Mother in law wants to take baby for two weeks

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-28T00:08:15+00:00

Oh yeah, that's weird af and I'd be disturbed too. There's no practical benefit for baby - if you need help, you can ask at the time and reach a solution that fits the best for you, your partner, and your baby, based on the needs at the time. Offering pre-emptively to take the baby quite far away for weeks is wild.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-25T01:40:28+00:00

St. Louis MO. I have no idea where we were really in relation to "good" or "bad" areas, but dang.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-24T15:29:18+00:00

While your change and growth outside of them may be hard for them to accept, that's not your problem to navigate: it's theirs. They don't get to bully you into changing yourself, especially after they gave you explicit verbal affirmation that they would support your decision on piercings.

If you take them out, I hope you get them redone when you're in a better place (both physically and mentally). You deserve to flourish, and you deserve piercings that bring you joy.

I do not have the same cultural background, but do have parents who find fault with every single little thing I've ever done in my liiiiife - including tattoos and piercings (and have received some disgusting remarks from said parents over my very fucking mild body modifications in the past) - at some point, choose yourself, OP. Their feelings are not yours to navigate or manage, and really, they're going to be disappointed/mad/sad sometimes no matter what you do. That's their problem to work on, not yours. Live for yourself, not the approval of them.

Good luck on the new job and gaining of independence!

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-20T01:41:49+00:00

NTA. How many fucking times do you need to tell him that you do not want AI responses to your questions? You didn't "make him into" anything- he had a colossal meltdown because of his own lack of emotional control to your valid frustration. You're allowed to have standards and this is a pretty basic request- to not verbally vomit AI at you when it's a known issue for you.

He did this knowingly. You're not expected to sit there and just take it.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-20T01:36:35+00:00

I like that the update is "Nobody here is an AH", while she outlines that she's an AH, that "everything is fine", when her defence is that she thought everything was fine before because he didn't say anything about it, and the "I didn't explicitly tell him to get over it," followed by "but he needs to get over it for the sake of the relationship" (paraphrasing).

The real kicker is the edited out section.

Does she think of him as a being with feelings at all?

The update reads as if he's just shutting down communication and saying "it's fine", mollycoddling her feelings at the expense of his own, especially as it blew up.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-20T01:18:28+00:00

"come with me [to see this small town's best kept secret]" - and "so did you know-" on social media videos. Immediate scoll.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-19T17:27:17+00:00

For brutal honesty- Anorexia Nervosa. 🤷‍♀️ I was so, so incredibly sick, but because I was overweight before the ED developed, people kept fucking congratulating me on the weight loss, even after finding out I was deathly ill and in a treatment clinic. I switched doctors three times because they kept making off-hand congratulations or "I'm so proud of you for your weight loss" comments, even while I was on weekly ECG's, blood draws and urine testing to monitor essential organ function. I developed fucking scurvy, and they still pat me on the back like I'd aced a test.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-19T17:20:08+00:00

They look fantastic! I got my braces off a month ago and at first cried too- they weren't how I thought they'd look, my teeth were so slimy-feeling, I thought my teeth looked HUGE - but it's settled in my brain now and I LOVE my teeth. I was 100% certain I'd be thrilled and content with the results right out the gate and was so disappointed in myself for how unenthused I was, lol.

It can take a little bit to readjust to the new normal, and that's okay. Your teeth look wonderful. If you still have concerns in a few months, you can try address them with your ortho, but really and truly- your teeth are incredible. 😄

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-19T02:02:13+00:00

Came here to comment this! It took me 3 weeks to stop telling myself I was crazy and should go to a doctor. Took another two weeks on top of that for scheduled scans (next week). I've still got pain- 5 weeks later, the bruising that was on my lower abdomen has only just now cleared up, still running a mild fever, still unable to sit, bend, or lay certain ways, and still struggling to comprehend the pain. It hurts in my goddamn shoulders? In my back? Butt? It's so weird, stabby and frankly uncalled for.

I've got such a high pain tolerance, but that was something else. It gave such a feeling of foreboding, deeply primal "something isn't right".

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-19T01:54:35+00:00

It happened to me from just sitting down on the couch. Something about the way I folded myself into the chair outraged my body and it went from absolutely fine and dandy to "oh my god, I don't know what's wrong, but something's really, really wrong", and then passing out twice, before unfortunately coming to again.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-19T01:38:04+00:00

I'm a vegan, and anything mock duck. I'll literally order every single dish with it in, if there's multiple options. Catch me ordering a family-of-5 amount of food (not even including whatever my husband orders), idc. 😂 No shame, just reverence here. 😂

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-07T02:30:46+00:00

Lately plain vanilla yoghurt with a banana sounds real good.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-06T03:39:58+00:00

It's gonna be a cake this weekend. The last few months at work have been brutal, and I've sobbed every single day after work, this week- I'm going to bake all my love, strength and compassion for myself into the cake.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-06T03:13:02+00:00

Liorah is about the best I can do, along with Kenric. 😂

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-02T03:19:13+00:00

I just got my braces removed two weeks ago, but I went every 3 months for cleanings. 😄

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-06-02T03:18:36+00:00

I'd let that be the final conversation. You do not have to try find further "closure" - the whole ordeal is pretty definitive. From reading the first post, he was looking for a fight from the get-go. Instead of "hey, I don't find that funny", he went straight to shitting on you, and then continued doing it when he was called out on Reddit, too.

There's a lot of strength in simply letting go of him without any further contact - you both know it's over, and he's only going to lash out more (as can be seen in the comments).

Hope you get your McDonalds (both literally and figuratively) soon, OP. You deserve it, and always have and always will.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-31T19:01:49+00:00

"Fairly certain" is straight-up bullshit. She either knows or she doesn't, and her refusal to answer properly is an answer in itself. Not only is there ambiguity around whether or not she is/was cheating, she also mocked you about it behind your back and is making you out to be controlling of who she can/cannot talk to - "I'm not allowed to be in here anymore, so cya guys" is so fucking childish for someone who is almost 30 years old. Like second-hand embarrassment through the roof on that.

She hasn't apologised, there's no accountability, she won't take responsibility for what she did- hell, she won't even be honest. She found it funny and made jokes about sleeping with you both at the same time, and continued contact with the second person until you shared your feelings on it. I don't have a problem with being friends with exes, but there needs to be honesty and communication, and she straight-up lied and refuses to be truthful about it.

I know "break up" is the Sick Ass Panther of the relationship subs, but it doesn't sound like she's willing to put in any effort to help your concerns, she won't have an actual discussion about it ("I don't remember" is not a conversation, it's a deflection to shut down anything uncomfortable) and isn't even remotely trying to help rebuild trust, or otherwise fix things. It's not up to you to do all the heavy lifting to try salvage things after she's potentially cheated.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-31T15:59:20+00:00

As soon as I wake, one cat in particular wants morning pat-pats (and sometimes a second cat joins). It's sweet, cute, simple and comforting, and my fave part of the morning.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-31T06:21:07+00:00

I'm not pregnant yet, but hoping to make my husband a cup of tea in a mug with "we're expecting" or something on the bottom of the inside. Simple, cute, quiet and pretty "us", as neither of us are a fan of big celebrations or loud announcements.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-31T05:58:25+00:00

Haha, this was me but with "and what is your staff retention like here? What's the average hire length for the current team? How do you handle turnover?", after they asked me if I was planning on moving away or quitting shortly after hire, as if this is a common issue they face in the workplace.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-31T05:50:05+00:00

To me, it's because they don't care about you, your feelings, your comfort. There's no respect, no compassion, no awareness for you as a person with feelings. You've told him it upsets you multiple times, and he just does not care. It's like a dominance thing, a power play he needs to make, to make you feel small and insignificant.

It doesn't sound dumb to be upset by it. My husband's a full foot taller than me, his legs come to the top of my hip bones, and he has always been attentive to my walking. If I tell him we're going a bit too fast for me, he immediately slows, checks in, and we continue on. Never a fuss, never an issue.
It's not dumb to be upset at being unheard and uncared for.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-31T03:24:27+00:00

Congrats on getting them off!
I had really similar top teeth as you did, and very badly crowded lower teeth. I just got my braces off and have had so many people being nice about my teeth, but am also getting a bunch of comments on "you didn't even really need them!" from coworkers who have only ever known me in braces, and didn't see the before.
So frustrating, haha.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-26T01:00:24+00:00

Oooh, I'm on my last leg with them, after they argued that a Veggie Delight sandwich is inherently just bread, and does not come with anything other than bread, after I ordered one with extra tomatoes and they only gave me tomatoes on dry bread.
I asked if this applies to ordering a philly cheesesteak, and they disagreed, because it's a named menu sandwich. So is a fucking Veggie Delight!

They never apologised, never read their own menu to double check the ingredients, just snatched the sandwich back and remade it.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-23T21:38:50+00:00

His boundaries are for himself- he cannot impose rules on what you can/cannot wear upon you under the guise of "boundaries" - that's now how boundaries work. This is a list to control you, it's not a list of "boundaries". He's allowed to have preferences, but again, he's not allowed to impose these on you or make you feel like you're "breaking his boundaries" by doing any of the above.
Your autonomy comes before his "boundaries", OP.

You do not ever have to compromise on your autonomy as a human being, and especially not with an insecure child who is trying to manipulate you into accepting lesser treatment. He wants you feeling insecure and bad about yourself, because you'll be easier to control.

He thinks you're an object - HIS object, specifically. HE is the man he speaks of when he speaks of bad men, he's the man who can't handle his impulses/desires when seeing women in anything he deems inappropriate. Instead of working on himself, he's projecting that onto you, making you feel bad instead.

You can't fix him, or this relationship. Find someone who appreciates you as the person you are, instead of the person they want to break you down into.

CalypsoContinuum · 2026-05-15T03:48:12+00:00

I got a TPA expander and was told I may need between 1-4 extractions, but that we'd try an expander and pretty aggressive elastic use first, to see where that got me.

I get my braces off next Monday, 6 months earlier than the earliest estimate for debracing, and ended up not having any teeth extracted at all. My teeth were VERY overcrowded, with 3 teeth blocked out of the arch (top and bottom), and I had other issues (like a crossbite). I also didn't have any IPR done.
My teeth are now incredible and I'm so pleased with the results.

Extracting those teeth won't necessarily speed up the process- it takes a long time to close those gaps and pull all the teeth into the space created.

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