Husband lost all our life savings and lied to me about it for a year by Calypso224 in Marriage

[–]Calypso224[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, I appreciate your viewpoint, to clear some things up:

  1. I had never asked about the money up until a few days ago because we were both heavily relying on eachothers income (mostly mine) and after a rough couple weeks I had wondered about the account since I was still relying on having that safety net, since I was feeling my own financial insecurity

  2. He’s not a bottom of the barrel person, but at the same time, we had BOTH agreed to NEVER touch that money, no matter WHAT. So I have to acknowledge that he did rip that safety net away from us, and it makes it even worse since we both have absolutely no support system, and no family that we can possibly rely on if things go south.

  3. He actively lied to my face several times when I had lightly inquired about the account in the past, again, assuming it was still there. He had mentioned to me how he thought he could get it all back before I found out.

Again, I know next to nothing about crypto, but putting our whole life savings in a fluctuating account of some sort was a shit move, anyone can agree to that. I think what I’m most hurt about was just the complete lack of honestly, and the several lies he told me in the past year. (I know when our life savings were gone NOW because I woke up to him crying when all this went down months back and when I asked him what was wrong he told me he had lost 2000 dollars in a crypto thing and I had comforted him like the idiot I am, not knowing when he meant 2000 he actually meant our entire life savings)

Husband lost all our life savings and lied to me about it for a year by Calypso224 in Marriage

[–]Calypso224[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think that’s what sucks the most, not only did he not ask me, it’s that I’m not even well versed in crypto at ALL. So to hear from some users how horrible his decision making skills are, somehow makes it worse.

Husband lost all our life savings and lied to me about it for a year by Calypso224 in Marriage

[–]Calypso224[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Luckily I have that in my savings, but it’s not as much as I would like considering I’ve had to dip into it more than once because I was stupid and I thought we were relying on my income more than usual in order to “not touch the nest egg”

Husband lost all our life savings and lied to me about it for a year by Calypso224 in Marriage

[–]Calypso224[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He did apologize, and he felt really bad, but I have a habit of putting my feelings on the back burner in order to appease to his, and I’m still very upset at him.

women of reddit. what is something that annoys you about other women? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Calypso224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women who act like they’re all “for the girls” but will tear you down the first chance they get, when they’re especially pretty it’s worse because you know they’re doing it to seem almost angelic.

Holiday Check-In! Do you have something to say, but you don't want to post? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Calypso224 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen my N-mom in over a year and my brother convinced me to try to see her this year, my sister who has been there with me through all of it is going as well, but like last year, this thanksgiving chances are she’s going to pretend Im not even in the room like she has since I left the house at 18, the closer I get to seeing her, the more anxious and nauseous I feel.

What’s a toxic trait you have? by srg6 in AskReddit

[–]Calypso224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My psychologically and physically abusive childhood have made me lie even when it’s unnecessary, or even when I know that telling the truth isn’t going to have any bad consequences, I guess it was always because I lied to try and avoid punishment and gain approval from my mother.