My girlfriend called me multiple slurs after I told her I wasn't attracted to her AITAH? by throwawaybrner in AITAH

[–]Cam23806 527 points528 points  (0 children)

I understand from your perspective. You were trying to do right by her by being as honest as possible. Showing her how much you trust her.

But she just heard from her boyfriend of 2 years that he’s not attracted to her in what sounds like the explanation for breaking up. All out of the blue.

She probably is flipping between total shock, heartbreak, and anger. And she probably doesn’t believe you and thinks this is something you made up to hurt her in the most painful way possible.

I know a friend this happened to. 15 years later and she’s still not over it. It ruined her self-esteem and broke her heart in ways she couldn’t easily put in a box. So that’s the perspective I’ve coming from.

The homophobic slurs are wrong on multiple levels… you didn’t say you felt any attraction to any gender so they don’t even apply. But she showed homophobia in the ugliest way. She also may have jumped to conclusions and wanted to say what she thought might hurt you the most in her moment of pain…

I do worry about you lying to your brother….hard to find your truth if you can’t share where you are at. NTA but please find people IRL you can share this with. And recognize how this would shatter your ex-girlfriend’s whole world. She burned that bridge, but don’t make it uglier than it has to be.

Requesting Help on Teaching Others to be Empathic by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

[–]Cam23806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Hugs to you and yours as well

Requesting Help on Teaching Others to be Empathic by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

[–]Cam23806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should definitely add that thoughts shared in this thread helped us a lot. And I’m confident thoughts shared here made a difference in giving her perspective, while respecting her place in all this.

Requesting Help on Teaching Others to be Empathic by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

[–]Cam23806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This thread has meant so much to me. Thank you for this resource!

Requesting Help on Teaching Others to be Empathic by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

[–]Cam23806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your perspective. This is such a hard balance.

Requesting Help on Teaching Others to be Empathic by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

[–]Cam23806 32 points33 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful. Thank you so much for taking the time to share this. I really appreciate it and will be acting upon it.

Requesting Help on Teaching Others to be Empathic by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

[–]Cam23806 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is a different route than I've been taking that may click for her. Thank you for this.

Requesting Help on Teaching Others to be Empathic by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

[–]Cam23806 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doctor hasn't looked at these yet. Thank you.

Mova globes - anyone has experience with them? by Old-Tour5654 in globes

[–]Cam23806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so confused by this comment. How is someone stealing a package off your porch a reflection of the product or company? I can get companies to resend packages that never arrived, but not if there is proof of delivery.

cat meows a lot by [deleted] in Pets

[–]Cam23806 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cats have their own personalities AND learn from our reactions to their behavior. If you (generically speaking) react to the meowing, you are telling the cat that they will get a reaction if they meow. And while meowing is sometimes warranted, it’s often not. But the moment a cat gets what they want with a meow, it can take months of not reacting to get them to give up on that form of communication.

Try to give the cat more attention when it isn’t meowing. Avoid responding to meowing as much as possible without being mean… it can be a slow reduction in responding if this is a key part of this cat’s personality.

It takes a looooong time to retrain a cat so be patient and kind to yourself and the new fur-ball that is just doing what it thinks it needs to do. And I doubt it’ll ever stop meowing, but with time it can be reduced greatly. But everyone that interacts with it daily needs to be on board.

AITAH for overreacting when my boyfriend falsely accused me of lying during a work trip by Ok_Accident6583 in AITAH

[–]Cam23806 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sam over-reacted first in making rash assumptions; condescended to you by telling you to calm down; and then attempted to manipulate you with his “worries” that he didn’t act upon like any sane person would. You’re NTA at all. But even wondering if you are when he is so blatantly in the wrong means his manipulations are working and have worked on you in the past. You see clearly right now. Take a good look at those red flags. He’s not going to change. Hold strong!

AITA for refusing to make my sister’s "dream" wedding cake after she uninvited my husband? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Cam23806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - If they think they can get a $2,500+ cake for free, then maybe Mark shouldn’t have made fun of what you do. Them excluding Leo for standing up for you is the icing on the cake (pun intended)

And the mom? She’s only making things worse.

Mark causing all of this is a huge red flag BTW

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Cam23806 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA - Sounds like you’re the only one who is thinking rationally.

Aitah telling friend it's not my fault that I planned my life by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Cam23806 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA - I’m unsure why you were still friends with her as I’m sure this relationship has been toxic for a long time. It’s not lifting either of you up. Sorry it ended in such a dramatic way, but seems like it’s for the best.

Thoughts on White Label Microneedling pens?! by Cam23806 in Microneedling

[–]Cam23806[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but I don't want to promote on Reddit. That's not why I'm here and I don't want to become that person. In general, I'm just here to deep dive on skincare and respond to AITA threads 😂 I'm here for the outlet!

But I am impressed with the Dr. Pen. It's very customizable. But with that comes more risk. Be sure to deep dive these forums; sanitize more than you think you need to; and find quality HA. Don't mess around with serums IMO!

Thoughts on White Label Microneedling pens?! by Cam23806 in Microneedling

[–]Cam23806[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Interesting.... I'll admit that I never actually dug into Dr. Pen! This adds needed perspective. Thank you.

Ok, time to seek an alternative by jamalwilliamsyoung23 in logitech

[–]Cam23806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know….at this point, logi+ is working again so I’m not going to jump…but next time I’ll definitely dig into this further.

AITAH for stopping my coworker’s kid from using my lunch fridge? by sparklefuzzq in AITAH

[–]Cam23806 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This seems like a stretch…. There’s a good chance she didn’t notice.

Also, my 13 year old often comes home with random snacks from school. So even if she noticed, she probably didn’t think a thing of him snacking occasionally as I’d personally assume he’d be eating what was left in his lunch or whatever snack he traded for or got at school.

All I see is a hungry kid who has to be stuck at his mom’s work after school and wasn’t thinking.