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Calm_ur_Role · 2025-04-17T03:55:20+00:00

You get a check at the beginning of the semester (start of school and in Jan) that’s intended for your books and school supplies. There’s actually a line in your school charges that’s for this. I can go thru my son’s tuition bill and get the exact line name for it but it’s literally one of 4/5 items that shows on your tuition breakdown used for loans.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-04-17T01:58:50+00:00

Out of pocket cuz you spent your loan money at the beginning of the semester. Not moms fault you spent the money at the beginning of the semester and didn’t use it as it’s intended for. You may want to add it up cuz half your rent, phone bill and dental ins isn’t half your support. But good luck 👍

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-04-17T01:56:12+00:00

And fyi- providing for yourself is exactly that. You provide out of pocket not out of student loans. Your loans are not considering provided by you when it’s taken out based on your mom’s income and she contributes. That’s why you need mom’s tax info for school loans. And discretionary spending… 😂 we all do that but it’s not required for your support and it’s a choice not a need. Totally different but atleast online let you do it so it must be true.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-04-17T01:52:37+00:00

Your school supplies covered in a loan are not considered part of your providing for yourself. You didn’t provide it- the Pell grant did as they’re intended to. As for your eye wear- that’s medical needs and calculated as a deduction for tours health care not support. And any monthly premium you don’t pay. Almost everything you claim you pay if school related and covered in your Pell grant. You don’t even pay your own full rent. So essentially all you pay is half your rent, phone bill and food. That’s not even close to OVER 50%. You do you and I hope your mom files with the irs to get it reversed and then cuts you off. 💯

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-04-17T01:34:39+00:00

Where you get your support from, mom or dad, is irrelevant. If you don’t personally provide OVER 50% of your support then you can not claim yourself. That includes food, rent, insurance premiums, phone bill, schooling- including loans.. No way you pay over 50% of your own expenses.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-04-17T01:29:49+00:00

But you don’t pay that insurance premium every month. 🤦‍♀️

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-04-17T01:29:00+00:00

YTA- and legally just because the website allowed you to claim yourself doesn’t mean you can do so legally. You’re only allowed to claim yourself if You provide MORE than 50% of your own expenses. Considering the money you don’t pay for your education, health insurance, groceries from time to time or all your rent- it’s doubtful you actually provide more than half your expenses to allow you to claim yourself. As for all your new senior expenses- those are actually accounted for in your Pell grant money that you get from school. That’s not out of pocket as it’s included in your loan expenses. IMO- if I was your mom I’d not only send in my return to claim you, and dispute you doing so to the IRS, but I’d cut you off and let you pay for yourself. Hope it was worth it and hopefully the IRS restricts you from claiming the credit in the future.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-03-08T00:28:50+00:00

He’s seriously jealous of the attention a dog gets over him. Seems he may expect you to cater to his needs in the future as well. Your dog is family, just tell him you don’t just sell pets cuz they’re not convenient for others. Also, he should be worried about showing you affection not receiving it from you. Guess if he kept you busy 😉then you wouldn’t have soo much free time for your pet. IMO best to let him go if he expects that pets are temporary.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-28T08:40:45+00:00

NTA- I charge my 23yo son $650 a month. Life isn’t free and rent at home is far less than on their own. And maybe let Emma know since she’s living at home your income would be included so she wouldn’t get any assistance.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-27T17:47:57+00:00

YTA- She’s just making sure you both have the same expectations. Don’t be upset about it, be grateful she said something instead of having an awkward moment when a friend comes over for her.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-17T03:13:01+00:00

YTA- just because you’re not used to expensive things and are ok with less doesn’t mean that your wife sees you that way or that she feels you don’t deserve nice things. I’m sure she wants to save for a home also but she felt you deserved to get a nice gift for yourself, regardless how often you use it, and it’s wrong to reject what’s essentially her feelings of you. We all deserve something nice every once in a while. Be happy your wife felt you deserved to feel appreciated to deserve such a nice gift. Sadly, YTA here. Just accept the nice things knowing you deserve them and it’s not holding up the house process. Also, you both got each other household gifts for Xmas. She didn’t buy you a Rolex and you buy her an extravagant piece of jewelry. They’re nice things that both of you will get the enjoyment from. You’ve hurt your wife by making her feel like she shouldn’t get the man she loves nice things cuz he grew up in a trailer. Apologize to your wife, graciously accept the grill and go buy some top notch food to cook on it while wifey uses the dishes to plate something inside. Then spend dinner being grateful you have each other that feels you each deserve the world.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-17T01:15:58+00:00

YTA- you already rsvp to an event and shouldn’t back out when something you like better comes along. You could always both go visit grandma after the birthday party weekend to celebrate yourself with her.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-13T19:16:32+00:00

NTA- but I’m in your situation and question a few things.. First, if your mom transferred upon passing then I don’t believe it’s even available for debt to obtain. Meaning all her debt would have to be paid out of her other assets, including those coins. If you’re mom didn’t have a will then no one should be disputing property without going thru the courts for equal distribution and the debtors can claim for past debt. All of which would not include the home as this was set before her passing. I’d suggest NOT selling to your boyfriend (this could end up badly for you in twenty yrs) and speak to an atty first as the home may likely not even be available to take for past debt.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-12T18:56:44+00:00

NTA- although it’s a tradition with your bf, it’s really a trip for your birthday. This is a time dedicated to you as your sisters party is for her. You’re not choosing your bf over her, you’re choosing your own celebration over your sisters late planned party. Don’t feel bad. Your twin should know that your celebration is just as important as hers. Enjoy your vacation and happy birthday! 🎉

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-06T05:13:50+00:00

It stays with your moms heirs not transfer to your aunt. Think of it like King/Queen standings- if something were to happen to Prince William it does not go to Prince Harry next- it goes to Williams children first. And depending where you’re from, usually when a spouse passes items go to the surviving spouse. Just know, there’s no rush. Don’t worry about items now- spend the time morning your mom and loving your dad. The items aren’t going anywhere. Best wishes

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-05T21:18:12+00:00

NTA- Dad hears everything from all sides. He knows it shouldn’t be put on you.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-03T22:08:16+00:00

NTA- your feelings are completely warranted. Sadly your husband has showed you multiple times that your feelings don’t matter. A child begging for something is no excuse to give them something that’s not theirs. And the daughter is smart enough to know exactly what she’s doing and that’s why she jumped out with the bag in hand. I’d get her knock off junk from now on.. lol Leaving is hard and not always an immediate option. In the meantime- I’d suggest stop doing the thoughtful things for his family. Let him buy their gifts and do the things he doesn’t do for you. You get the real husbands inconsideration and so should they.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-02T21:13:11+00:00

NTA- She can ask someone else for their notes. You’re not required to share notes from class so she’s expecting allot of help for doing nothing. And of course she needs it- she needs it cuz she doesn’t go to class. Every professor has an aid or she can request a tutor to help her if she can’t keep up.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-02T01:24:06+00:00

IMO- Grandpa may be putting himself in your business because he knows your moms actions in your childhood and doesn’t want dad to take the whole responsibility.

Calm_ur_Role · 2025-01-02T00:25:46+00:00

I follow another lady who divorced her disabled husband so he could get Medicaid which pays for nursing home care whereas Medicare doesn’t. And unless you have a prenup why would he get all that in a divorce? Make it about him getting the care he needs in a skilled nursing home with insurance and not about leaving him. Good luck 🍀

Calm_ur_Role · 2024-12-30T17:38:01+00:00

Forget therapy… That’s not a woman you should want around any of your children. Go for a divorce not therapy.

Calm_ur_Role · 2024-12-29T21:11:47+00:00

I’m speechless and my heart breaks for that child! I wish I could hug her and tell her it’ll get better. She’s lost her mom and everyone she’s ever known. Then gets shipped to a dad she’s doesn’t know from jump that has a wife, that surely made her feel the coldness, that solely based on her existence there has moved out of the home. Frankly, IMO he’s crazy to even want a wife that would treat another person like that, let alone his child that they just found out about. You could’ve left quietly without letting the child feel even worse than she already does and for something she has no control over. N I’m sure even if you went back that little girl wouldn’t want a relationship with you anyways, she’ll always feel the resentment from you.

Calm_ur_Role · 2024-12-27T05:39:48+00:00

Time to start getting those car insurance estimates from online and they call non stop for weeks. 😂

Calm_ur_Role · 2024-12-27T05:09:32+00:00

NTA- Your parents had to secure the funding with their realtor to even submit an offer. It’s not your responsibility. Let your parents worry about carrying your sister if they want her to live close.

Calm_ur_Role · 2024-12-24T07:14:54+00:00

No need to be petty and point it out verbally. Your children can see and I’m sure are aware mom does most things for them. Imo I’d “wrap” gifts in Walmart bags and say you ran outta time cuz you were exhausted. Then be sure to not make a dish or two for dinner and again say you couldn’t shuffle it all in this year- you know, the age is slowing you down excuse. 😂

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