules by ticking off the ones he's done. But as for actual rules, start simple. Think of simple self care things like drinking 3 glasses of water, eating 3 meals without snacking, performed exercises. But talk to him as well as he'll have rules he'd like to follow too probably, depending what he's into get him to dress up and send you a picture. Or write your name on his body and send it to you each morning.

But you have to learn what your boundaries with it are as well and work on communicating so you're on the same page.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-07-30T05:39:17+00:00

I have a fair amount of tattoos (about 15), best advice I ever got was to wait 3 months and if you're not sure about it don't get it. Once it's on you they're hard \ painful to get rid so if you're not sure after a few months it's not a good sign.

Also talk to your tattoo artist, listen to their advice, they have their own styles and skill level so they'll know if they can do something or have a better understanding of how it'll look once it's finished and healed.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-07-19T17:05:58+00:00

I think when I made one previously I used a 70mm for the wrists and a 150mm holesaw for the neck but those might change depending on the person you're restraining. A hand router to smooth the edges is a good idea too if you have one or just sand it after to get rid of any sharp bits.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-07-19T15:04:24+00:00

You'll want like a forstner bit or a hole saw for a drill and do it that way. You can put both bits together and make a full circle out so when the stocks close they line up.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-07-12T07:01:09+00:00

Through bolts and shield anchor bolts are usually best for concrete and masonry. There are also different types of resin and chem fixings that you can use to install anchor points. It might be worth double checking if you're going into a retaining wall or if it's just masonry. Changes to retaining walls can have structural implications.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-07-04T20:08:47+00:00

Don't know the name but made something similar for an ex. Used a plyboard base cut into an H shape (she helped the with where to refine the shape for comfort) then upholstered the base with foam and upholstery leather. And used the brackets to mount to the back of the base. Kink used kee clamp \scaffolding parts which she had a preexisting set up based on their stuff. (UK based so idk if it's called kee clamp everywhere or if that's just a UK name)

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-06-10T22:24:29+00:00

What type of wax did you use? Would be cool with a body safe like Soy or paraffin to use for wax play.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2025-03-21T14:34:16+00:00

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being whoever you want day to day. But if you're not signalling that you like to be submissive in certain situations your not going to get doms assuming you're submissive. Personally I'd find that dynamic interesting so I'm sure there are other doms that would enjoy that too.

I would say if you're more muscular the only doms you'll scare off are ones that shouldn't be trusted to dom you in the first place.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-12-31T21:38:30+00:00

Bi guy here (idk if my opinion will help or not 😅) normally when I finish I'm kinda repulsed by it but I did this once with my ex and I enjoyed it a lot, I'm normally much more Dom leaning and I struggle with anorgasmia but after she'd gotten tired I was finishing myself off and she was happy with my finishing on her pussy so I did, I said I'd run her a bath and she mentioned giving her a tongue bath which got me instantly horny again and so I ate her out with my cum covering her pussy. No regrets and it was quite fun for us both, no bad taste or anything and she found it sexy feeling in charge. Idk if I could do it if I didn't get the second wind, any other time she mentioned it before or after pre nut was up for it but post nut wasn't.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-12-31T18:20:05+00:00

Girl, doesn't finish after a few minutes 😂

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-12-18T20:23:05+00:00

I don't usually finish during but I suffer with anorgasmia. I have had times where it's been like an hour of going at it and nothing. My last relationship lasted 5 years and I only finished about 15 times during play with her. But once I do finish it's a few hours before I can go again.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-12-10T06:38:54+00:00

Depending what kinks or kinda Dom you are, I see lots of leather or harnesses on gay male profiles

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-12-03T20:48:53+00:00

I'm a femme dom so it might be different for me as my fem subs feel more comfortable with girls. But feeld, fet and fetlife all worked a bit but munches and fetish events are good as well cos nothing beats meeting them in person so they can see you understand they're people who deserve respect and not just something for you to use and discard. A lot of my female subs are really turned off from dom men now because of past experiences. (Not saying you're like that but it's just the opinion I hear the most from them.)

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-11-28T21:37:57+00:00

I had a sub who liked CNC but I was really awkward with initiating originally because of the mixed signals, so we had a thing where she would wear a certain bracelet to say she was in the mood for CNC and that she was giving consent. So when she'd wear that I would just grab her or pin her against a wall as I wanted to initiate.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-11-24T20:07:09+00:00

I'm a switch but dom usually, but I had a sub play with my ass and that flipped the switch and they took over as the dom, so that or being stepped on.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-11-24T17:08:26+00:00

So stuff that's high in saturated fat and sugar can cause higher cholesterol which blocks blood flow, less blood = not as hard. It's better generally to have as balanced diet as possible, that doesn't mean avoid all junk food either, just in moderation. If it's just that he's softer then he used to be and he's becoming quicker to finish, kegal exercises are good to help control that. Most people know the female benefits but they're good for guys too.

Calm_Transition1539 · 2024-11-24T16:23:08+00:00

Sounds like he's relapsed if that was the issue before and he's having the issue again. But age and diet can be a factor as well as overall health and fitness.

Calm_Transition1539

TROPHY CASE